Feeling Stuck: Before Completion

[marien]

Hello. How wonderful to discover this place. I've been practicing the I Ching on my lonesome for many years; it's amazing to find such a community. I'm especially grateful for the "memorizing threads" (goldmines of insight); I only wish they didn't stop in the forties!

I'm in one of those phases where I'm getting too obsessive in my questioning, and starting to lose clarity. Can anyone help? My question concerns a potential relationship, which brings up a lot of old fears and baggage which I don't feel capable of dealing with. 64 has come up several times, both on its own and as primary and relating hexs. I've always understood it in the past, but now it scares me (don't want to fall into the ice).

Here's what I've had: 64, 64.1.3 (14), 64.2.3 (56), 34.1.3.6 (64)

Also thrown in the mix were 52.5 (53), 11.2 (36), 31.1.6 (13), and 26.3.5 (61)

Any interpretations would be much appreciated!

 

[willowfox]

Was there any specific question that you had in mind? Surely, 8 different answers is a bit excessive if they all relate to one question and also, they do not clarify your situation, only muddy it.

 

[marien]

Was there any specific question that you had in mind? Surely, 8 different answers is a bit excessive if they all relate to one question and also, they do not clarify your situation, only muddy it.

Yes, excessive, though I should have specified the process. These were asked over the past few weeks, since I first met him.

What is the "truth" of this situation? 52.2 (53)
Later: What is the potential for a relationship? 64
Asked for elaboration on 64: 64.2.3 (56)
Considered my behavior, what to do: 64: 1.3 (14)
After hearing from him again: asked about his intentions: 31.1.6 (13)
Asked for advice: 11.2 (36)
In response to 36, asked about my past, my fears: 26.3.5 (61)
Asked if he would be good for me 34.1.3.6 (64)

Most of it looks much clearer now that I've typed it out; still feeling blocked about the danger references though.

 

[willowfox]

What is the "truth" of this situation? 52.2 (53) Basically there seems to be nothing that you can do at the moment, just let whatever is fated to happen happen.

Later: What is the potential for a relationship? 64 There is a potential but it is warning you to go about this whole thing very carefully, one slip and its over, so think carefully about how you are going to succeed.

Asked for advice: 11.2 (36) Keep your eye on the goal, and keep going but don't show him what your desires really are, be patient and keep hoping your a successful resolution.

 

[marien]

Thanks so much, Willowfox. This helps me get perspective. I'm finding that this new situation is challenging me to see things in different ways. My reaction to certain hexs had become sort of stagnant, and now I'm opening up to new interpretations and possibilities for growth. This is especially true for 64 and 36 (which used to scare the daylights out of me!). Time for me to let go of outcomes, and focus more on the internal process.

 

[bamboo]

seems with all the 64s , the potential for this relationship is still to be seen. I have never seen 64 as a negative hex, just as "not there yet".....more to come. Also your response to the question about your past is hopeful. You have built up a lot of good energy that will serve you well. good luck!

 

[marien]

Thank you, Bamboo. About that last part, I hope you're right. This is what I'm trying to work on, regardless of this particular relationship. (The person in question is out of the country, and I won't see him again until next week). Meanwhile, I'm trying to get a handle on my own issues so that I may grow from this, whatever happens. I've had a pattern of unhappy relationships resulting from childhood trauma. As much as I'm consciously aware of what's going on, I still can't seem to change this. So I asked the following:

How is this potential relationship similar to the others? 47.2 > 45

How is it different? 61.1.3.4.5 > 50.

I think I get the first answer; it's very similar. Lots of projection, losing myself over something unreal. The second answer is harder for me to understand. I'd like to find my inner center, and transform the problem- but how? It's also tricky with so many moving lines. If anyone has insight, I'd be so grateful!