Hex 31.3,5 > 16

[Greenkid]

Iv'e written a long background to my question but it has somehow disappeared.
Precis:- 5 year correspondance with X, just realised from his recent treatment of me that he has no real affection for me but is probably cultivating me because there is a distinct possibility that he could be made insolvent and lose his home. Finished with him!
Recent meeting with elderly man (I am elderly too), very insistent on first meeting that I would meet him again and agree to being with him for the rest of his life. Told me had a big house (signed over to his daughter) but we could share my home (big deal) The only thing he noticed about me was my necklace, an expensive one given to me by a very dear friend. Waved him goodbye!
My last 'relationship' was similar The first thing he noticed was my shoes (expensive) I very rarely wear expensive clothes - can't afford them but for some reason people seem to think that I am rich. Brother-in-law used to say "go and visit your rich sister" People also say that I seem very calm and make them feel safe (I was a nurse) Do I look just a 'push-over' ?
Asked 'Y' "What am I doing to attract the wrong people who want only to 'use' me?
Answer Hex 31.3,5 > 16. I am at a loss as to what 'Y' is telling me. Help any-one please? Thank you all.

 

[pocossin]

What am I doing to attract the wrong people who want only to 'use' me?
31.3.5 > 16

Stylish people look rich whether they are or not, and you have a sympathetic manner that the needy crave. The Image of 16:

Thunder comes resounding out of the earth:
The image of Enthusiasm.
Thus the ancient kings made music
In order to honor merit,
And offered it with splendor
To the Supreme Deity,
Inviting their ancestors to be present.

You should let prospective partners know in advance that you want someone who has achieved something in life and who has broad purposes and interests now.

 

[Greenkid]

Thank you

Thank you pocossin, You are very kind and your suggestion is a good one. I am still not sure how to understand the Hex 16 though.
When younger as a 'scruffy kid' I was highly intelligent and because I was the scruffy kid and always top of the class I was disliked and consequently tried my best to 'hide my light' under the proverbial bushel.
I probably kept this up during my working life and was frequently assumed to be stupid - until i got annoyed and put them right. So are people still assuming that I am stupid and won't see through them?
I believe myself to be a kind person and would not like to 'put any-one down' but I seem to attract people who would 'put me down' At the moment I am feeling rather sad because I really cared for X who I corresponded with for 5 years and thought he cared for me. Another one bites the dust!

 

[pocossin]

I am still not sure how to understand the Hex 16

I focused on the words "In order to honor merit". I understand 16 as a king installing cadre: "It furthers one to install helpers". Exactly what you are looking for -- a supportive friend. The only way to avoid bad personnel is to have clear criteria. Judgments of character aren't putting anyone down. It's how we gain some control of our future.

 

[steve]

a monkey in silk is a monkey no less :

 

[sooo]

a monkey in silk is a monkey no less :

No idea what that's supposed to mean.

 

[sooo]

Hi Meigga,

Since you mention older or aging, many aging folks, men and women, are rebounding from long marriages and feel lost without someone to hold their hand and care for them. 31.2 can be interpreted this way. LiSe puts it thus: "Holding in the hand one's follower. To proceed: distress." So, being a woman, you're supposed to follow, even though the ones asking , or insisting in one case, that you follow them, it is you who they want to hold their hand, take care of them. I think LiSe's line 5 can also be helpful to you here in her commentary: "Influences which can be felt in the back or neck are the strongest ones and the most difficult to trace. They are intense and mysterious, they go back to primitive feelings of fear, aggressiveness, power, trust or mistrust. If that influence is positive or negative decides most of all how a relation will be." So your instincts, as your neck nerves convey to you, tell you who is or isn't wishing to be with you for the right reasons or wrong reasons, such as neediness. Being a nurse usually means a compassionate and caring person, and that is the feeling their instincts are feeling. But you're not seeking to be a caregiver but a woman who is an equal companion to a man, in all respects. I would interpret 16 in this case to be the amplified imagination of these last few men you've encountered.

 

[Greenkid]

Soo

Thankyou Soo
I was divorced in 1972 and was glad to be rid of him so am not desparate for a hand to hold. I've been more or less alone since. A few dalliances and a few proposals but none that I felt really loved me, and again were 'using' me. I am quite independent and can do most things for myself but it would be nice to have a companion - as you said an 'equal' companion, My years have not been lonely as I brought up my 6 children alone - youngest 2, oldest 9 so no time to be lonely,and I am not a lonely person. I retired only two and half years ago so am probably missing my workmates, who, I might add, were not using me but were genuine friends.
I think pocosson's suggestion was a good one "State my criteria" I don't somehow think that will make me very popular but 'what-the-hell' that's something I will do.
I'll need to think about what you have all said. I'm not very good at interpreting 'Y'
Thankyou all for your help. P.S. Am I the monkey in silk ??

 

[Greenkid]

By the way Sooo, I have been having a lot of neck pain recently Interesting !!

 

[pocossin]

No idea what that's supposed to mean.

It means that Steve is off the wagon again