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What I especially like about Willowfox's response is the contingency: providing you want to meet him and that you make the effort.
That means everything depends on me......Doesn't it?
It looks like if you won't be flexible about this, then forget about meeting him. Hex 42 says that if you make the effort then you will meet but it is only what could happen if you make it so, if you do nothing then expect nothing to happen.
The I ching could tell you that you will win the lotto but you won't win unless you go down to the shop and buy a ticket.
Surely you would meet at the point the relationship has reached a certain pitch of intensity, where the wish to meet on both sides has become strong enough for action to be taken. This depends on how much you put in now, thats what i think your answer refers to. I don't think it necessarily refers to you asking him directly to meet now, only to you 'pouring more in' as in investing more time and energy in the online relationship. Obviously if you spent less time chatting to him etc the chance of the relationship strengthening is lessened. Its a very simple answer really - the more you put in the more you get out. Nothing more is promised.
Thats exactly what I do NOT wanna do-ask him directly that is-.
So I guess investing more time and energy to chatting with him is THE ANSWER.
Gosh I have issues. I hate trying cause I fear failure and not getting what I want. Its sick really.
Thats exactly what I do NOT wanna do-ask him directly that is-.
So I guess investing more time and energy to chatting with him is THE ANSWER.
Gosh I have issues. I hate trying cause I fear failure and not getting what I want. Its sick really.
But there is NO WAY I am asking to meet him.I want him to ask me to.
Maybe he is thinking that you don't want to meet him, so he won't ask.
I have a reply I think I'd get..."Web Cam?"My favorite image of 42 is one on the computer Yi program I have...it is of water rushing forward. It sounds like the tide is in your favor; If I were you, I would say something like "how long are we going to talk without my being able to actually see you?"
I really don't see why it's 'you' who has the 'issues'.
You want the guy to ask you. That's far from abnormal.
If you do show interest in him, and show you'd be up for it... then...?
Then if he does not come to you, or at least ask you to go to him,
then he's not the sort of guy you're after.
Wanting the guy to ask you, when you're 'welcoming', is not 'issues'.
You could probably say this would be wrong with other areas in life,
but coming to courtship? i see it as very normal.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).