Hex 59>8

[goddessliss]

What is the best way for me to deal with this unknown situation between her and I

Hex 59.2.6>8

I'd made plans to spend the day with Friend A but I canceled the plans asking if we could make it the next day and she said that was fine. She didn't ask why and I didn't tell her as I felt it may offend her and she is renowned for jumping to conclusions and being a little stubborn so I would prefer to speak to her in person to avoid misunderstandings.

The truth is I wanted to spend the day with another Friend B who works full time but had a rare day off. I've been concerned about her for some time and was hoping she would open up to me about what was wrong, which she did.
In no way does either friend mean more or less to me although I do feel a bit guilty but know I shouldn't.

Now the Friend A is making excuses not to spend the day with me and being quite uncommunicative which means I can't speak to her about our previous canceled plans.

Is this reading just a reflection of me feeling a bit guilty and I'm wounding myself by worrying about it?

- Liss

 

[Trojina]

I find 59.2 a very solid reassuring line. Well I know it's literally solid, an unbroken line...this is the place, a familiar place to retreat to or seek help from when threatened.

I'm wondering if you could re establish connection by suggesting your usual things you do together that you enjoy ? This is a line where one finds comfort in the familiar, the tried and tested ways.

59.6 may be distancing yourself from bad feelings or it might be from her I guess but given 8 is the relating hexagram here I think a good plan would be to not delay in communicating the truth or however you want to represent what happened. I wouldn't be inclined to let things drift with this. Even if she is uncommunicative I think you may need to offer reassurance of some kind, perhaps by enticing her with a treat you usually share together.....lots of cake ? Call her....make a plan

 

[goddessliss]

After we'd made our secondary plans I contacted her to finalise the time etc. and she said she was unwell and may not be able to make it.
This is when I had an inkling she was making excuses but felt it may just be the little bit of guilt I was feeling and I was reading too much into it which to me reflects Line 2.

So I left it until this morning to see how she was and she replied that she was still unwell and would have to spend the day lying on the lounge because she was so dizzy.
Again I thought ok just let it be stay neutral and calmly accept this is what is happening right now regardless of my own thoughts or judgement perhaps - Line 6.

So I'm now finding it a little difficult to see how this reading fits in with what later this morning.

A couple of hours later I saw her up and about driving in town, she saw me and gave me a big cheery wave and kept driving although she could have pulled over to speak with me.

I have to say I'm quite disappointed.

- Liss

 

[goddessliss]

It's a bit confusing as the resulting Hexagram 8 is about holding together in union with others but I think in this case it may just mean holding together with the Sage.

We first met 25 years ago but lost contact for 13 years reuniting only a couple of months ago.

This present incident with her, I now realise, has nothing to do with me spending the day with another as it would be near impossible for her to know unless I told her.

But this present incident reminded me of a couple of similar incidences with her all those years ago and how she behaved just the same.
One day I came home to find a note in my letterbox from her saying 'what sort of friend am I who couldn't bother visiting her when she had a cold?' I was quite taken aback as I didn't know she had a cold and I also had my 3 young children to care for as well as the death of my motherinlaw which in turn created a family feud at the time between my husband and his family as well as us having to move off the family property.

Anyway you get the picture. She rang me yesterday as she'd heard I hadn't been feeling very well via social media - eh! but I've a strong feeling I should stay away from her at this time.

This morning I asked What best can I do about this friendship and got 52 unchanging.

I've read it as - sit quietly with self and observe the flow of my emotions and just let them flow through my body until I can separate them from my thought process and then hand things over to the 'Universe' for resolution.

At the moment I know how I 'feel' about the friendship but I also know in my heart it's best not to do anything outwardly right now. - Liss