It hurts.. 35->25, 40->47

[newcomer]

Another relationship issue... As old as the world itself... We were happy together, made for each other and very passionate. And we broke the rules - both being very happily married. I don't know why we did it, there was never any guilt or regret. We were so carried away, that there were only 2 ways out for us - either to leave our families and be together or... He wanted to leave his wife, I wasn't ready to leave my husband. He couldn't carry on and broke up with me, because as he said the relationship we had wasn't enough for him. He didn't want to be lovers anymore. When I was ready for a big step it was too late. We see each other every day (we work together), he always asks me out for coffee and lunch, we hardly talk, just sit there looking at each other. He refused to get back together, saying he had made the decision but he can't let me go. Said he still loves me, but the situation caused him so much pain he doesn't want to go back. I miss him badly, every day and every minute. It feels like the sky has fallen down on me. I love my family and my husband (ironic, isn't it) but I just can't let him go either. We make each other suffer.. I am trying hard to accept the situation though... So, I asked
- what should i do to feel better and how will this situation end for me. the answer was
35.2.5 --> 25
- what he thinks and feels and how this situation will end for him. the answer was
40.5 -->47
I'll be happy to listen to any opinions - should I leave him in peace and just move on or should I try it again... Is it really that painful for him?..
It will help me to accept the situation and to move on. Thanks

 

[elias]

- what should i do to feel better and how will this situation end for me. the answer was
35.2.5 --> 25

35.2: Progressing, but in sorrow. It is better to endure suffering and loneliness that to be in someone's company if it means we compromise our principles, or if the time has not yet been fulfilled. Only when the fundamentals of human unity are correct can we find happiness. If others do not follow our way, we should allow them to go their way without trying to influence them. To accept humbly going on alone brings happiness because it is the correct thing to do.

35.5: Take not gain or loss to heart. Although it seems that we have failed to take advantage of a good opportunity to influence the situation. we should not mind this. Although it is not obvious, progress has been made by keeping ourselves detached and free. If we view each moment as an opportunity to influence, we become too ambitious and goal-oriented. We should let the moment flow and keep alert; then, everything will happen as it should. (Anthony)

25: Maintain a blank mental screen and be alert to the unexpected.

- what he thinks and feels and how this situation will end for him. the answer was

Don't go there....

 

[newcomer]

Thanks elias, you've made it very clear for me. I understood my reading as the advice to 'move on' and not to influence my lover's life or decision in anyway. That's what I thought I should do as well... Still hoped to change the situation, but won't do anything. It's just so painful and I don't want to leave him. And I couldn't keep this all inside anymore, so came here.
And as for the question about him... I just couldn't resist it, even though I knew it's not recommended.
Anyway, thanks a lot.
BTW Where do these quotations come from?

 

[Olga Super Star]

- what should i do to feel better and how will this situation end for me. the answer was
35.2.5 --> 25

ehm no.. actually the answer was 35.2.5>6

 

[Pearlescent]

There is also a possibility the casting could have been 35.1.5 which would lead to 25. It's hard to say unless we were present at the moment of the casting.

 

[Olga Super Star]

sure!

but they talked about the second and fifth line..