Hexagram 53, Gradual Progress

[Maritoni]

What is he thinking about me and Yi's answer, 53.2.5 to 18. I am talking to this guy for a month, it started for me as not so serious as he is not totally my type of guy but end up he is a nice person. We are way too different people also from the start I told him am not muslim so it can be a conflict. Then, he said he is not bothered or forcing me to be one. I like caucasian and he is black, I love all color but just like preference lol. But he is hot hhahaha

 

[BlindedFox]

What is he thinking about me
53.2.5 to 18

there is probably a tendency to pull away in relationships, it has made you look for somebody who can repair the fear of real intimacy. He is doing a good job apparently, giving you space, so you have been able to ponder about the normative structure he has to live in. Line 2 talks about being able to cope with solitude, when somebody works a lot and has almost no time for you, but you feast together from time to time and it feels great to be together. Line 5 a ceremony of wedding. It seems to me, there is a hint of something more serious here, but the two lines 3 and 4 (both gifts, not necessarily material) need to be accomplished first. Differences could be too rigid, fomalities overseen could lead to corruption (18), finally thing could end up with you leaving and just doing your own things and be fine.

 

[Maritoni]

What is he thinking about me
53.2.5 to 18

there is probably a tendency to pull away in relationships, it has made you look for somebody who can repair the fear of real intimacy. He is doing a good job apparently, giving you space, so you have been able to ponder about the normative structure he has to live in. Line 2 talks about being able to cope with solitude, when somebody works a lot and has almost no time for you, but you feast together from time to time and it feels great to be together. Line 5 a ceremony of wedding. It seems to me, there is a hint of something more serious here, but the two lines 3 and 4 (both gifts, not necessarily material) need to be accomplished first. Differences could be too rigid, fomalities overseen could lead to corruption (18), finally thing could end up with you leaving and just doing your own things and be fine.

Thank You BlindedFox

I just want to understand:

The two lines 3 and 4 (both gifts, not necessarily material) need to be accomplished???
Does this mean he won't really force me or feel obligated to his belief and just let me do my own thing?

 

[BlindedFox]

"The two lines 3 and 4 (both gifts, not necessarily material) need to be accomplished???"

These are green flags, like love formalities, respecting each other, being open to know and tolerate the other, care like special dates, significant objects i.e an engagement ring, vacations together but also asking you to meet his family, kids, mother, friends. If you see that appearing gradually, it means both are developing a deeper bond and moving to the next level. Both are interested in the other´s world, because there is a potential for something greater.

Does this mean he won't really force me or feel obligated to his belief and just let me do my own thing?

If those mentioned gifts above are not there, its likely going to be what it is right now and probably deteriorate to the point where someone is taking the high road in 18.6 as its highest development posible, quitting the bad practice for good, what ever meaning you see in it. I see it as others interfering with your things and you keeping health boundaries up, but that is something only you know.

‘No business with kings and lords,
Honouring what is highest is your business.’

Where else can 18 go? I think at some point, if attitudes falters, you could get fed up and just leave and it would be fine. But honestly fearing, to feel obligated to anothers belief, or forced, it does not sound like a green flag to me, quite the opposite. So if you already have feelings of pulling away, you will find it easy to get away.