Hi ! An objective point of view is very welcome!

[hippiguana]

Hello everyone!

Greetings from Mexico. This is my first post here!

Yesterday I consulted the I-Ching, regarding someone else's feelings towards me.
Since I have deep feelings for this person, I am wary of misinterpetation. Fresh, objective interpretations are more than welcome!

A little briefing:

There's this girl in my former job (I was her boss) to whom I really feel deeply attracted to. I never made any moves towards her, and after departing my job (a month ago), I was trying to let go some time before attempting to date her.

Yesterday she phoned me regarding some trouble she was having with some of the computer programs I left behind. During the conversation she made some remarks about how much I was being missed, and by this and a few other remarks (including an invitation to grab a bite someday), my gut told me that perhaps she was having feelings towards me too.

To validate if my gut feelings were not really wishful thoughts, my question to the Oracle was this: "Regarding love, what are X's feelings toward me?"

I casted the coins and the oracle answered me with Hexagram 2 (Kun - Responding) - No changing lines appeared in the cast.

Reading the first lines of the Decision Text (according to Alfred Huang's interpretation)

Kun - Responding.
Sublimely prosperous and smooth.
Favorable with a mare's steadfastness.
...

To me it sounds like a "She's responding towards you".
However, I have not made an action towards her, so what could she be responding to?... inaction? Usually I get more insight from the changing lines text, but this time the hexagram is not mutating.


Anybody's point of view is welcome, and appreciated.


hippIguana

 

[sugarlobster]

hiya hippiguana,

you'll probably get more considered answers from the guys around here who really know what they're talking about, unlike me ;-)
but it sounds like she would welcome your approach, she feels receptive and open towards you in a romantic sense.

you could also think of 2 as applying to you, as asking about other people is always a bit tricky, i find (although sometimes surprisingly effective) in which case it might have to do with your main concern (probably 'should i make a move' and 'what if she rejects me'?)
it could mean something like nurture this idea -of romantic love and this woman- and be receptive to it - don't resist it, or create difficulties around it, let it flow through you. be open and receptive also to everything this situation might bring, including the possibility that it might not work out. do nothing Internally, and nothing will be left undone. then you'll know what to do, and it will be the right thing.

my personal advice, and i know you didn't ask for it, little devil that i am, is go for it man, you only live once, and there's nothing to lose.

good luck!

cheeky sugarlobster xx

 

[joang]

I agree with sugarlobster, especially since the young lady has already made the first move with her "invitation to grab a bite someday." What you need, a rock to fall in your head?

jg

 

[sugarlobster]

joan, lmao!! yes, yes, maybe we should go ahead with the rock, he didn't feel it the first time ;-)
sorry hippiguana, it's just that i can feel that you and your lady are gonna hit it off big time and you're gonna have a ball, and it gets me all giggly ;-)

love,
xx sl

 

[hippiguana]

SugarLobster and Joang,

Thank you for your responses!

Joang, it's not that I need a rock to fall into my head LOL!!

You see, something I missed to tell you is that she's now currently occupying my former position, so it could just be that she wants to keep me "close and handy" when things get a little bit rough. (been burned like that before), so in my inquiry I was trying to see if this was the case.

She didn't call because she wanted to talk to me (at least not openly), there was a real problem to be solved and I helped her. However I have also learned by experience that you should pay attention and "read between the lines", especially when interacting with women

Well I really appreciate your feedback!
I'll let you know things progress.

Enjoy!

hippi

 

[sugarlobster]

so go and grab a bite with her, be open to the situation, the feel and the vibes, and you'll know.

unless you're *really* the kind of guy who's immune to rocks, of course.

also, if what you want to know is what's the nature of her feelings in relation to you (love, interest, friendship, lust, etc) then ask that. you asked about romantic feelings from the outset, therefore pre-empting the answer somewhat. leave the yi some space, man.

love, hippi
xx sl

 

[cal val]

Hippi...

