Final chance/Help!

[cnmn]

I have been so grateful for your insights that have been so helpful and accurate, Willopop, Tiger, Hillary and others!! My son (again) has to take a standard writing exam which he has failed twice before in a month and a half, in order to stay in the college. If he fails this time, he is out of the college. (even though he received A's in his classes and research papers last term!) He is as I have said severely dyslexic, bipolar, and he is receiving tutoring for this exam. I received Hexagram 9 unchanging to my query, will he pass this test/what does he need to know or do to pass it. He almost passed last semester, received a score of 6 out of 7(7 passes), a big improvement from the first time he tried when he scored a 1! This has been a hard long road for all of us with a son who refuses to give up. This time though, these new rules may force him out of college if he cannot get a passing grade. I understand gentleness and perseverance are part of this hexagram but I cannot understand the basic core of what is going o here. I would so love and appreciate any help while we still have time to work on preparing. Love, Peace, CNMN

 

[cnmn]

I also just asked , "what if my son practices at least 3 practice writing exams each week until May 10th, the date of the writing test, in addition to the tutoring?"I received Hexagram 10 unchanging...which seemed to indicate success in passing ...Just barely? CNMN

 

[youngmaid]

Hi Cnmn,

I'm no expert, but hexagram 10 is quite familiar to me and I hope to help. In it's unchanging form it indicates to me that those practice exams are his ticket to passing. If he doesn't prepare hardcore, he's going to tread too hard on the tiger's tail and the tiger is going to bite his head off.

"Heaven above, the lake below:
The image of Treading.
Thus the superior man discriminates between high and low,
And thereby fortifies the thinking of the people."

Fortifying his thinking by practicing and tutoring sounds like he'll definitely get by. The situation is risky, but he definitely has a better chance if he does this preparation.

 

[patro]

hi,
I hope to help you by understanding this hex.
Wilhelm saw about 9 when it's unchanging:
It seems as if the situation were blocked by a small but permanent impediment.
from out you can make nothing... to solve the problem your son must act from the inner of hes self.
find out what are his necessities and what is that make him refuses to give up.
probably the problem is the wrong way to help him.... for examples wrong tutor....etc
this is the right way to understand what's gone wrong in the past.
Patro

don't worry for my bad English....

 

[willowfox]

I received Hexagram 9 unchanging to my query, will he pass this test/what does he need to know or do to pass it.

He needs to go over the knowledge that he does know, practice his writing and continue to do so as there is nothing new to learn, to hone his skills.

Now the text says that he has the potential to past if he keeps practicing between now and May, he just needs to make this writing thing second nature.

 

[willowfox]

I also just asked , "what if my son practices at least 3 practice writing exams each week until May 10th,

I have already said in my other answer that this is what he needs to do, this is where he needs to concentrate his efforts, through continual practice. Much like learning to drive a car.

 

[patro]

hi again,
hex 10 unchanged... means that you are close to taking advice from other, you are not in right and you are looking in the wrong direction to solve the problem of your son.
also in this case it is consequential to hex 9... because you not take in consideration the meaning of 9 when unchanging.
why do you not ask the IC: what do my son need to pass the test?
Patro

 

[willowfox]

you are not in right and you are looking in the wrong direction to solve the problem of your son.

Personally I don't see that her son has a multitude of options when it comes to passing an exam, it's basically down to whether he knows the answers or he doesn't. And the only way to know the answers to to study and practice which is what "cnnm" already has in mind, and I agree with, as does the IC.

So what other direction is there to look in? Bribing the examiner perhaps? Buying the answers off the internet(that's if they have them)?

 

[patro]

So what other direction is there to look in? Bribing the examiner perhaps? Buying the answers off the internet(that's if they have them)?

not a bad idea...
do you have ever read a book that have separate answer for unchanging hex?
I know only one book that has it...if you know more than one.... so please give me the title.
Joking aside... what I can see is that CNMN is very apprehensive and as I read she take any decision for her son. this can cause more problem than there are. the son probably may feel under pressure, marked closely, always questioned. It must be not a nice situation for him... and probably she does not listen to the necessity of her son.

"Personally I don't see that her son has a multitude of options when it comes to passing an exam....."
you are right but
"He is as I have said severely dyslexic, bipolar, and he is receiving tutoring for this exam"
a wrong approach can cause many problems.

about hex 9&10 and it's meaning when unchanging... you can trust what I wrote.
the best is that she ask again the IC.. something like this:
what do my son need to pass the test?
Patro

 

[tigerintheboat]

Multi-Part Question

I received Hexagram 9 unchanging to my query, will he pass this test/what does he need to know or do to pass it.

