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Hi,
I've been in a relationship for 2 months with a woman who I've been friend with since high school, though we rarely saw each other after graduation. I've asked I Ching what was the potential with her before our first date and I got 51.1.4 to 2 https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/fri...ats-the-potential-with-her-51-1-4-to-2.30278/
Yi's suggestion was to keep it slow and see where it develops, without overthinking, and so I did fairly well for the first weeks.
We had a lot of passion since we've been together, the problem is that she is going to move back to the city where she studies in October, and we kind of agreed about not having a long distance relationship since we started dating and we agreed about being like "friends with benefits", but we ended up falling in love. She is still convinced that having a long distance relationship would be like a torture, she just broke up like 6 months ago from a 2 years long distant relationship. I'm also convinced that it would be really hard, our hometown is on an island and we would have to take a flight each time we want to see each other, we're both still students and I come from a family which I don't think would be able to support me economically in this. She has to study another two years before graduating, I will graduate next year and then I could possibly move to the mainland. Initially, the idea was that we would go back to our usual life, keep in touch, maybe seeing each other when she comes back on holidays and stuff like that, and eventually dating again if we ever happen to live closer. That seemed to make so much sense to me at first but now it just sounds really sad and I think I would always regret not even trying. It won't be easy for both of us to separate from each other anyway, I would still want her for god knows how long and always wondering whether she found someone else already or not, if she's thinking about me etc.
So, after this few lines of text you'll realize already that I'm nowhere as relaxed as I was initially. We often avoid this kind of talk even though in intimate moments we say stuff like how hard it would be to separate, etc. But we almost end up saying not to think about it and enjoy the present. The problem is that the more time passes and I fall in love, the more I feel the time shortens and it's so overwhelming.
Since I avoid thinking about this huge burden, I found myself frowning or getting paranoid at really shallow things. We only had two fights, both because of me. In the first one, she didn't want to come to my place in the afternoon because the weather was really hot, and since we both don't drive, she would have to walk 15 mins to take the bus. Instead of proposing other plans, I frowned on that as if she didn't care enough etc. and she obviously got mad and we didn't talk for a couple hours, in which I feared she wanted to break up. I asked Yi "how can I fix this?" and I got 42.1 changing to 20. She said she was sorry that we didn't see each other and asked me for the next day...
Lately, it happened that we had to change plans for various reasons and we've barely seen each other once or twice a week. Sometimes she said she was tired in the afternoon (we have the habit of seeing each other at my place around that time, because there are no public transports after 22 PM) but then she would go out with her friend after dinner, because she can drive. Yesterday it happen again, she was tired for the afternoon but then she go out with her after dinner and came back really late. I complained that she didn't even ask me to join them and we had an argument because I don't ask her to go out with my friends either, but the problem wasn't really that, it was that sometimes it seems like I have more interest than she has.
And now of course she got upset again because of that and that didn't solve anything. I'm always worried that I'm too attached and that her would become cold, and my attitude can actually make this happen... I'm really insecure, even though she is a really wholesome and tender woman.
I know that 19 Nearing is related to 20 Contemplation, which I got after the first fight, and that has to mean something I guess. It sounds weird that I feel like I'm too attached but I got Nearing. The second hexagram though, Army, sounds like it teels me to discipline myself and I agree with that.
I've been in a relationship for 2 months with a woman who I've been friend with since high school, though we rarely saw each other after graduation. I've asked I Ching what was the potential with her before our first date and I got 51.1.4 to 2 https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/fri...ats-the-potential-with-her-51-1-4-to-2.30278/
Yi's suggestion was to keep it slow and see where it develops, without overthinking, and so I did fairly well for the first weeks.
We had a lot of passion since we've been together, the problem is that she is going to move back to the city where she studies in October, and we kind of agreed about not having a long distance relationship since we started dating and we agreed about being like "friends with benefits", but we ended up falling in love. She is still convinced that having a long distance relationship would be like a torture, she just broke up like 6 months ago from a 2 years long distant relationship. I'm also convinced that it would be really hard, our hometown is on an island and we would have to take a flight each time we want to see each other, we're both still students and I come from a family which I don't think would be able to support me economically in this. She has to study another two years before graduating, I will graduate next year and then I could possibly move to the mainland. Initially, the idea was that we would go back to our usual life, keep in touch, maybe seeing each other when she comes back on holidays and stuff like that, and eventually dating again if we ever happen to live closer. That seemed to make so much sense to me at first but now it just sounds really sad and I think I would always regret not even trying. It won't be easy for both of us to separate from each other anyway, I would still want her for god knows how long and always wondering whether she found someone else already or not, if she's thinking about me etc.
So, after this few lines of text you'll realize already that I'm nowhere as relaxed as I was initially. We often avoid this kind of talk even though in intimate moments we say stuff like how hard it would be to separate, etc. But we almost end up saying not to think about it and enjoy the present. The problem is that the more time passes and I fall in love, the more I feel the time shortens and it's so overwhelming.
Since I avoid thinking about this huge burden, I found myself frowning or getting paranoid at really shallow things. We only had two fights, both because of me. In the first one, she didn't want to come to my place in the afternoon because the weather was really hot, and since we both don't drive, she would have to walk 15 mins to take the bus. Instead of proposing other plans, I frowned on that as if she didn't care enough etc. and she obviously got mad and we didn't talk for a couple hours, in which I feared she wanted to break up. I asked Yi "how can I fix this?" and I got 42.1 changing to 20. She said she was sorry that we didn't see each other and asked me for the next day...
Lately, it happened that we had to change plans for various reasons and we've barely seen each other once or twice a week. Sometimes she said she was tired in the afternoon (we have the habit of seeing each other at my place around that time, because there are no public transports after 22 PM) but then she would go out with her friend after dinner, because she can drive. Yesterday it happen again, she was tired for the afternoon but then she go out with her after dinner and came back really late. I complained that she didn't even ask me to join them and we had an argument because I don't ask her to go out with my friends either, but the problem wasn't really that, it was that sometimes it seems like I have more interest than she has.
And now of course she got upset again because of that and that didn't solve anything. I'm always worried that I'm too attached and that her would become cold, and my attitude can actually make this happen... I'm really insecure, even though she is a really wholesome and tender woman.
I know that 19 Nearing is related to 20 Contemplation, which I got after the first fight, and that has to mean something I guess. It sounds weird that I feel like I'm too attached but I got Nearing. The second hexagram though, Army, sounds like it teels me to discipline myself and I agree with that.