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Hello,
I asked the i-Ching on how to deal better with the argumentative/debative moments of my relationship, where me and my partner get involved in discussions about topics over text (never negative or against each other), that make me anxious because of some miscommunications (language/communication barriers), differences of opinion and a feeling that "he doesn't know much about this" and I need to teach him, or "correct him", which is frustrating, and also both me and him overthink and question things, which becomes tiring.
So because I get so desperate and tend to panic that this is never going to work because these feelings are a bit overwhelming (been friends for over a year but just dating recently), I wonder how to better deal with these discussions because I feel there is a way that I can deal with this better, get less irritated, since my impulse is to nitpick and discuss. So I wonder what I can do about it, how can I better my attitude.* (I also talked to him about this, btw. He doesn't feel the same anxiety as I do...)
So I got Hexagram 18 Corruption/Decay/Repairing what is Spoiled changing to 40, Liberation/Deliverance
Line 3 - "Setting right what has been spoiled by the father. There will be a little remorse. No great blame."
Line 4 - "Tolerating what has been spoiled by the father. In continuing one sees humiliation."
Line 6 - "He does not serve kings and princes, sets himself higher goals."
They say line 4 is "dominant" (which is a bit worrysome... feels a kind of dead-end entrapment). I kind of understand the lines somehow but I can take it in so many directions that is confusing. Last one seems pretty self-explanatory: knowing when to let go of petty arguments and just fly over it, see the big picture and move on from the blockage.
Well, any takes?
Thank you very much!
*I have had other situations recently where I found people that triggered this in me, more or less. So I know this quality is in me. Of course, depending on what's on the other side, that may be triggered in one way or another, so this person triggers a specific side of myself.
I asked the i-Ching on how to deal better with the argumentative/debative moments of my relationship, where me and my partner get involved in discussions about topics over text (never negative or against each other), that make me anxious because of some miscommunications (language/communication barriers), differences of opinion and a feeling that "he doesn't know much about this" and I need to teach him, or "correct him", which is frustrating, and also both me and him overthink and question things, which becomes tiring.
So because I get so desperate and tend to panic that this is never going to work because these feelings are a bit overwhelming (been friends for over a year but just dating recently), I wonder how to better deal with these discussions because I feel there is a way that I can deal with this better, get less irritated, since my impulse is to nitpick and discuss. So I wonder what I can do about it, how can I better my attitude.* (I also talked to him about this, btw. He doesn't feel the same anxiety as I do...)
So I got Hexagram 18 Corruption/Decay/Repairing what is Spoiled changing to 40, Liberation/Deliverance
Line 3 - "Setting right what has been spoiled by the father. There will be a little remorse. No great blame."
Line 4 - "Tolerating what has been spoiled by the father. In continuing one sees humiliation."
Line 6 - "He does not serve kings and princes, sets himself higher goals."
They say line 4 is "dominant" (which is a bit worrysome... feels a kind of dead-end entrapment). I kind of understand the lines somehow but I can take it in so many directions that is confusing. Last one seems pretty self-explanatory: knowing when to let go of petty arguments and just fly over it, see the big picture and move on from the blockage.
Well, any takes?
Thank you very much!
*I have had other situations recently where I found people that triggered this in me, more or less. So I know this quality is in me. Of course, depending on what's on the other side, that may be triggered in one way or another, so this person triggers a specific side of myself.
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