Making a fresh start: hex 31.5 to 62

[dancingfox]

Hello,

Last year I started making plans to become a freelance coach/ counselor. I was lacking in confidence to start up for myself and unsure if I could combine the fulltime job with my project. I found a training that offered me a broader, better basis for my project and help me gain confidence. It is much more on my plate in terms of time and finances and because of this my freelance plans are on hold right now.

In order to pay for the training and improve my overall circumstances I started hunting for a better paid job. I thought I found my golden opportunity in a high-paying job in human resources. I started in a family business, a chicken processing plant, which quickly proved to be a toxic working environment. Too much for my senses in every way of the word. By the end of the month I will be starting another job much more aligned with who I am and my capacities. I took a step back on personal income but a step up in mental health. Also I am well on my way of becoming a vegetarian since working there. I have seen too much animal suffering.

I still genuinely want to help people and I truly feel that I have a gift I need to share with the world. Of this I am sure. Despite a difficult startup I am not giving up on my plans to start my own practice. I got overwhelmed by everything and I really not a fan of the term coach. Too many clowns out there calling themselves coaches doing more harm then good and I certainly don't want to join those rancks. I want to be authentic and do good.

In an ideal world without limitations I would love to offer my services online and in person. I would love to travel, to leave my country and explore other places, see if I can make a living abroad. Offer guidance in connection with nature, in general be more connected with nature. To live by the woods instead of a town, in a house with a garden instead of an apartment. Big dreams for someone who has been in survival mode for most of her life. But I believe I can get there, become that person.

I have one option to create my fresh start. To move back in with my father who lives by himself and has a room to spare. I could live there for two years until I complete my training. I could save a lot of money for my project. It would give me the opportunity to create a fresh start I crave. But living there would not be ideal. I have done this before after leaving a long term relationship. I would give up part of my privacy. I would have to live with a sweet but in his own way, very difficult man. I would live in a big house by the countryside though, a relief to my current small city apartment.

I asked the Yi
What do I need to know about moving back in with dad in order to make a fresh start?
Hex 31.5 changing to 62

From WikiWing I seem to get a clear answer

Hex 30.5
Influence in the neck and shoulders, no regrets. This aligns with a deliberate change of direction like the one I am making right now, responding to my environment.
Follow your gut, stay grounded and choose deliberately, is what lines seems to say to me.

Strangest thing, while I was contemplating this fresh idea, still in my head, undiscussed... a dear friend said to me; why not travel for a while? What is holding you back to start over, find yourself again? Move back in with your dad and save some money and the go for it.

Becomes 62: small overstepping. By staying well grounded, responsive, but guided by influence.

My life seems uncertain right now but I do feel inner calm when I think of my plans despite how far away it feels right now. Staying grounded has been a huge theme for me in 2021. I just wonder if the reading is telling me
'yes this is a good plan if you stay grounded.'
or
'you are grounded and present so go ahead move in with your father.'

Whichever way I tend to take this reading as positive sign right now, 'no regrets'.

What do you guys think?

 

[redoleander]

I think this line is pointing you to your own intuition. Apart from the intellectual understanding of it all (which you have explained very well and does make sense), if you focus on this one choice and what is right, what is your actual instinct. There are usually numerous ways to move toward a goal but at any given time we tend to only see one. It may be the right choice; just try to choose it based on what you really know in your gut.

 

[dancingfox]

I think this line is pointing you to your own intuition. Apart from the intellectual understanding of it all (which you have explained very well and does make sense), if you focus on this one choice and what is right, what is your actual instinct. There are usually numerous ways to move toward a goal but at any given time we tend to only see one. It may be the right choice; just try to choose it based on what you really know in your gut.

Yes, I think I am focussed on this option only because I don't see any other ones right now. And I don't want to get my emotions get the better of me. This is what happens often when I need to make an important decision. I am working towards being more centered so I feel I need some time to decide.

 

[Liselle]

You'd be turning yourself firmly towards a goal, and this is a realistic way to achieve it, is how it sounds to me.

 

[dancingfox]

'And when you choose to change direction, you move your neck and shoulders first'. This influence affects your attitude, but cannot run away with you: it forms a relationship with your will and purpose.

