Flirts then ignore, what is going on?

[tien]

Ok. There is this person that I'm interested in, we know each other for while, but about 2 weeks ago, he began to really flirt. I'm okay with it, because I'm interested. Then out of the blue, he is starting to distant himself.

I asked yesterday what is going on? Iching said. 31.6 > 33.

Then I asked for advice today, because he still acting weird even though I made an effort to be very nice.

42.3.4 > 13.

Any advice would help!

Many Thanks!:bows:

 

[newlife123]

You got all positive hexes and positive lines. Sometimes when guys fall in love they get all weird and act like girls. hex 13 says you guys will hook up.

 

[tien]

Thanks Newlife123, that is a good news. Any specific advice from the ichinh? Doing nothing? Be more flirty, ignore him...or should I just let him approach me going forward? Thank you!

 

[newlife123]

I Ching says you have already done more than enough to win his heart. To the point that now you can even come up and spit in his face and he will love you more. 42.3.4 say that he respects and honors you and not hooking up with you is driving him more nuts than you. He is the guy so let him do the work like it should be.

 

[meng]

Flirting is flirting, as 31.6 depicts. He's retreated from that.

If you wish to start something more with him (increased fellowship), then have at it, but don't read too much into the first encounter.

Here's a question for you. How would you feel about his innate flirty nature if you were 6 months pregnant with his child, and his flirtations were not directed toward you?

13 is a good place to start a relationship, or just maintain one. Just be yourself. Let him do the same.

 

[tien]

Hi Meng,
That is a good point, that would not be fun. However, I have been observing him for awhile as friends, he is not the flirty type, so that why I was surprised that he was starting to flirt with me hard core, then now it's nothing.

Will see what will happen I guess. Many thanks to both Meng and NewLife 123 for your insights.

If other members want to share their thoughts on this, I would love to hear it. THe more the merrier

 

[newlife123]

Here's a question for you. How would you feel about his innate flirty nature if you were 6 months pregnant with his child, and his flirtations were not directed toward you?

Are you nuts meng? Reading the Hexagrams upside down or something? haha

 

[meng]

Thank you, Tien. I see your point. Might he have been under the influence of a mood altering drug, or perhaps he was intoxicated by you? As for him shutting down, he may be embarrassed by his outward display, but I still get the feeling that the reason behind his flirty behavior was either from being under the influence and wagging his tongue too much. Or, maybe he's intense into what's in front of him: studies, work, other relationships, etc. I'd consider it a minor incident, though apparantly with a significant impact on you.

If you have feelings toward him, unless he's married or engaged to someone else, I see no reason not to contact him, in a 13 kind of way. The only way to be is natural, you can use it as an exercise. The dance of 31 often has great displays, the dancer wears fancy feathers. But that's not the same person as he would be, to you, a few months down the road.

Men and women, both, have a habit of eventually hating the very things that drew them to a person originally. Opposites are wonderful, but then you have to live with them.

 

[newlife123]

tien is Vietnamese girl and the guy is probably the same or at least Asian. The guy probably is inexperienced and found out somewhere that he needs to pay hard to get too. Things are going to work out fine according to her readings. No one can go against the mandate of Heaven.

 

[tien]

This would be interesting to see how it would play out. I will give you a report what happen or not happen down the road. I will considered this as seeing the meaning of iching play out in action. .

Meng -He is single, I'm pretty sure. I will work on the 13.

NewLife123 - yes, I'm asian but not vietnamese, and he is not asian, but he works a lot with international clients.

Many Thanks to youguys

 

[newlife123]

Oh, that changes things then. The reading I gave wont be quite accurate. You will be OK though.

 

[tien]

Hmmmm... How would mine or his ethnicity changes things though? I don't understand:-/

 

[meng]

While initially, one would think ethnicity has nothing whatsoever to do with Yi's answer, there is the idea that some hold, that Yi speaks to the individual with all their individual idiosyncrasies. If this notion is true, then ones cultural background is part of who we as individuals are, and thus the Yi would take ones culture's way of thinking and behaving into consideration. That would apply to the teacher as well as the student.

Then there are some who would see Yi's answer as transcending such things.

Who is right?

 

[meng]

Khan says all us dumb hillbilly rednecks look alike.

 

[newlife123]

The guy in the picture is obviously Chinese. He looks like a skinny Mao.
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According to her readings, things will work out for her. She might not get this white guy but then she will get a different one soon and it seems like she isn't aware of him yet or maybe she will be if she reads this. The Ching takes everything into account even through it can't articulate it well. There are more and more Oriental women going with Caucasian men every day so I have confidence tien will land one in no time.

 

[meng]

Kahn was created into the series as Vietnamese, with his wife and daughter, whom he named Khan Jr.

Hank Hill is the leading redneck along with his neighbors and friends he grew up with in Texas.

 

[meng]

According to her readings, things will work out for her. She might not get this white guy but then she will get a different one soon and it seems like she isn't aware of him yet or maybe she will be if she reads this. The Ching takes everything into account even through it can't articulate it well. There are more and more Oriental women going with Caucasian men every day so I have confidence tien will land one in no time.

Though I don't make predictions, your scenario doesn't sound unreasonable.

 

[meng]

Seems white guys are chasing Asian chicks, who are chasing black guys, who are chasing blond white chicks. As long as we're stereotyping, lol.

 

[newlife123]

Kahn was created into the series as Vietnamese, with his wife and daughter, whom he named Khan Jr.

Hank Hill is the leading redneck along with his neighbors and friends he grew up with in Texas.

Khan is too dark to be Japanese. Mushu Cowboy huh?

 

[meng]

Khan is too dark to be Japanese. Mushu Cowboy huh?

Actually, Khan and his family have an obviously higher IQ than the rest, and he enjoys making fun of them in very direct and insulting ways. It's funny if you enjoy satire. Hank is just the proverbial good ole boy with his own somewhat peculiar family.

mmm...Mushu

On the other hand, Hank's father, who lost his lower legs in WWll, still has flash-backs as a POW in the Pacific, which makes him a crazy OLD hillbilly redneck, which is far worse, far, far crazier.

 

[newlife123]

I try not to underestimate the rednecks especially after I saw one die after right after he excitedly said to his friends: "Hey guys watch this!"

 

[meng]

Ah, Khan is funnier. Smarter too.

 

[newlife123]

Hey what show is this from? I don't own a TV but I can still youtube it.

 

[meng]

It's called King of the Hill.

Oh, and I was incorrect. Khan is Laotian.

 

[tien]

So interesting how this turned into a inter-racial dating discussion , then King of the Hill. etc.

To be honest, I really have no preference interm of particular race. It's really depended on the connection. I'm picky about who i have strong feeling for, but I have to say that I have crushes on difference races across the board...and yes, that is also including in the asian guys. My first MAJOR crush was an asian guy, my first seriou bf was half lebanese. So, with having said that, I think race should never limit people from love and being loved. Period. I also think that there is nothing wrong with wanting to stay within your own race either. I think love is beautiful thing and if heaven's will want us to be someone a little different than us, why not? But at the end, we are all unique and different even if we stay within our own race for love.

I think regardless of race, religions, etc. we all want to love and be love in return, and that is the bottom line.

FYI, this guy is Jewish...I guess that is right in the middle of the east and the west, so there, you have it.

Will see how this will unfold. Thank you so much, youguys for a lively discussions. I sure didn't expect it.

 

[newlife123]

If you really, really, really love him.
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Then you just have to keep on loving him.