hexagram 8 changing to 63

[hellomoon]

This is in relation to a reading I did here about my friend. https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?27257-Hexagram-53-and-16Well, right now she is hesitant on messaging this guy she recently met, they share good chemistry and connected well, which was mutual. He gave her his number but because of her past trauma and drama with a married man she loved and other relationships with emotionally unavailable men she has become very sensitive and cautious. I told her to just go for it and message him seeing that he only lives less than an hour away.She wanted me to ask the I ching (and tarot) if he is currently seeing anyone? My tarot cards are showing someone (him) as lonely, even heartbroken and trying to find his happiness. I got hexagram 8 changing lines 1 and 3 changing to 63.I immediately didn't get a good feeling at first because of hexagram 8 which is called Union or Holding Together. I came up with 2 interpretations on my own after doing a lot of research on this board.Interpretation 1:I think he is intimate with someone at the very least. Hexagram 8 line 1 apparently is a nice line. Line 1 is showing sincerity and being true to oneself. I am not sure how to relate it to changing hexagram 63, I was wondering if a relationship that showed promise recently ended and currently dating others (line 3).Interpretation 2:I think he is searching for a deep union (1) with someone but currently dating or meeting all the wrong ones (3). Line 3 shows a community of people. So I think he is not with anyone specifically or romantically. In sum, I am leaning towards a yes, he is seeing someone but most likely his heart is not in it? I could be totally wrong in both interpretations. Sorry tried to make it more readable but it won't let me edit to make paragraphs. Thank you.

 

[diamanda]

if he is currently seeing anyone
8.1.3 > 63
My take on it is a mix of more or less what you said. It sounds like he's in love (8.1) with a nasty person (8.3) and he's had enough (63). So perhaps he's looking for a way out of his current rubbish situation.

because of her past trauma and drama with a married man she loved and other relationships with emotionally unavailable men she has become very sensitive and cautious

That's a really good thing. She should be very cautious to avoid ending up in a similar situation.

 

[hellomoon]

Thank you so much for responding. I see my friend on Monday, we are meeting for dinner. I will tell her what my cards and the I ching say. I do hope she will message him, maybe he needs someone nice and sweet seeing that he is involved in a bad relationship. But the i ching cast may turn her off, but I don't know yet. I agree it is good she is cautious, she used to be the type that never put up boundaries hence her relationship with a married man that lasted almost a year. I did a casting with 8.3 several months ago and definitely did indicate the wrong people, or toxic people in my reading, people that drain your energy. I do hope 63 means the relationship is over and done with or will be over soon. Will update!

 

[rosada]

To interpret these lines another way...
8.1 He is complete within himself.
8.3 Any significant relationship he may have now is with non-people. (love me, love my dog?)
63. He's completed all his past relationships.
So no, he's not married or currently involved - or at least this is what she should assume until she has evidence to the contrary.

Ah, the joys of trying to interpret a yes or no question.

 

[hellomoon]

Hi Rosada. Well, I am more of an optimist than my friend, but again I never been hurt the way she has. In any case, I guess it is good to know he isn't married or seriously involved right now. I do hope my friend sees this is a green light to go ahead and message him. If he is indeed finished with a woman he once loved or loves as Diamanda says, or happy with himself and free, either way she should go ahead and reach out. Now I am intrigued Lol. Thanks so much!

 

[hellomoon]

I just had a thought: If I had asked instead Show me what his romantic life looks like, would that have been a better question? IOW, would the answer be still the same? As a tarot reader I find yes/no difficult as well.

 

[rosada]

How about something like, “what should I advise my friend?”