Insight/thoughts please on changing 21?

[kdedeaux4]

I've been having some terribly frustrating and chronic issues with my boyfriend lately! It feels as though things went from near perfection to near disaster over night and while we've discussed things at length, I'm still truly confused and disoriented as to exactly *why* this is happening!
It feels as though all communication between us is now obstructed! We talk and talk and talk and yet, it seems to go in circles Or, I'll think something is resolved and then it almost immediately comes back up and leads to the same argument as before it was "resolved"!
Right now, it feels like a roller coaster and although my feelings for him are very sincere and deep, I'm so tempted to throw in the towel and throw my hands up in despair and frustration. In fact, I almost fear he is intentionally twisting things simply in order to have a disagreement!!?! It's as though nothing I say or do can make this stop and more words from me, no matter how tactful or non-argumentative, only add to the troubles. I'm at a loss:-(
I asked the I Ching for a picture of where things stand right now between us and received 21.1.2.4.5 --->59.
Some of this sounds like it fits into our situation, but I struggle comprehending the bigger message with so many changing lines (in fact, I wondered if there are so many because he seems to fluctuate so very quickly from one extreme to another!)
21.2 implies deeper issues than on the surface and that certainly seems to be the case! 21.4 sounds accurate as these obstacles really seem insurmountable right now and yet 21.5 inplies this may not be permanent, but rather another step along our path in learning and growing within our relationship.
Not sure what relating hex 59 is saying...
I'd be very grateful for some outside, objective thoughts on this reading. i confess, my mind (and my heart:-( ) feel just muddled. And it's truly very painful to experience these extremes and hover between just giving up and riding it through...
Namaste':bows:

 

[yxeli]

21 to 59 to me suggests that even though your feeling really frustrated with this process of getting down to the underlying bones of the issue, this is a timely thing to happen between you. I like loftings name for 59, disspelling illusions. It fits with the idea that theres something underneath that needs to be brought to the surface and removed.

If theres lots of issues, maybe just start with the most prominent one. Try to gnaw yourself away from the circles he's weaving, get him to focus on one main thing thats causing this mess. And you too. Instead of relating everything together which will just cause more confusion, try to keep these conversations very much based on one particular issue, until you both are on the same page. Are there alot of presumptions happening between you? 59 kind of suggests that theres some idea that is somehow being taken as truth but needs to be taken out, discussed thoroughly, and thrown away.

Hope this helps

Yx

 

[kdedeaux4]

Are there alot of presumptions happening between you? 59 kind of suggests that theres some idea that is somehow being taken as truth but needs to be taken out, discussed thoroughly, and thrown away.

Oh Yx...thank you for responding
Ohhhhhh my, yes there are "presumptions"....in fact, that's the very basis of the issue in itself...these ridiculous (and quickly becoming chronic)presumptions which lead to jealous tantrums. Meanwhile, I'm still lost and usually unaware of the presumption itseslf and where on earth it formed from to begin with, as my boyfriend seems to be developing a very suspicious and overactive imagination. Typically,I believe where there's smoke there's probably a fire lurking about somewhere. However, these "smoke signals" he keeps seeing are more like buckets of water!!! And I'm spinning trying to understand, much less to figure out how to combat the situation(s). I adore him and his presumptions are way unrealistic and certainly do

need to be taken out and thrown away

!
Your insight not only was spot on, but also helps to give me some extra hope that there may be light at the end of this frustrating silliness and gumption to not throw in the towel over this ridiculousness.
I never would have gotten this from this casting...certainly not your very fitting understanding of hex 59 in this situation... and that would have been unfortunate because I really needed to hear/understand this I Ching message.
Great big thanks to you
~kd