Is this worth pursuing any further? Hex 32.4.6 ->18

[pink_panther]

First I want to say thank you to this wonderful community for all their help so far in my situation.

Quick overview, been broken up for 8 months with my ex, doing my best to move on. He keeps sending me messages that he is interested, but nothing concrete. I'm getting tired of the little mind games.

I recently met someone new, who I have alot in common with and seems to be more grounded (and less interested in mind games) than my ex. It's been 8 months. I'm really getting exhausted of the ups and downs with this person and am ready to move on, but keep feeling like I'm being dragged back.

I asked Iching if it is worth it to keep holding out for my ex to get his act together or just move on and got

Hexagram 32.4.6 changing to 18.

Its hard to determine wether this means move on and repair your life for a new beginning or work on "what's been spoiled" aka my relationship with my ex.

32.4 says No game in the field , which makes me think this is a fruitless pusuit.

32.6 Restlessness as a enduring condition brings misfortune, which to me seems like my ex's behavior of advancing and withdrawing (being inconsistent for the past 8 months). I care about this person but this is exhausting. I feel like if he really wants to reunite he needs to be more straight up with me.

Any advice or insight on this reading is greatly appreciated as always.

Thank you! :bows:

 

[Tim K]

32.4, Daniels: You may need to reconsider your goals.
32.6, Daniels: Your continual effort is exhausting you.

Plain and simple - no way.

32.6, Richmond: If we are not accepting the active emerging life force as the source of our next activity [read as relationship] there is a tendency to prolong our present outer situation, especially in this tao of long duration.

Transitional 46.6, Wilhelm: Pushing upward in darkness.
It furthers one to be unremittingly persevering.

Move on already, there's no point in holding on to the old circumstances.
Allow them to 18 decay, h19 new approach is coming.

 

[taoscopy]

I asked Iching if it is worth it to keep holding out for my ex to get his act together or just move on and got

Hexagram 32.4.6 changing to 18.

32: you need to continue, but continue what?
-> follow-up question: what shall I continue?


line 6: is about asking you to come back
line 4 tells you that if he does not ask you in time then you can stop talking to him

outcome is 18: it's about abandoning your relationship I guess

follow-up question 1: what are the affairs that I need to abandon?
follow-up question 2: what are my most embarrassing flaws (but you should keep what the Yi told you private of course)

32 - Perseverance

One must be careful before committing themself, after they must continue.

4 - If one does not take care of it while there is still time then they will see nothing.

6 - One is asked to come back to continue because they rushed.
In the making
18 - Disorder

One needs to abandon their affairs and make themself available to patiently soften their most embarrassing flaws, in order to be able to inspire trust and be engaged by those who can help them.

 

[mirian]

Sorry, but in a nutshell, no. And no need to ask any follow-up questions either.:bows:

 

[pink_panther]

Thanks guys. I've decided to block him on all social media and delete his number. I'm sure he will continue to reach out, but I have the final decision on this. I'm just going to ignore his calls/text messages from now on.

I think a part of me is a bit anxious about closing the door permanently with this guy since I met this new person but its time. Eight months is more than enough time for him to have made his intentions clear.

Wish me luck with this new endeavor. We have alot more in common and he doesn't have the baggage that my ex has. To a brighter future!

-Pink Panther :bows:

 

[Tim K]

Now that you've made the decision I think it will be ok to mention that I've got 32.4 one time,
when asking should I go to some place to find some things I needed.

I decided not to, and in a couple of days I've learned that there was a fire earlier that week, and the building was closed to business.

 

[pink_panther]

wow Ashteroid. I know deep down that this decision needed to be made a long time ago. This relationship has been on and off for two years prior to the breakup.

What's gut wrenching is knowing that he will contact me again, I just have to be smart enough to just ignore it and keep doing my thing. Eventually he will get the hint.

At least I feel hopeful that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that I do have a happy future because I've eliminated the "rot."

Thanks again to everyone!

 

[innertruth]

For me, no game in the field line has always meant - nothing to look for.
Either your feeling are not reciprocated. OR it is not what you are really looking for