Hexagram 34.5.6 moving to hexagram 1 - any ideas?

[veronica]

Hi there, does anyone have any experience with hexagram 34 lines 5 and 6? I asked the Yi what is the best course of action with regards to ex (in order to break free, to be able to move on as opposed to get back together - was at the back of my mind)
Any comments would be highly appreciated!

 

[willowfox]

You know that it is over with your ex, so no point in even thinking about him anymore, so just leave him behind and drift away.

 

[dobro p]

I don't see Willow's 'drift away' as the best way to put it, because 34 is about Great Power and 1 is about the Creative, both very powerful archetypes.

'Power away', perhaps. 'Blast away', perhaps. 'Warp 9' away, perhaps. But drifting doesn't come into it. Lots of power comes into it. The details might be difficult (notice how 34.6 talks about getting stuck in something and just having to wait until time frees you?), but the big picture talks about using the ton of power that's available to you now to get free and get in touch with your Creative source. You're meant to break free, definitely.

 

[willowfox]

"blast away", "warp 9 away" ? No rush, just get on a bus to the other side of town.

Hex 1 she has all the necessary willpower to achieve a clean and successful end to this stringy relationship.

 

[dobro p]

"blast away", "warp 9 away" ? No rush, just get on a bus to the other side of town.

Hex 1 she has all the necessary willpower to achieve a clean and successful end to this stringy relationship.

Fair enough. And in another thread recently, you might have seen what I was saying about how there's no guarantee that the Yi is talking about a scale as grand as its imagery might suggest sometimes. It's not as dramatic, in other words, as you might think.

So yeah, the Yi might simply be saying to her: "You've easily got enough enough power to get you free, because after all, the Creative power of the universe is behind it."

 

[Trojina]

Hi there, does anyone have any experience with hexagram 34 lines 5 and 6? I asked the Yi what is the best course of action with regards to ex (in order to break free, to be able to move on as opposed to get back together - was at the back of my mind)
Any comments would be highly appreciated!

Lines 5 and 6 of 34 indicate no great effort is needed here, infact in 34.6 struggling (with your emotions i presume) just entangles you more. In 34.5 one doesnot need to fight, drifting away is easy and though feelings may still be there to a degree its good to simply accept the bind you're in, relax and in time you find it easy to be really free of this. Ths answer seems very direct to your question since you are asking about 'breaking free' and line 6 shows a ram trying to break free but the more he pushes and struggles the more entangled he gets, he can't go forward, he can't go back he just needs to wait to see things in a slightly different light then he can move. I think hex one may show you having gained this freedom, freedom to go your way again, following your direction again

 

[veronica]

Drift away blast away...

Guys, thank you so much for the above input, much much needed help. Last 9 months, since the split, have been the worst 9 months of my life. My ex just doesn't want to let me go and is using all his power to stop me from moving on. We have a child together, which makes it so much harder, especially that my ex uses this to emotionally blackmail me. Three weeks ago he tried to commit suicide (I was the one who found him and called the ambulance) and he again announced today that if I don't go back with him he will definitely do it again, this time when I am not around. It is therefore difficult to find the strength to move on, especially that another threat is that he will also fight for part custody of our son, which scares the living light out of me, as I don't think my ex is emotionally stable, but it is so difficult to prove this in court.

So.. you comments were very helpful as I found the changing lines difficult to interpret. I really hope I will find the strength to move on and break free from this nightmare. Hexagram 34 talks about a real danger of relying too much on own power instead of asking what is right. What does it mean? That I should ask myself again whether it is definitely right to break free from him instead of giving him another chance?? Im not sure here....

Many thanks again for any comments!

 

[dobro p]

Hexagram 34 talks about a real danger of relying too much on own power instead of asking what is right. What does it mean? That I should ask myself again whether it is definitely right to break free from him instead of giving him another chance?? Im not sure here....

It means you should use the power that's available to you right now to do what you think is right - in this case that means breaking free. You're supposed to use the power, but you're not supposed to abuse it. Use it, but don't abuse it. Getting free of an unhealthy relationship is no abuse of power. Suicide threats and acting out are a form of passive aggressive terrorism, and it's my opinion that we shouldn't give in to them. But we should do what we can to help if we're in a position to help. From what you've described, I'd say two things are really true of the situation you're in:

* You need to be out. Do it.

* He needs help with his feelings and perceptions, not a relationship with you. Can you do anything to help him find that help with a professional?

 

[willowfox]

The right thing to do is to stop being influenced by this man, , to stop flip flopping backwards and forwards every time he does something or other. Stand still and take a hard look at the situation, see him for what he really is, he is a nobody who is just trying to pull your strings. So, make yourself a firm decision to go your own way, and take absolutely no notice of him, as you have the power not him. And as for his treats of court action, don't worry about it, you have far too much going for you, and attempted suicides do not make good parents in the eyes of the law. Also, realize that he is bluffing, he is playing a game with your head, so don't fall for it. Cut and run.

 

[dobro p]

So how did we do do you think Willow? And what was the net result of our readings?

 

[willowfox]

So how did we do do you think Willow? And what was the net result of our readings?

It looks good but I will have to take a look in my crystal ball just to be sure and perhaps lay a few cards as well.

 

[veronica]

Many many thanks to Dobro and Willowfox for your imputs, Im sorry it's taken me a while to reply, I just had to think about it all and proceed accordingly... The message here is clear that I should definitely break free from this man. Dobro offers a more humane -) way of doing it, i.e. not abusing the power I have but use it in the right way. Willowfox suggests I give it a clear cut. I have actually incorporated both into my action plan, what is most important that I have eventually made a clear cut in my head now of wanting to move on as opposed to just sitting on the fence. I have also been in touch with my ex's councillor/psychotherapist regarding ways of helping my ex to get a grip of reality and to move on without trying to harm himself. Whether it will work or not Im not sure but at least I have tried.

I feel that I still have a lot of hard work to do before i can be free of this man but at least I am much more clear in my head now, which is a good start.

Thank you so much for your help guys, you don't know how much you have helped me. I read your comments over and over again until it eventually sunk in!

BXXX