Help with reading please :)

[ceciliaiching]

Hello there,

I would greatly appreciate any help with a reading I did for myself today.
I asked 'What is the best course of action for me to take in relation to this situation?'- to give you a bit of background, I need to talk to my partner about something that has happened a few months ago which is still affecting me. I don't want to dig up the past but I want to make him aware of the effect of what he did on me. I have thought long and hard about whether I should just let it go, but instinctively I know I have to talk to him and I feel in the longer term it will help us to have addressed this issue. This is a sensitive issue where I know he might react negatively.
I got Hex 22, changing line 2 to Hex 26.
My interpretation: I need to be graceful in bringing up this issue (hex 22) and focus on the heart of the matter (not sugar coat it or touch on it superficially) ...not sure about the changing line though. In relation to Hex 26, again I am not 100% sure but I take it to mean that perhaps I have to wait until the time is right ( we are in the process of 'rebuilding' and nurturing our relationship after a split a few months ago) ...not sure about the holding back element?

Thank you so much for your help in advance

xx

 

[Tim K]

Hi Cecilia,

If you have been thinking about doing something for a while, it means that it's important for you, it's not just an impulse.

About Hex 22, Wilhelm, Image:
Fire at the foot of the mountain
Thus does the superior man proceed when clearing up current affairs.
But he dare not decide controversial issues in this way.

The fire, whose light illuminates the mountain and makes it pleasing, does not shine far;
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I think it talks about the mountain in the hex 26, more on this later.

Line 2, Wilhelm:
Lends grace to the beard on his chin

The beard is not an independent thing; it moves only with the chin. The
image therefore means that form is to be considered only as a result and
attribute of content. The beard is a superfluous ornament.
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I think it says here, that the problem that you want to talk about, is not the issue here(don't jump to conclusions). There is something deeper going on. This problem is only attracting your attention (illuminates the mountain).

Hex 26, Wilhelm, Image:
Thus the superior man acquaints himself with many sayings of antiquity
And many deeds of the past,
In order to strengthen his character thereby.

Heaven within the mountain points to hidden treasures. In the words and
deeds of the past there lies hidden a treasure that men may use to strengthen
and elevate their own characters. The way to study the past is not to confine
oneself to mere knowledge of history but, through application of this
knowledge, to give actuality to the past.
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I think it's speaking very clearly here. You should talk about your past, and it will help to uncover something more (to find the treasure in the mountain), to help in your current relationship.

In the description of hex 26 it also says "Not eating at home brings good fortune". Maybe it would be better to discuss this problem on a date, in a restaurant or cafe, to give it a different mood rather than doing it at home.

Hope this helps)

 

[ceciliaiching]

Thank you

Thank you so much... That makes so much sense.
Can I just just check that I understand this fully... Is it saying that the issue I want to talk about hides something bigger or the 'real' issue? This would make sense as it is my level of trust that has Been affected and this incident was the catalyst. Also I'm assuming that the 'hidden treasure' would imply that whatever is uncovered as a result of taking about the past would be positive or at least helpful?
Thank you again, love the bit about not eating at home, will make sure we're out xx

 

[Tim K]

Is it saying that the issue I want to talk about hides something bigger or the 'real' issue?

Also I'm assuming that the 'hidden treasure' would imply that whatever is uncovered as a result of taking about the past would be positive or at least helpful?

I think the discussion will lead you to the root of the problem yes, and you will find it at least helpful. It will help to clear up your affairs in the present time.
Maybe that accident was just a misunderstanding, dig deeper into the mountain)

 

[Trojina]

22.2 is about cultivating patience, waiting for maturity, waiting for the beard to grow.

It doesn't mean you need to go digging out the past...infact refrain from that.



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Can I just just check that I understand this fully... Is it saying that the issue I want to talk about hides something bigger or the 'real' issue? This would make sense as it is my level of trust that has Been affected and this incident was the catalyst. Also I'm assuming that the 'hidden treasure' would imply that whatever is uncovered as a result of taking about the past would be positive or at least helpful?
Thank you again, love the bit about not eating at home, will make sure we're out xx

No, Wilhelm has a point of view on the line that not everyone shares. If it were my reading I would just bide my time for a while longer. Things aren't quite ready to deal with so meantime just be patient and attend to what grows naturally. Hilary writes in her commentary that you can't affect this situation directly , you cannot force change here.