The multi-part question is harder to interpret, but H9 alone would seem to indicate the hard work of the farmer, but no real crop yield yet. From the WikiWing:

"Small restraint: no rain yet, no achievement yet, not quite there yet. That can be very frustrating – but as prediction, this suggests a small temporary setback rather than total derailment.

Small accumulating: developing readiness and fitness in the same way a farmer works the soil, gradually improving its structure so it becomes more fertile from year to year."

I would consider asking the "what does he need to know or do to pass it" question as a separate question.

The fact that you got the two unchanging hexagrams indicate (to me) that the nature of the problem is static. As I believe I might have said in an earlier post, the path through academia is not the only path for your son, and might not be the right one.

Off topic: Have you tried any natural therapies for your son's bipolar problem? Higher than normal amounts of Vitamin C and Omega-3 oils, as two examples. This is not for the dyslexia, but perhaps supplements could make it easier for him to attend to schoolwork and studies?

Tiger

 

[cnmn]

All of these replies are immensely helpful... He will be practicing his tests in preparation...so it is like driving a car Willowfox...THAT has worked for him in the past with hard subjects and I hope will work now. He takes fish oil, and this has helped with his ability to concentrate ... Vitamin C? He has all A averages in his music courses, a 3.3 average overall...and today got a 99 in his ethnomusicology midterm, but has not been able to pass this English test. He is dyslexic so I believe that is his "permanent condition"...in addition to his being bipolar. He is trying to get his BFA in music so he can teach music as well as performing in order to make a living. Tiger...your reference to the two static hexagrams make sense to me...and as a performer he doesn't have to go through the academic route. As a teacher he does. Is this the universe trying to tell him he should just try to go out there and perform? I am his parent and want him to have a degree...so he can have some choices..but you do have a point. I have intensively read all your responses...I asked another question: What should he do to pass this exam. I received: Hexagram 9, 4th line and 6th line divided. The divided lines don't make sense to me.

 

[willowfox]

I asked another question: What should he do to pass this exam. I received: Hexagram 9, 4th line and 6th line divided.

I agree that adding extra supplements to his diet is beneficial, the old saying, a healthy body makes for a healthy mind", or some such.

Hex 9 promises the potential for a successful outcome, but you need to water the crops in order for them to grow.

Line 9.4 Remove his fear of failure.

Line 9.6 This suggests that he has reached a peak in his absorption of knowledge so he should not try to study more and more, he should just concentrate on what he has learnt to date and refine it by practice and more practice. Sometimes it is not the lack of knowledge that causes one to fail an exam, but the fear of the exam itself. I know from experience, I knew my subjects inside out but sitting in the exam hall used to cause me to panic, kind of like waiting for an injection.

So, if he has any weak points then he needs to zero in on those any not try to hide away from them.

 

[tigerintheboat]

Supplements

He takes fish oil, and this has helped with his ability to concentrate ... Vitamin C?

Take a look at the info in this link...Two of my personal favorite supplements are 5-HTP and Vitamin C. I take both regularly. Both might be useful in your son's case. There is no harm that can come from higher doses of Vitamin C, and 5-HTP is usually well tolerated. Start with a small 50MG dose.

Bipolar Disorder, Vitamn Supplementation

5-HTP is mentioned under the the L-Tryptophan section of the article, and is referred to as 5HT. It is widely available.

Tiger

 

[patro]

...I asked another question: What should he do to pass this exam. I received: Hexagram 9, 4th line and 6th line divided. The divided lines don't make sense to me.

well,
as you see you obtain again hex 9 but this time changing.....
the situation can be change.... you change your point of view about...

line 4: you must not force the situation

line 6: the situation have reached the equilibrium, now it must be kept. trouble would come if you try to obtain more by forcing the situation.

as tigerintheboat saw.... I point you to give your son some integrator... but only some of which you are just sure not giving him intolerance problems.

Patro

 

[cnmn]

Tiger...absolutely brilliant links...I am so grateful to you...these are invaluable for bipolar issues...still researching. Willowfox...love that image of watering the crops and my son finds it easier to imagine that as he is studying we both like it! Patro...very helpful about the changing lines and don't worry I understand your English just fine! Very grateful and really feel as though we have a very clear image of what to do now. Thank you so much all for your patience, work and time here!!!...peace,love, cnmn

 

[cnmn]

Willowfox...Just a note to say that comment about fear of the exam is so much a part of the solution for my son not to fear and also not to cram more into his already crammed head...that the knowledge he has is sufficient...I am truly grateful for these insights which clearly delineate the path to walk upon... I am also less lonely about helping my special needs(no matter how gifted, always with severe special needs)child. Sometimes it is a lonely road that few parents understand except parents of other special needs children...so your insights were ever so important and healing for this situation!!! !!! Love, Peace, CNMN