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Dear all,
Happy new year.
I have emailed back and forth with ex and got to several points that I almost got into the fight or drama again when I got the response from ex with big words. I hold my emotions as the previous reading Iching suggested me to avoid fight. Then ex felt I have been keeping feelings from him, being so careful for words and too polite, so I don't know how to approach to this relation and know what I want from this reconnection. Would anyone help me to read this? I hope to solve the last year's problems and blocks in this coming months.
The general diagnosis of this relation? 16.6>35
What is x's position in this relation? 49.5>55
What's my posiiton in? 54.2.4>24
What's my best way to relate to this relation? 44.4.6>48
Thanks very much. :bows:
wondering what does 16.6 say to you ? It seems a very stark and clear answer to your question to me but it doesn't seem useful somehow just to tell you what i think it may mean when I reckon you must already have a pretty good idea .
I don't think these readings are very ambiguous but i reckon its more helpful for you in this instance to go at least halfway to figuring them for yourself. Otherwise you are at the mercy of others ideas about your reading when here i can't see a reason to be because as a series of answers it paints quite a clear picture IMO..and i could be wrong which is why it may be preferable to paint your own picture first..or at least the outlines of it ?
What do you think ?
Dear all,
Happy new year.
I have emailed back and forth with ex and got to several points that I almost got into the fight or drama again when I got the response from ex with big words. I hold my emotions as the previous reading Iching suggested me to avoid fight. Then ex felt I have been keeping feelings from him, being so careful for words and too polite, so I don't know how to approach to this relation and know what I want from this reconnection. Would anyone help me to read this? I hope to solve the last year's problems and blocks in this coming months.
The general diagnosis of this relation? 16.6>35
What is x's position in this relation? 49.5>55
What's my posiiton in? 54.2.4>24
What's my best way to relate to this relation? 44.4.6>48
Thanks very much. :bows:
Okay I'll give you my take, its very different to yours.
Do you really want to get back with him ? If you really really do then take my interpretation lightly...but I'm really wondering if you do deep down ?
Q1 general diagnosis 16.6 generally misplaced enthusiasm..thats why i ask are you sure you want this. There may be very exagerated expectations from you or him, one of you or both of you not being very realistic. This is okay if you come back down to earth and have a look at whats really possible between you
Q2 Xs position...well taken at face value he wants a whole new scene, something really different. i don't know if he wants things between you to be really different or whether he looking out to others also
Q3 Your position..well its not great fun. In 54.2 you feel pretty much alone and you're not the one calling the shots...does it seem like you are waiting around for him all the time while hes off doing something else ? 54.4 may suggest in time things may improve with him but I also think it may indicate that you may do well to let him go and remain free for someone else who is much better suited to you. The advice in 54.4 is not to rush into things that are second best, wait till you feel really happy with someone before comitting. 24 makes me think it more likley that returning to your own true values is your way through this
Q4 best way to relate to this relation.44.4.6..well geez Sally to me this says the best way is to walk...and keep walking.
I didn't understand your interpretations. Couldn't see why you thought 16.6 meant he thought you were ambiguous ?...but anyway i see in your last post you are struggling with your feelings because he betrayed you and sounds like he is trying to convince you he's changed but maybe you don't really trust that ? Frankly your answers tell me you may be better off without this relationship..if it doesn't feel right trust your own feelings..54.4 indicates there may be a more suitable partner for you so think before comitting to him again.
however if you truly want to get back together with him of course you must follow your own feelings above any readings you get here.(.we can always be wrong)..but I'm wondering do you truly want that ? Hmm if you do 16.6 indicates that if you can be realistic about whats possible in the relationship then theres more chance for it to work...but 54.2 is no good place for a girl to be in a romantic liason IMO, well not unless shes very patient and undemanding. Seems theres quite an imbalance between you if your position is 54.2.4 and his is 49.5..
Thanks very much for your help!
16.6 I read according to this <http://www.yijing.nl/i_ching/hex_1-16/hex_e_16.htm>,
but I guess I misread by my own wishes or illusions.
I don't want to commit to him again, but I think I should have a good friendly relation with him. and want to be friend, so I can really get rid of those emotions from the last year.
But I find it is hard from my position. I am not really a clear-cut person. he keeps wanting more, asking me to tell him my feelings, or saying some big words(wanting to be a good husband, father, ask me do i know he loves me..... ), but I also knew he had the other relationship after the breakup. Maybe he just wanted to calm things down or he thought it is what I expected from him. so I get a little bit confused and not know how to respond and how to lead this reconnection within a limit, not overwhelming.
I asked the other question:
with respect, what can I expect to connect in a friendship and totally abandon the ideas of any possible relationship? 33.3.5>35
What can I expect if I don't try to be friends either? 62
This is also a very firm answer that this relation is just not what I want. the better way to do is walking away from the love relationship, but trying to be friend is good right?
Thank you.
I have tried to figure out what is enough about just being friend not crossing into the relationship conversation. oh, I don't have kids with ex. yea, it is what confused me before that he seems to try to make me feel he is ready to commit to me. But his previous behaviors were just not.
I am glad that I have learned to take a man's actions, not his words.
Thanks for your reply.
I think I need to feel what I want and can do within the limit while I am reconnecting with ex, as well as to figure out the boundary from no communication at all, only be civil when the communication is needed, to being just friends, to being 'close, best' friends.
I guess iching doesn't say which level is good or bad.
I need to figure out what iching means "within my limit."
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).