I'm over my cynacism, the universe does not in fact hate me. :D

[asci_blue]

First things guys, thanks for all the awesome help in the past, the Yi was 100% correct when it told me I'd be the owner of an Arrest Me Red (Golf for you Europeans) GTI. On July 6 2007, this dream was made a reality and I am enjoying my car immensely.

Now for those who've kept up with me as far as one particular lady is concerned I've asked time and time again and always I get perseverance will bring success. Due to another member I rephrased the question to "What can I do to improve my situation with X" I received 3 changing lines 3 and 4 to 49. I notice that the third and forth lines contradict each other perfectly. 3 says do not go forward, yet line 4 says to proceed if seeking a union.

I'm almost thinking that it might be time to ask for help with the situation to the tune of find out how she's doing but make it so she has to tell me herself, since my work schedule changed I have perfectly viable reasons to not be around to ask her myself and my roomies are on my side as far as her needing to step up to the situation and tell me one way or another. My only other idea involves coming up with a lame reason to be in the same place at the same time she is and ask her myself. I've already got a valid, honest, yet lame reason to do so but it feels a bit extreme to me.

 

[bruce_g]

It feels lame to go to her and ask her? It doesn't sound lame, it sounds logical. If it's lame or difficult now, how would be when you are married to her? Maybe that question isn't relevant to you, I don't know. But if it is, I think it's worth asking yourself, and possibly worth asking her as well. Communication is the means to understanding, and there's nothing worse than believing your mate/spouse doesn't understand you. I believe a man can love when he feels understood, and a woman can understand when she feels loved. Not just any man or woman, of course; they first must be able to communicate easily and openly.

 

[hexagon]

I believe a man can love when he feels understood, and a woman can understand when she feels loved. Not just any man or woman, of course; they first must be able to communicate easily and openly.

This advice may sound simple, but it is, in fact, profound. When a man gets that a woman needs to feel loved, then union will result if there is interest. You seem to have all the moves figured out based on advice you gave "Painful Courtship", but if you slow down enough to enjoy her company in order to bring out your softer side, and hers, you will find success, provided she is interested in you.
I am going through a similar situation, and in this case, I am a woman. I am not getting the guy I am infatuated with, and it's frustrating!

Laurie

 

[willowfox]

"What can I do to improve my situation with X" I received 3 changing lines 3 and 4 to 49.

Hex 3.3 yes, it does say stop chasing her for the moment because you are walking on quicksand.

Hex 3.4 says that your problem is a difficult one and to get anywhere with it, then you will most likely need help. So, I presume you will have to go ask your room mates now for that help.

Hex 49 this is about changing the situation completely, how you approached her in the past is no longer valid, you will need the help of others, discuss the issue with them so that a new plan of action can be obtained, so think it all out, so when you do get to be in contact with her she will listen and be sympathetic to your cause. End of August looks hot.

 

[asci_blue]

As far as things go, I usually try to e-mail her something once every couple weeks. A short this is how I am, how are you. I get no replies. I get my new ride figured I'd tell her cause I'm telling...everyone and they congratulate me. She gives me nothing. In the event that I could enjoy her company I would be posting here asking how to determine the next step to take with her, not how the crap do I get to see her in person alone.

Going to her does not sound lame, but it sounds a tad too stalker-like. If she lived in town and I rolled by where she works I could come up with a simple 'I needed X and was on my way home/out." She lives 30 miles away so coming up with a reason to be at a place at that time 30 miles away...is a bit of a stretch.

Now dear Laurie, what are you unable to do with the infatuation of your's? More importantly what have you done to attempt to land this fine lad?