Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
uff, we are not a lover couple... we are just two women who met in a meditation retreat...
arent we?
Ha, I could mail her: Will u marry me?
(she is asexual, so we could just live together)...
we are far away from each other and have many misunderstandings or stuff - if there is no real personal encounter this is nothing good anymore...
I doubt I will meet her again or not so soon. some months ago she wantet to come to visit me this month. One weekend, but now I will be on retreat next two weeks.
Happily.
"Seeking Union is natural, but not without stress. Singleness of purpose attracts restlessness (from within and without); demands are made on you from all directions at once. Not all the people or all the feelings that appear will be helpful. Yu the Great conquered the Chinese floods through a lifetime of hard toil. When his work was complete and the land was safe, he summoned the lords and spirits to a meeting to found the new world. One of them, Fang Feng, came late; Yu had him executed. To re-create a world of relationships, like Yu, is good fortune. To hesitate and come late, like Fang, is not. The decisive leader has to eliminate the non-committal spirit, the one who procrastinates and isn't quite sure whether to believe in this new union."
Maybe I see her more like the hesitant lord... and am "executing her" and likewise...vice versa
somehow
Somehow.
but she is much younger and does not have any live experience like I have, she lives in the warm arms of her family clan all the time and cares for them a lot while I have to survive on my own, cut off from family here and there, just meeting from time to time as well - and I love my family as well. But the story is a bit different. Mostly more distance to my relatives except my children, which are kind of near by.
well, she helped me financially and yes, that was kind of positive for me.You asked how to handle this friend you don't like.
If you don't like her she isn't your friend so let it go.
The reading indeed shows a situation where trying to make things right hasn't worked. But line 4 says that's okay, there is a 'mandate' in this blockage. So for some reason it isn't a mistake for you to be experiencing negativity from this relationship, the hardship you work through has some kind of purpose. What kind of purpose I don't know. Either you get through this, come to a new understanding and the friendship continues or you learn that such friendships just aren't worth the pain. Line 6 says that the stagnation is over thrown but again I don't know if something positive happens in the relationship or you feel much better when you realise you aren't obligated to see or speak to her ever again, that it is your choice.
People do stay friends with people they dislike for years on end out of either a sense of loyalty or maybe a sense they need the person or the belief if only they could change everything would be fine.
Hexagram 8 asks you to choose who and what you belong with. You need to do this quite soon, make a choice.
From what I have read here it sounds like this isn't the right friend for you, she seems to disturb your peace of mind and makes you feel bad about yourself. No one needs friends who do that. Of course there can be constructive criticism between friends but even that doesn't work so well. After all there are millions of people in the world and you have just one life so don't spend it with people you don't like. You have to spend time with family but not with friends.
Yang pattern is 35, yin pattern 5. You could wait and see, just bear with it for a while longer, it's up to you I don't think the reading clearly says whether the good fortune in line 6 is for holding on to her or getting rid of her or not responding to her any more.
It does sound like you resent her. How does it benefit you to stay friends ? Make a list. If there are no benefits then just drop it. It's quite simple since you are not entangled in anyway are you ?
pf - somehow I hate her.
she makes me feel bad and vulnerable.
vulnerable is okay normally.
but waking up with bad thoughts is not
she wants to be right all the time and does not care about other peoples feelings regarding what she writes or says. she thinks inside her box and never looks from above
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).