Hexagram 19 - Relatonship... Some help please

[wearred]

Well, another relationship question...
My boyfriend told me just yesterday that he was thnking about the future of the relationship (6 months old) and felt he have to make a decision about us. He doesn't know if he loves me as he should... We agreed to keep the relationship for one month and see what happens, but know I want to stop seeing him for at least 2 weeks and have the chance to think seriously about this.
I asked the I-Ching... What would be his reaction if I pull myself out of the relationship? It would be the end or he would come back?
I got the Hexagram 19 with no moving lines; it seems a good omen but I am not sure... I need your help to understand what I Ching is telling me and prepare myself for what could happen. It's a short relationship, but very intense and very important for me.
Thanks :bows:
WearRed

 

[willowfox]

His reaction probably would be one of concern, like you would hurt his pride by stepping out but overall it gives the indication that the relationship is now going into irreversible melt down.

 

[zander]

What would be his reaction if I pull myself out of the relationship? It would be the end or he would come back?
I got the Hexagram 19 with no moving lines

Your job now is to keep moving forward, doing the best for yourself. A strength is returning within you, and you are being asked to trust it. Regardless of his return or departure, realize that the old ways of solving problems no longer work.

 

[jilt]

I would be very confused when I asked a question like this and got that answer.
If you pull out of the relation, why? because you don't trust his love and devotion? How is yours?
Your question seems about testing the other: will he be running back to me? get agressive?
Hex 19. lin. approach. Will he approach you after you pulling away from him?
Or is the yi saying: lessons will be thought, whatever outcome may be. This is a real experimental question like explained in hex4.
Spring is in the air, our hormones start laughing, the game is on.

 

[willowfox]

Hex 19 suggests that this hex equates with the beginning of spring which leads to growth, flowering and finally misfortune due to change, a period of approx. 8 months is given.

This relationship has had its moment of spring and its intense flowering, now it is going into decay, 6 months have already passed and as you see from her post the rot has well and truly set in. So you see, the fire has died right down, and the embers are no longer glowing by morning the fire will have completely gone out and only ashes will remain. So, do you really think that he cares anymore?

So, spring is no longer in the air for this relationship and thus the game has ended.

 

[my_key]

I asked the I-Ching... What would be his reaction if I pull myself out of the relationship? It would be the end or he would come back?

3 questions about if I pull myself out of the relationship
What would be his reaction?
Would it be the end?
Would he come back?

.........and only one answer.

Does this represent an attempt to stifle the answer, make the situation more complicated? The time is ripe for the answer to expand into the questions. See the questions for what they are.

Be Well
Mike