It’s too early to ask?

[Mylife]

I m planning my IUI for a pregnancy which will begin in May/June. Because it is not a natural pregnancy but it will be with artificial insemination I tought to ask the oracle if my baby will be healthy and without abnormalities. Do you think it’s too early to ask for advice?
I got unclear answers which I don’t understand. I asked 3 times and 3 times I can’t interpret the answer. Seems unrelated.
when do you think is a good time to ask for oracle advice on the baby’s health?

 

[Trojina]

I'm just wondering what purpose there is in asking? I'm thinking you'd be far better off not asking and just taking it as it comes?

Also yes I think it's too early. I know nothing about the process but this pregnancy hasn't even begun yet you say so does it make sense to ask for a prediction of the health of a being who doesn't exist yet?

I ask what purpose asking serves because I can't see how it will help you? If you get worrying answers you will just worry and what's the point? It's not like if you get answers that worry you you would end the process since a Yi answer is not the same as a medical prognosis. Likewise if you get pleasing answers they are also not medical prognosis. So overall I only see that asking will increase your anxiety levels which won't be good for you.

It is of course quite understandable you'd want to ask, but surely not at this stage. And while it is completely normal for you to want to ask at a later stage my own view is you would be better off just staying with the facts of what the scans show and so on. You don't want to find reasons to worry do you and the more casts you cast the more worried you will probably become. It might help first to think about in what ways asking this question will help you ?

 

[Mylife]

I'm just wondering what purpose there is in asking? I'm thinking you'd be far better off not asking and just taking it as it comes?

Also yes I think it's too early. I know nothing about the process but this pregnancy hasn't even begun yet you say so does it make sense to ask for a prediction of the health of a being who doesn't exist yet?

I ask what purpose asking serves because I can't see how it will help you? If you get worrying answers you will just worry and what's the point? It's not like if you get answers that worry you you would end the process since a Yi answer is not the same as a medical prognosis. Likewise if you get pleasing answers they are also not medical prognosis. So overall I only see that asking will increase your anxiety levels which won't be good for you.

It is of course quite understandable you'd want to ask, but surely not at this stage. And while it is completely normal for you to want to ask at a later stage my own view is you would be better off just staying with the facts of what the scans show and so on. You don't want to find reasons to worry do you and the more casts you cast the more worried you will probably become. It might help first to think about in what ways asking this question will help you ?

Spot on. I agree with you on a rational way. But I have been on so many medications and treatments and operations in the past 2 years in order to achieve the pregnancy. And because of this I have a paranoia that all those medications and chemicals that I took, ( and still need to take for the future until the baby is convinced), might affect the baby development. I got a worry and paranoia that is going on now. And not sure how to calm down For the IUI and fertility issue I have to take some pills and those have a small percentage (5% or so) of risk for the baby in regards of all sort of issues. I know I might appear stupid but I am stuck in this worry mood. I want to carry on with the artificial insemination (IUI) but I am worry about the baby’s health and development due to the pill I took and still need to take. And not sure what to ask or how to ask for advice or an insight.

 

[Trojina]

I don't think you are stupid at all, it's a very worrying time, do feel perfectly free to ask and post any question you want to. I only wanted to highlight you could exacerbate the worries you have if you ask at this early stage. You say

And not sure how to calm down S

I'm not sure Yi is the best way to calm down in this particular instance. The thing is I bet even if you had a reassuring answer you'd still worry and want to ask again? And then you'd ask again and get something you don't understand and then worry more.

And not sure what to ask or how to ask for advice or an insight.

This worry about pills you take/have taken is surely something your Drs and nurses could ease your mind on?

You asked if it was too early to ask advice about the baby's health. I gave my view but it is entirely up to you when you ask but please try not to let answers freak you out if you do.

 

[Mylife]

I don't think you are stupid at all, it's a very worrying time, do feel perfectly free to ask and post any question you want to. I only wanted to highlight you could exacerbate the worries you have if you ask at this early stage. You say


I'm not sure Yi is the best way to calm down in this particular instance. The thing is I bet even if you had a reassuring answer you'd still worry and want to ask again? And then you'd ask again and get something you don't understand and then worry more.


This worry about pills you take/have taken is surely something your Drs and nurses could ease your mind on?

You asked if it was too early to ask advice about the baby's health. I gave my view but it is entirely up to you when you ask but please try not to let answers freak you out if you do.

Thank you for your support. Very much appreciated with all my heart
I will focus to get pregnant first and maybe I will ask about the baby’s health at later stage, when it exists so I can get a more concrete answer. Or maybe I will just go with the doctors feedback. Thanks again