Frienship-- do i need to move forward?

[tabitha]

My friend and I sometimes discuss how we are both stuck, careerwise.
Although there are some very positive aspects here- a good deal of warmth and shared qualities, I know I need to move ahead careerwise.

I asked the iching- how can I incorporate this into our friendship, and received what i feel is a dismal response: 56- 33. When I asked for clarification, I received 10.

Its true, when I tried to bring up recently what may be holding him back I got a bit stonewalled, and pointed out my own difficulties moving forward, I wonder is the iching letting me know to let this go and withdraw? I sometimes am too literal.

I know this is possible for this friendship- which is important to me. Am I misinterpreting or asking the wrong question.

Sorry for the lengthy post, your input and clarification would be appreciated.

 

[rosada]

Not really sure what you are asking. It sounds like you are saying that you have a friendship going with someone at work and you are feeling your job isn't going anywhere. If that is the case 56 > 33 seems to say you are postponing leaving the job because of this friendship and I guess you are therefore being guided to examine your friendship and consciously decide if it is worth putting your career on hold over.
If that is the case then I think 10 encourages you to ask your friend for clarification as to where this friendship is heading.

 

[tabitha]

Thank you for your reply-

No- this is not a work friendship. It is a good friendship outside of that- one that I have worked hard on- a previous boyfriend, actually. I know its unusual, but we had been through alot together, and our friendship was the most sincere and true. That is why I am checking in- I want our friendship together to be positive.

 

[Trojina]

My friend and I sometimes discuss how we are both stuck, careerwise.
Although there are some very positive aspects here- a good deal of warmth and shared qualities, I know I need to move ahead careerwise.

I asked the iching- how can I incorporate this into our friendship, and received what i feel is a dismal response: 56- 33. When I asked for clarification, I received 10.

Its true, when I tried to bring up recently what may be holding him back I got a bit stonewalled, and pointed out my own difficulties moving forward, I wonder is the iching letting me know to let this go and withdraw? I sometimes am too literal.

I know this is possible for this friendship- which is important to me. Am I misinterpreting or asking the wrong question.

Sorry for the lengthy post, your input and clarification would be appreciated.

incorporate what into the friendship ? The fact that you feel stuck career wise ? Isn't that your issue ? Don't understand question unless you mean you sort of want to coordinate your lives so you only make moves in tandem with the other or with the approval of the other which sounds impossible unless you're siamese twins and maybe not even then. I could see 56.5 may refer to you making some kind of career move, if not a spectacular one. But being friends doesn't mean you have to approve one anothers each and every move does it ?