How can I prepare for romantic love to come into my life? 53.1.3.5

[NightTree]

First I asked: What can I do to connect with the man I'm meant to be with? (I don't know who he is yet.)
51.4 changing to 24
I took this to mean I am bogged down or blocked, possibly by past hurts and/or a deep-seated hopelessness, and I need to return to some former state of openness in order for this connection to occur.

Then I asked: What can I do to PREPARE for romantic love to come into my life?
53.1.3.5 changing to 27
I took this to mean it's a process, I have possibly been giving my energy to the wrong person or the wrong idea, so I should stop that, and know that in the end things will work out and nourishing love will come. ?? not so sure about this one.

Extra info: I'm 43. I'm not dating. I have recently been in touch with an ex fiancé who hurt me deeply and pretty continuously for 4 years, though we loved each other deeply. I haven't been in a relationship with anyone since we split over 2 years ago. We talk on the phone fairly often. I can't help but think of getting back together with him, though I know that's probably a bad idea.

I really love a sweet friend whom I know has feelings for me, too, but he is married and we are both good people: I don't see him as available, but I do think about him a LOT.

An extremely intuitive psychic who was spot-on about a number of things told me one month ago that a particular man in my community (I know of him but I haven't ever met him in person) is the man I'll be with. She said he would come into my life in October.

I would be grateful for any extra clarity on both of these I Ching readings, especially the second one. Thank you for your insights.

 

[rosada]

I see 51.4 - 24 as referring to how after the shock of the split up you have gotten bogged down (51.4), you haven't completely washed that man out of your hair. You need to close that fantasy down and Return (24) to seeing yourself as single.

As for how to prepare for a new relationship I recommend you look into fengshui, the art of arranging the things in your home to support your goals. The far back right hand corner is the love area. Don't have any clutter in this place and put something like a picture of love birds that symbolizes partnership here or flowers.