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That's why the Da Xiang warns against making serious decisions based on such a
limited view of things, and why the Tuan says only "a little worthwhile" in that
direction, or even "little reward in having somewhere to go."
It's hard to say enough about how misleading these titles can be.
Anyway, on romance, pay attention to the little things, be conscientious about
attending to needs. But let something greater than that, some longer vision,
inform all your commitments and long term goals. The nearsightedness is
subject to all of the traps that glamour and oxytocin have to offer.
Hello everyone!
I know I'm digging up an old thread but to a question regarding my love life I got hexagram 41 changing to 22 and I've read these interesting posts, so I'm wondering.
It's a vague relationship, still shaping up, followed by lots of problems (he's in the middle of a difficult divorce, small kids, etc.) but basically it's functioning well. There's a deep care and understanding between us, but very often our "being together" doesn't depend on us but rather on external circumstances.
So, how am I to act in order to make it actually work? Does anything depend on me?
Thanks.
Hex 41.2 says to be friendly with this man but don't lose your freedom to him, don't lose your independence because if you do then you can help nobody.
Hex 41.3 says that there are now 3 people in this relationship, one of them has to go, better for you to wait on the sidelines and not become involved in their fight. Or, if the situation does not resolve itself, then it suggests that you separate, and find a new partner.
Hex 22 is about beautifying your inner nature your inner appeal.
The external dificulties (41) can lead to simplicity of forms wich manifest an inner truth (the brightest aspect of 22), or can lead to superficiality (the negative aspect of 22).
Hex 22 in this case is about inner beauty, to have a charming and attractive personality, to be completely free of selfish interests, and so self development is extremely important for you.
Thanks for this. I totally agree with your interpretation.In my experience 22 discribes a lovely situation that is not grounded in reality. Like falling in love with a character in a movie and then meeting the actor and discovering he isn't anything like the person he portrayed on the screen.The actual image of 22, a fire at the base of a mountain, conjures up a picture of a group of campers roasting marshmellows. It's a fun night out, and there maybe some special bonding that occurs under the stars, but the fire is small and only illuminates a few feet of the darkness, enough to create an illusion, but not enough to build a life on, plus tomorrow it's back to the office.Then I look at the sequence. Hexagram 20, View, gives a panoramic vision of life and love and all that is, but to live this vision requires 21. Biting Through Obstacles, the marrage that is mid-divorce, custody issues etc., but even once these Obstacles have been dealt with the 22. Grace, is fleeting. Ultimately there is a 23. Splitting Apart, where the fantasy - that we share the same View and once the Obstacle has been dealt with we'll live happily ever after - and reality part ways, and we realize we don't know the person at all and that we have to 24. Return to square one and build a new relationship from the beginning. An Unhappily Married Man is a totally different conciousness than a Newly Divorced Single Guy, and we'll have to get to know him..Bottom line, If I asked about a love relationship and received 22 I'd take it as a warning that I didn't really know the person outside of our ideal context, and that while I might think they share my 20. View, I ought to have more varied experiences with them before making a commitment.
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