Tengo gusto de la manera que usted expresó su pregunta. Pienso que siendo específico como eso es excelente. Usted recibió una respuesta clara consecuentemente. Y muy bueno en eso. Ella es receptiva a usted. ¿Qué podía ser mejor?

Con amor,

Val

 

[hippiguana]

Thanks again SugarLobster,
Excellent advice!

That's a difficulty when performing consultations of my own... I didn't want to color the answer with what I wanted to hear, but I didn't realize I had already colored the question, LOL!

love,
hippi

 

[hippiguana]

¡Hola Val!

Agradezco mucho tu respuesta, especialmente que la hayas hecho en español. ¡Muy bien! Excelente detalle

Gracias también por tu retroalimentación...
Honestamente estoy muy contento con las posibilidades que se abren con la respuesta del I Ching.

¿De donde escribes?

Con cariño,

Hippi

 

[Sparhawk]

¡Hola Hippi!

Val, espero que no te moleste que le conteste a Hippi. Hippi, Val vive en Virginia. Yo vivo en New Jersey. Por lo demás, creo que los otros participantes han contestado acertadamente a tu pregunta.

¿En qué parte de Mexico vives?

Saludos,

Luis

 

[joang]

No fair, you guys. My high school Spanish lesson books are moldering in the attic. Am I going to have to dig them out to follow this conversation?

jg

 

[cal val]

Luis...

No importo. Me preguntaba porqué usted no había fijado todavía... en español. Es difícil escribir en español. No recuerdo mucho que estudié hace muchos años. Soy feliz que usted ayudó.

Hippi...

Esta vez le escribo en inglés. Ve por favor lo que escribí a Luis... sobre.

I don't know que yo "vivo" en Virginia. I'm certainly here though. I was born and raised in Southern California where I learned first Castillian, then mixed in dialecto in my communications with the majority of the population there. I've been away for 2-1/2 years now. Ése es por qué writing en español es muy dificil for me ahora. Not much Spanish is spoken here.

Seeing you post from Mexico has reminded me very much of Southern California and the strong Mexican influence there... the art, music, literature and culture... so colorful. There's none of that color here. I miss it very much.

I love Mexico también, y I'm curious, as Luis is, to know what part you are in.

Okay, so I wrote in Spanglish... *grin* I can't help myself. I love practicing my Spanish.

Love,

Val

 

[cal val]

Joang...

I told Hippi I love his question and the Yi's answer.

Hippi noticed that I struggle with Spanish and asked me where I write from. (He didn't actually say he noticed that I struggle. He was much more diplomatic than that... *grin*)

Luis asked me if I minded if he answered for me and told Hippi that I'm en Virginia, and that he's in New Jersey. He said everyone before had interpreted with certainty, so he didn't add anything. Then he asked Hippi what part of Mexico he's in.

I told Luis I didn't mind because writing in Spanish is very difficult for me and that I was happy he helped.

I told Hippi I was writing in English this time and to see my post to Luis for the reason.

The above translation is for the English speaking as well as the Spanish speaking... since my Spanish sucks... *grin*

Love,

Val

 

[Sparhawk]

Don't worry Joang... Just asking Hippi where was he from in Mexico.

I promise that if anyone starts talking about Juana in Spanish I'll let you know what they are saying...

I cannot help you much with French though, sorry...

Luis

 

[joang]

If y'all start talking about mari-juana, I'm all ears.

jg

 

[bradford_h]

hey joan g
These are a whole long way from perfect but if you paste in this text they'll do quick and dirty machine translations. One of them does Chinese to English fairly badly.
http://www.worldlingo.com/products_services/worldlingo_translator.html
http://www.freetranslation.com/
b

 

[joang]

Thanks, Brad.
Now I know 'pregunta' means 'question', and has nothing to do with gestation.

jg

 

[joang]

Val,
thanks for clearing up the rest of that.

jg

 

[joang]

Hippi,
getting back (belatedly) to your original topic, I think the fact that she's currently occupying your former position is a big plus for you. You two have a lot in common to talk about; and in case you didn't know, good conversation works like an aphrodesiac for many women.

