Intervention 31.6>33

[ontheroad]

To cut a long story short a friend of mine's wife thought the grass was greener on the other side and left him for a another man.
A few years or more down the track it has become very obvious that this is a awful and toxic relationship but the wife feels helpless and vulnerable and feels unable to remove herself from the situation.
Her (ex) husband still cares about her a lot and would like to intervene and help her get out of the situation and rebuild a relationship as a family as there's also been a breakdown of relations between her and her adult children as well. He's not looking to reconcile the marriage.

What is the chance he could break up this relationship
31.6>33
Stop talking about it and take action

What action can he take to progress the demise of their relationship
43.2.3.551
Line 2 - it won't be that hard really as it seems neither party will try to stop this happening

Line 3 - his wife is may still feel vulnerable especially as the partner may taunt her with his toxic behaviour but she believes it will bring her better things if she leaves

Line 5 - someone or something unexpected may help bring this family back together. They need to decide if it's the best approach

What does (ex)husband need to know about doing distance Reiki healing towards her as his starting point
61.5>41
Line 5 - helping others energetically

 

[Liselle]

61.5's surprising. I have no idea what Reiki is, but I wouldn't have thought any such thing would be helpful in any concrete way. Unless doing it would solidify his resolve or something. (Which, "resolve" could be the 43 from the other reading...)

I agree with you about 31.6, but since you asked "what is the chance," I wonder if it could also mean that whatever he has in mind will be seen as well-intentioned but empty words? Something like - and I do realize the irony of saying this on a thread of yours - if he's not trying to put their marriage back together, does she have a decent income and would she have a place to live and things like that? What does "intervene and help her get out of the situation" actually mean?

What can he do?
43.2 - he's alarmed, so declare that.
43.3 - he shouldn't worry about being badly received or possibly failing.
43.5 - I never feel like I understand this. Part of it is just deciding whether it's worth it, and the line doesn't clearly say it is or isn't. What it does say is that action should be centred. Not too much, but not too little, either.

Also it's line 5, the king's line - maybe no one but a king can make this kind of decision. (One example of mine: it took the vet to know what to do about my cat's teeth, which was nothing, since what I had thought was a problem was a normal result of age, not something that needed treatment. If I'd tried to decide, I might have done wrong things.)


There are, of course, dangers in asking Yi what someone else should do about their problems, and probably also about you trying to explain to him what an oracle told you he should do about his (actually his ex-wife's) problems, if that is what you intend. There are quite a few increments of remove and distance there, and chances for messages to be garbled.

For that matter, I suppose there's no guarantee Yi's not saying this isn't the way to go about it. If so then there's no message to deliver - the readings aren't actually answering the questions. Not saying that's definitely the case, though. I have no idea.

Does he know about the Yijing, would he be receptive?

 

[Trojina]

Is it about you and your ex ontheroad and you made it about someone else to get distance ? Just reminds me of your ex's toxic relationship that's all. Also it makes a big difference to interpretation if you are asking for you, if you're asking for someone else it's much harder because the distance. Sorry to ask but it's the first thing I thought on reading your post, it looks a mirror image of your life

 

[ontheroad]

Is it about you and your ex ontheroad and you made it about someone else to get distance ? Just reminds me of your ex's toxic relationship that's all. Also it makes a big difference to interpretation if you are asking for you, if you're asking for someone else it's much harder because the distance. Sorry to ask but it's the first thing I thought on reading your post, it looks a mirror image of your life

It really does seem like that, maybe that's why I understand it so well and want to help.
He was there and asked the questions but I didn't know how to write it up on here. If I'd posted it as if I'd asked the questions then it would look like it was my story....I guess I could adjust it and mention it's not actually me??

 

[ontheroad]

Thanks Liselle - Intervention in this case means being there for her to give her the strength in herself to leave. She's financially self sufficient but these sorts of relationships breakdown your self confidence in believing you can make it on your own.
There's a reason the word codependency exists.....this is what can happen in toxic relationships.
Reiki works for me so he's said let's try it for her and see what happens.

 

[Trojina]

To cut a long story short a friend of mine's wife thought the grass was greener on the other side and left him for a another man.
A few years or more down the track it has become very obvious that this is a awful and toxic relationship but the wife feels helpless and vulnerable and feels unable to remove herself from the situation.

Tough. I mean she chose to leave and it is totally her problem to get out if she wants to. It's certainly not down to your friend to stage any kind of intervention surely. It sounds bizarre to me.

What is the chance he could break up this relationship
31.6>33
Stop talking about it and take action

None - it's just talk.

But he ought not to be trying surely, it's not his business.

What action can he take to progress the demise of their relationship
43.2.3.551
Line 2 - it won't be that hard really as it seems neither party will try to stop this happening

That is a very strange question as you're asking if this friend can make their relationship end. No.
I mean there's talk and declarations here, how far that goes other than create alarm I don't know.

What does (ex)husband need to know about doing distance Reiki healing towards her as his starting point
61.5>41
Line 5 - helping others energetically

I'd say it was attempting to use Reiki a bit like voodoo or something...You can't make people do things through reiki.

I think your friend needs to back off and let his ex wife sort her own mess out, she's not his problem


I guess 61.5 would favour distance healing as healing for her highest good without specifying any particular outcome

 

[ontheroad]

Thanks Trojina- I think he's becoming aware of most of what you said now he's talking it out and that's how the Reiki came into it.


I guess 61.5 would favour distance healing as healing for her highest good without specifying any particular outcome

 

[Liselle]

Trojina, I was confused about this, too, obviously, but I think (?) Ontheroad means these are actually the husband's questions and readings and she's just helping him with it and posting them here.

He was there and asked the questions but I didn't know how to write it up on here. If I'd posted it as if I'd asked the questions then it would look like it was my story....I guess I could adjust it and mention it's not actually me??

Of course it might be better if he made an account here himself, he's always welcome to do that of course.

 

[Trojina]

Trojina, I was confused about this, too, obviously, but I think (?) Ontheroad means these are actually the husband's questions and readings and she's just helping him with it and posting them here.

I know.

 

[ontheroad]

Of course it might be better if he made an account here himself, he's always welcome to do that of course.

Of course but I doubt he'd use it himself....it was a spur of the moment decision to get Yi to help