Hex 55 no changing line - Should I let him go?

[Sashamarie]

Hello all!

This is my second iching regarding this situation.
I have been through a complicated relationship lately.
My boyfriend and I seem to be in a relationship but he's started to neglect me
I asked if I have to let him go? And I got hex 55 with no changing lines.

Last time a couple of weeks ago I asked if he is going to come back to me and I got hex 14, no changing line.

This time based on some member's advice here I decided to ask what I should do and I asked if I should let him go and now I got this!


Please help me interprete this!

Thanks a lot

 

[sooo]

It's your call so call it. You've got the goods but do you have the guts?

 

[sooo]

Perhaps my interpretation needs a translation.

55 calls for using judgment - your judgment. It doesn't mean you are to be judgmental all the time, only like the sun at midday, or when you feel about to burst from the sense of injustice, such as you have described.

Earlier you had received 14, which in slang terms means, you've got the goods, you possess the qualities to deserve to be treated well by this fellow.

Now it's a matter of you using the power you've got to administer the justice you deserve.

I received 55 yesterday regarding an item which was defective. The supplier wanted to short-rate me because the item had already been installed. However, there was no way to discover the defect until after the item was installed. In addition, they want to change shipping costs to return it. I was hopping mad at this injustice, and wrote a strong letter of protest with a promise to write a review of the product and the supplier's poor customer service policy. I am returning the product and got them to have UPS come to the rural area I live in to pick it up. After the dust settled, I asked Yi for an evaluation of my actions, and received 55 unchanging.

Your situation sounds considerably more serious than mine, but the principle is the same. Why be sad? Shine brightly like the sun at midday. Administer righteous judgment. No shade is mentioned in our readings, because there were no change lines, which would cast additional considerations on the matter.

I hope this makes my first comment clearer.

 

[Sashamarie]

Thank you guys! For your reply.

But it is still not so clear to me? What should I really do? Having guts to leave or what?
Or changing in my behavior? But I already don't do anything to let him treat me bad. I mean I don't contact him more than once before he contacts me back. But I really miss him so bad he waits to calls me back for so long and it's so sad coz we used to be so closed.
I really like him and I don't know what is going on coz he doesn't say anything.
I don't know... And this kills... I can feel he is not in a good situation and I know it, lots of personal and family problems but he at least could talk to me. I sometimes get this feeling he doesn't like me anymore or wants me to break up but then why he try to contact me every now and then? I'm so confused...

 

[sooo]

Maybe tell him how you feel?

 

[Sashamarie]

At the moment I can't . It will just make things worse.
Based on this Hex, What do you say? Does it say it is the end and I should leave him? Or it says to resist?

 

[sooo]

This isn't for me to judge, and I already told you my interpretation, most poignantly in my first post.

Off the reading and just my opinion a moment, if you can't tell someone who is purported to be your partner, boyfriend, whatever, how you feel, "should you let him go?" seems an out of place question to ask. You can't let go what you have no relationship with. He's not yours to keep or to let go.

55 can also carry the meaning of being abundantly overwhelmed emotionally, and I'm beginning to think that's all an oracle can say to you at this point. You can't talk to him because it will only makes things worse. What kind of relationship is that? In such a case, it isn't he you need to judge and discipline, it's yourself. Where's your self esteem? Are you capable of being like the sun at midday for something that you say is very important to you?

Also, the I Ching isn't in the business of making your decisions for you. That responsibility belongs solely to you.