If I don't divorce and stay with my husband? 38 What if I divorce my husband? 12.1.2 to 10

[Fortuny1889]

Dear translucent community,
I asked these two questions a few days apart.

the first, if not divorce, seems very clear to me: 38. We would remain together but with different interests, under the same roof but as strangers. Without a profound exchange and perhaps within a superficial interaction ... It is as we are living now. It makes me think that there wouldn't be much to do, just little things. Perhaps advantage in daily home life? collaborate in keeping the house clean and sharing expenses. Like two roommates.

The second question is already the second time I pose it .. I forgot the first answer so I did it again.
What if I divorce from my husband?
12.1.2> 10 is more cryptic to me. 12 scares me and even 10 is not encouraging. I see putting order in one's life (lines 1 and 2) but then? that's all?
Yi seems to say it's not such a scary thing. OK, that's all?

Is there anything else and I can't catch it?
Can anyone help me? It is important for me..

thanks and a hug,
F.

 

[rosada]

I think you got the answer to your first question right - if you don't divorce you can expect at least that you will be able to live amicably like siblings.

Asking "What if I divorce?" is a tricky question because it could be referring to so many different things. Like are you asking how it will be for your relationship or your health or what? Anyway, it seems to me to be emphasizing that if you do divorce you will be starting your life over and that might be hard to do but I don't think 10 is a negative here, more like a warning that with a husband there are certain things about your present arrangement that are nice, a roof over your head, someone to share expenses, and if you become single you are facing Life (the Tiger) on your own.

 

[Fortuny1889]

I think you got the answer to your first question right - if you don't divorce you can expect at least that you will be able to live amicably like siblings.

Asking "What if I divorce?" is a tricky question because it could be referring to so many different things. Like are you asking how it will be for your relationship or your health or what? Anyway, it seems to me to be emphasizing that if you do divorce you will be starting your life over and that might be hard to do but I don't think 10 is a negative here, more like a warning that with a husband there are certain things about your present arrangement that are nice, a roof over your head, someone to share expenses, and if you become single you are facing Life (the Tiger) on your own.

Both questions related to my life in general: what will it be like if I don’t divorce? and if divorce?

So, yes ... like you said too: if we stay together it would be the same living with a brother. In fact we both have a good character and never argue. Little passion and a lot of flatness. No thanks.

The second ... it's true: I'll be alone for the first time in my life, I'll be alone on my way. It is a bit scary but surprises can also be exciting.

Of course, though seeing that 12 makes me anxious ...

 

[rosada]

Do you subscribe to WikiWing on this site? It contains a wealth of information. For example, if you go there you'll read how 12. Obstruction or Standstill is also known as Separation - a very fitting hexagram for your question! Also the hexagram isn't so much as telling you something is bad, rather it's telling you how to navigate something so it won't be bad. For example, The Image (the key advice) for hexagram 12 says it's best not to accept revenue. So if you decide to divorce there may be some issues around how you divide your mutual belongings and you may need to be prepared to not come away with much. Anyway, 12.2 and 12.3 are both about separating and how it can be hard but doable. The line up of planets for the next 6 months or so emphasize seeing things realistically and major transformations. (Saturn connecting with Pluto). It's a good time for being able to see what needs to change and doing it - or risk having change forced upon you. This makes me think you shouldn't just sigh and keep on keeping on. Is your partner aware of your ambivalence? It may be you just need to start a conversation about how things can be improved. You can order astrological charts online that are written specifically for couples. Reading one together creates a safe way to bring up areas that need addressing. It gives you a way to discuss things that otherwise are hard to handle. Like it might give you an excuse to say, "Hmm..I see I have Venus in Sagittarius which gives a love of travel and you have Venus in Taurus that tends to want to stay put but is happy once it knows the routine. How about we make it our routine to travel out to dinner once a week?" Of course it might also give you an excuse to say, "Hmm..it appears we make better friends than lovers, what do you think?"
jm2c.

 

[Fortuny1889]

Hi Rosada!
my husband and I are already very clear that we will separate and we are trying to organize ourselves in this regard.
We've been talking about it for 1 years (it was me who pulled the pink elephant from under the carpet) and now he agrees to separate us. Maybe he has another woman... I don't know but it doesn't matter.
We will remain good friends, that's what we want.
My only problem is my family that hinders this decision, but they will make a right. My parents are very close to him and care about his life.

Beyond these details, I can tell you that I am Capricorn ascendant Capricorn. Saturn is my planet, so you gave me only good news.

And what can you tell me about hexagram 10? The tiger who lets it be, who it is?