How can I be forgiven? 56.1.6 > 55

[jsavane]

Hello,

I have a friend who is upset at me. She doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I don't know the reason of her resentment as she doesn't want to tell me but I would like to make amend.
So my question was "How can I be forgiven?"
I got 56.1.6 > 55

56.1.6 seems like it says that the situation is temporary (from line 1 to 6) but I need to be very careful when I'm going to try to apologize to her
55 : it is a very difficult situation but every will be back to normal after a long time (death + eclipse bad omen but victorious at the end)

am I reading the hex correctly?

Thanks in advance for you help.
Jeanne

 

[goddessliss]

Hi Jeanne,

Sounds to be like she thought something went down that wasn't quite fair.
For her it was quite a serious thing so I wouldn't try to jolly her out of it or make light of whatever seems to be very important to her, despite the fact that you don't know what it is all about.
Maybe sit with it and use your intuition to work out what it is even if what comes in seems trivial to you.
I am sure someone can shed a bit more light than me.
good luck
Melissa

 

[icastes]

The situation is very unstable and it may be that this friendship is beyond repair. It appears to me that you did something very careless (indicated by the 55 as well). I am not sure that even asking forgiveness or repenting will help you as the top moving line is a sign of disaster. However, 55 is full of good luck. Nevertheless, 55 is about to decline, even though the current fortune is good. Thus, it warns that you must not be complacent, neglectful, or relaxed in making up with your friend. Do not be extravagant, wasteful, or vain. Did you do something that changed your the way you live? Did you do something like move to another house or to change something at work or at home that made your friend upset without you even realizing it? Did you plan something together a while back, and you transgressed that understanding? It seems to me that you made a change or changes that made very her very upset.

 

[rosada]

It is apparent that the so-called friend is being emotionally abusive here. I suggest the I Ching is advising you to not even try to make amends but to move on a.s.a.p.:

56.1
If the wanderer busies himself with trivial things,
He draws misfortune upon himself.

Don't get caught up in this insulting treatment. Refuse to grovel. Preserve your dignity.

56.2
The bird's nest burns up.
The wanderer laughs first,
Then must needs lament and weep.
Through carelessness he loses his cow.
Misfortune.

Is this your so called friend mocking you and then missing you? Or it is cautioning you that even though you may feel a bit gleeful when you realize your friend will miss you way more than you will miss her, still it is a sad situation and not something to laugh about?

Either way I interpret these lines as saying unfortunately your so called friend has decided to break off with you in such an inappropriate manner that it is best you not try to stick around. Time to move on.

55. Abundance is about everything coming out in the open so perhaps if you do just let her go without further attempts to reconcile she will then seek you out and you will eventually learn what your big crime was. Or perhaps Abundance is simply saying that by deciding to move on you'll discover there is a whole world of folks out there who will welcome your caring nature so onward and upward!

-rosada

 

[pocossin]

How can I be forgiven? 56.1.6 > 55

You can be forgiven by continuing to be a friend. We cannot get close to each other without occasionally stepping on each others' toes. 56.1 is the toe level of hexagram 56. But feeling from these false steps quickly passes away (56.6), and the friendship is enlarged (55) by another trial overcome.

 

[anemos]

So my question was "How can I be forgiven?"
I got 56.1.6 > 55

Hi Jeanne

Perhaps Yi's answers has to do with the way you want to approach this situation. There is a conflict in your description of the situation and the question you asked. My guess is Yi trys to tell you that if your effort is just to be forgiven for something you don't really know you did it might be not a useful way to start.

Your situation and hex 55 situation have something in common. a difficult matter and a skilfull ruler. So in your reading, I see 56.1 & 6 as advises how to "rule" , how to tread how to restore the relationship.

Hope it helps

 

[rosada]

Perhaps 55. Abundance "Be like the sun at mid day" and "Thus the superior man decides lawsuits and carries out punishments" means you cannot be forgiven until it is out in the open and you know what you're asking to be forgiven for. When everything is out in the open THEN you can decide the lawsuit.

Getting to this point appears to be tricky -
56.1 and 56.6 read to me that although the actual offense may be minor if you aren't careful even discussing it might lead to further upset.

I hope you'll keep us informed!
-Rosada

 

[jsavane]

Thanks to everyone, your answers gave warmth to my heart.
I will of course keep you informed about this situation, but it might take a lot of time.

pocossin has put into words what I felt when I got these 2 hexagrams.

I also think that everybody advice to be careful while trying to solve the problem and that is another difficulty to overcome.
The reason of this situation should be something trivial to me but not to her.

It is a friendship of over 10 years and I don't want to move on.
So I ask "How this friendship will evolve?" and got 14.2.3.4.6 > 24
14 and 24 are rather auspicious I think but there are a lot of moving lines, so I don't know

whether it is good or not. Maybe it means that this friendship will be restored but all these

moving lines mean that it will needs a lot of humility and time.

What do you think?
Jeanne

 

[jsavane]

Hello all, and merry Christmas

just a little update on my situation.
Thanks to pre-christmas party at a friend's, I might be able to get in touch with my friend and we were able to talk briefly.
After this little chat and after watching her behavior at the party, I may have an idea about the reason she won't talk to me.
There is a man she likes a lot and she might think that there is something between him and me. (he was at the party).
I've already told her that I'm not interested in that man, but some behaviors from me or from him got misinterpreted. The truth is, I don't want to be romantically involved with him at all.
So I think there is a high probability the trivial thing to me but not to her is this.

So now, I just need to make her understand that.
I guess that this fits with the 2 predictions I got from the Iching.

Hope to have more good news to share for the new year
Jeanne

ps : btw, I don't have a "Thank you button". Is that normal?

 

[anon]

How did it turn out for you?