In relation to Hex 26, again I am not 100% sure but I take it to mean that perhaps I have to wait until the time is right

Yes I agree with you. I mean meet and have dinner and so on but don't try to force things by delving into the past at this time

 

[ceciliaiching]

Thank you, my instinct is that the timing is not quite right, and that's probably why I've worried about his potential reaction... I will bide my time. Having said that, I also know that at some point I will need to talk about it, but I will definitely go it in a way that is not accusatory or digging up the past... Not just yet though thank you south everyone, I'm always amazed at the kindness people show when helping with reading interpretations xx

 

[Tim K]

I also know that at some point I will need to talk about it, but I will definitely go it in a way that is not accusatory or digging up the past... Not just yet though

Yes i wanted to say that, don't use force, no aggression, no confrontation, just try to calmly obtain more information, without judging and blaming.

Please return and keep us updated

 

[ceciliaiching]

Hello!
Thought I'd give an update...I haven't spoken to him about it yet. Every time I want to do it, a little voice inside me tells me...wait!!
So I did another IC reading and got Hex 26, changing lines 1 and 6 >> Hexgram 46.
I get the feeling that if I bide my time (as you have all kindly suggested), I will be in a strong position and things will be resolved through something unexpected...I just have to wait ( I am very impatient!)

Thanks everyone xx

 

[Trojina]

Hello!
Thought I'd give an update...I haven't spoken to him about it yet. Every time I want to do it, a little voice inside me tells me...wait!!
So I did another IC reading and got Hex 26, changing lines 1 and 6 >> Hexgram 46.
I get the feeling that if I bide my time (as you have all kindly suggested), I will be in a strong position and things will be resolved through something unexpected...I just have to wait ( I am very impatient!)

Thanks everyone xx

I'd say that cast 26.1.6>46 indicates it is time to head towards your goals now....doesn't have to be at top speed, but 46 is about growth within the framework of all that holding back in 26. Things will take their own road in 26.6

 

[Tim K]

In my opinion 26.1.6 says you are torn between desire to wait and to advance.
But 26.6 says: the wait is over, go already, use the pent-up energies.

And 46 says: You must do something, the success won't come by itself.

upd: Oh trojan have said the same thing)

 

[ceciliaiching]

Ok...so does that mean it would still be beneficial to talk to him about it?
To cut a long story short...when we split up, we both saw somebody else. When we got back together, I think my partner thought that I was still involved with somebody else ( I wasn't but things were still blurry and I had mentioned I would be going on dates etc), so literally a few days after we got back together, he said he was going to see a friend of his in another city. I didn't question it at the time but later found out that he probably went to see the girl he was seeing. I think it was probably just to tell her it was over and that he was back with me. Instinctively I trust him, he is not a cheat but his behaviour can be immature and I think he must have thought it would be better not to say anything not to worry me/make a big deal out of it. The trouble is that the fact that he lied to me about it has affected my trust. So I've wanted to talk to him to say that I need him to always tell me the truth if he can from now on, otherwise it all makes me very paranoid.
BUT, we are rebuilding our relationship and things are going well, so I don't want to come across it as though I am accusing him of lying...I just want to make him aware of how the whole incident made me feel.
Sorry for the long story!!!

Yes I am torn. I really don't know if I should talk to him or not, let it go and trust him ( as I said I know he is a good guy, he's normally very open with me) ....

Thank you xx

 

[Tim K]

Just like 2 hours ago i watched a tv-show episode, where a man 'lied to protect her feelings' but his gf found out about it: she saw him talking to a woman in the park, while she(the gf) was just talking a walk and watching birds.
They too were only starting their relationship.

But later that day the man just confessed, he felt there can't be any lies, and he received back only love from his gf, for his honesty.
About woman in the park - it was just an fbi agent, they were talking about some shady business of his in the past, but that's not important here )

Line 6 speaks of success, and 46 also, so i think - yes, do talk about it.

 

[ceciliaiching]

Yes I understand...I will at some point!
Also, because I've not talked about it, it's become much bigger in my head!!!