Hexagram 25.4 What to do about my teen daughter's tantrums (after 29uc)

[EmMacha]

I received this Hexagram 24.4 after a difficult day with (mostly) my daughter. There is a lot of tension and chaos in the house the last few months, due to the youngest boy deciding to live here permanently, instead of a previous arrangement of half the week. More on this situation here. It has caused a bit of chaos, and she is *NOT* happy. A lot of house rules and habits have been changing, and I have not always being finding it easy to keep up the changes. There is resistance from all 3 children (and sometimes it seems the cats too!).

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However, today, she has been downright ignorant, rude and abusive to him, and myself.

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I received 29uc this morning, and this evening, contemplating it, I found this thread very helpful. Of course, I can see the repeating chasms now as also plunging into the fray with the arguments between the kids, and maintaining the line. ('Holding fast to the heart'). I was more than a bit scared to see this Hexa unchanging, but I can chime with leighl that it is just something that you keep moving through:

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I don't fully share your sentiment that this is a negative hexagram. I have been going through some struggles lately, and for me this hex was saying that there may be more pitfalls to come in the coming week, but I should move through whatever comes my way with presence.

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However, the issue of my daughters tantrums, abusive words and behaviour to myself and her brother are not ok. Very far from it![

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So I asked Yi about my best approach re this, because it has been destabilising me, and also allowing her little brother to use it as an excuse to get away with things:

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24:'Without entanglement.Creating success from the source, constancy bears fruit.One who is not upright commits blunders,And it is fruitless to have a direction to go.'

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'There can be constancy – no mistake.'

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This says to me - maintain the line, continue, but don't blame yourself for your daughter's behaviour! She can really do that, say it's my fault, make it seem like my fault. She has a very fiery and strong nature! I do admire her strength, it will stand to her one day, but not when she is being a bully, or a spoilt diva! I have other issues with her, re: late to school due to make-up routines, mess everywhere etc.

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I think it also means 'don't get diverted' - diverted into her or her brothers lines of arguments. (that is another way they try to subvert the house rules)

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It's like an encouraging ​little boost from Yi too - as in stay above the situation, you're doing just fine - don't get caught in the day to day.

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Any thoughts or advice?

 

[equinox]

However, the issue of my daughters tantrums, abusive words and behaviour to myself and her brother are not ok. Very far from it![
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So I asked Yi about my best approach re this, because it has been destabilising me, and also allowing her little brother to use it as an excuse to get away with things:
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24:'Without entanglement.Creating success from the source, constancy bears fruit.One who is not upright commits blunders,And it is fruitless to have a direction to go.'
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Line 4
'There can be constancy – no mistake.'
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This says to me - maintain the line, continue, but don't blame yourself for your daughter's behaviour! She can really do that, say it's my fault, make it seem like my fault. She has a very fiery and strong nature! I do admire her strength, it will stand to her one day, but not when she is being a bully, or a spoilt diva! I have other issues with her, re: late to school due to make-up routines, mess everywhere etc.
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I think it also means 'don't get diverted' - diverted into her or her brothers lines of arguments. (that is another way they try to subvert the house rules)
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It's like an encouraging ​little boost from Yi too - as in stay above the situation, you're doing just fine - don't get caught in the day to day.
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In the thread itself you write that you received 24.4 but I guess it is 25.4, like said in the thread title, right?
Yes, I think you really should focus on maintaining your equilibrium. When everything is shaking it should be you who is the calm anchor. Plus you should be flexible, I think it is good that you are willed to accept new rules for the new situation. It is all not that easy, I can imagine.