Just go with the flow, Amigo.

jg

 

[heylise]

Long ago Val gave another translation page:
http://world.altavista.com/
And then I got one from Harmen which does a very good job with Chinese:
http://www.systransoft.com/personal.html

LiSe

 

[Sparhawk]

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If y'all start talking about mari-juana, I'm all ears. <!-/Quote-!><HR SIZE=0></BLOCKQUOTE>

Can't afford the munchies!!

Now, interesting sub-conscious association... Where did you get the idea that the word "pregunta" had anything to do with gestation?

Luis

 

[cal val]

Hi LiSe...

babel fish is where I go to check my spelling and properly accent my words. Much of my learning was spoken (hearing the words), not written (seeing them), so I tend to write phonetically. If it weren't for babel fish, I would have written "No recordo" rather than "No recuerdo" and "tambien" instead of "también" (beats messing with the character map... as many accents as Spanish has!).

It's not the best place to conjugate verbs though, and my "501 Spanish Verbs" is packed away, so... when I'm not being lazy I go here: http://www.elemadrid.com/spanish_verbs.htm or here
http://www.davekam.f2s.com/spanish.html. You have to know the Spanish infinitive first though. Since joang likes the word "preguntar", try that for conjugating... *grin*

And, after all that, I still make little sense...*grin* I'm afraid I'm going to say something offensive when I really mean to say something quite the opposite. Machine translations don't deal with those tricky idioms, so I try to keep my sentences simple, using words I know and avoid the machine translations for the most part.

Love,

Val

 

[bradford_h]

Luis-
I think she was just gesting cause it was so pregnunt with possibility
b

 

[joang]

Lol...
"pregunta" conjured up an image in my mind of a very big pregnancy... like 8 and 1/2 months pregnant. Pregranda, sort of.

jg

 

[Sparhawk]

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"pregunta" conjured up an image in my mind of a very big pregnancy... like 8 and 1/2 months pregnant.<!-/Quote-!><HR SIZE=0></BLOCKQUOTE>

Ouch!! After two kids that image just conjures visions of urgent and wobbly runs to the bathroom to pee...

Brad, you've been reading Chinese too long...

L

 

[Sparhawk]

Ahem, I should have phrased that better... I was talking about my wife (no, I didn't have an empathic pregnancy...)

L

 

[heylise]

wrong, should be
http://www.systransoft.com

I learned English the other way around: by reading the Saturday Evening Post and other magazines, seeing without hearing. So my talking is horrible. .

LiSe

 

[cal val]

Speaking of conjuring up images...

Luis to his beautiful daughter:

"No honey, that's not a beer gut... that's your baby brother."

 

[Sparhawk]

Hey, I don't have a beer belly! I'm a wine kind of guy (with a love for food, mind you). And I thought it was called a "love pouch"... (deeply offended)

L

 

[hippiguana]

LOL!!!

pregunta->pregnancy !! (chills down my spine)

ROTFL

I get away for the weekend and I find this great thread!

LUIS, I live in Mexico City, btw, your spanish is perfect. Where did you learn spanish?

VAL, it's nice to see you have such an appreciation for mexican culture! Yes I agree with you that Mexico is very colorful. Most people (especially outside the big cities) are very kind and warm. I honestly like my country very much. The food is awesome, especially when you become addicted to chile. ;O)

JOANG, thanks for your further advice. Indeed I remember that Angeles (that's her name) and I both enjoyed talking of non-work related subjects. I loved talking with her about magic, dream control, divination, astology... LOL, she told me I was the first man she had met that actually believed and was deeply interested in such subjects

Well, I have to plot my "hunting" approach *grin*, wish me luck!


hippi