Turning towards my goal alright

 

[Trojina]

I have one option to create my fresh start. To move back in with my father who lives by himself and has a room to spare. I could live there for two years until I complete my training. I could save a lot of money for my project. It would give me the opportunity to create a fresh start I crave. But living there would not be ideal. I have done this before after leaving a long term relationship. I would give up part of my privacy. I would have to live with a sweet but in his own way, very difficult man. I would live in a big house by the countryside though, a relief to my current small city apartment.

Non Yi related thoughts; moving back in with a parent rarely seems to be a good idea. You may save money but there are huge emotional costs. Also if they are elderly beware moving back in temporarily, them getting sick and you ending up as carer and then you you feel you can't leave them. Well you know exactly how it is as you've done it before. I think most people feel cramped through returning to child status even if the parent doesn't consciously try to cramp them. Maybe if the relationship is really good it's fine for both parties though I've never witnessed that myself.

The fact you have done this before however means you're already aware of the pros and cons which is good. But didn't you struggle to get out of this exact situation before?

I asked the Yi
What do I need to know about moving back in with dad in order to make a fresh start?
Hex 31.5 changing to 62

Quite honestly the meaning of this line is still a bit of a mystery IMO. There's theories about it and I'm not sure of any of them including my own. I noticed Moss Elk had a very different view of it when he described it as a shrug. I think the thing is to decide what that line means to you right now. You can completely discard commentary and apply it straight to you which is how it's meant to be really.

So, going back to the words of Yi

'Influence in the neck. No regrets.'

Sit and use your neck. How would that feel in relation to your enquiry. I just did that and the first thing I think of is the capacity to nod for yes or no, both come from the neck I think. There does indeed feel a firmness to it, it's where you indicate to others and yourself your decision and your intent.

Looking at the other lines where there is 'influence in' it's not always clear whether it's you doing the influencing or aiming to or being influenced and both can be true in this hexagram of reciprocity I guess. Note this is the only line where there are 'no regrets'. Line 1 is neutral but often given negative commentary, in line 2 there's a warning not to rush off. In line 3 quite a strong warning about being pulled off course instinctually. Line 4 is hovering on the edge a bit, the will is there but not expressed in a determined way, you're still feeling into it and in line 5 you are ready to nod your assent to follow and allow the impulse. Line 6 is also neutral but given negative commentary, you speak it out and perhaps it loses a little power in doing so.

Thinking of the space between line 5 and line 6 seems to me that point where you have a strong feeling, a certainty to go a direction or an opportunity but you hesitate to speak of it yet lest it loses power through speaking of it. And that can happen, sometimes it is much better not to speak of your goals so that they stay intact, have chance to gather up the strength of your will and incubate before before being dissipated when spoken out to others.

Would telling your dad your plans at this point affect you? Do you want your dad 'in on it' so to speak?
I see the 62 here as that need to stay low, keep things to yourself in order to carry the message. I wonder if the more you can do this by yourself at this point the better?

 

[dancingfox]

Hi Trojina,

You may save money but there are huge emotional costs.

Yes I know the emotional cost and this is a big con. My dad is healthy and strong for his age (66) I already discussed the idea with him and he would be ok with it but he hopes I will stay with him. He is lonely and worries about his future financially. To him it would be sensible if I stay with him. My father isn't the best listener and I suspect in his mind I already agreed to this.

When I focus on my neck and shoulders writing this I feel my muscles cramp up, not a good sign

I am not in a great spot financially and in that way moving in with my father would be advantageous to the both of us. Staying in my apartment isn't ideal but I did make it my home. It's increasingly stressful to make ends meet every month living alone. Prices are going up and I need to get creative in order to pay the bills. And I genuinely don't know how to reach my goals if I stay here.

The problem is money, thinking of it puts me in survival mode and when I am there it's impossible to listen to my gut, my instinct are whatever you want to call it.

I was thinking of 62 I said it meant to me to remain grounded but now I think also to be more specific in my plans. I mean I have the outlines but it's not a clear goal. I don' know where I would want to live and I don't have a sound business plan.

Perhaps I need to work out the specifics first. Then I would have a clear plan and if it would mean moving back in with dad then I could be very clear about my timeframe, my goal and my own reason for staying with him.

 

[my_key]

I asked the Yi
What do I need to know about moving back in with dad in order to make a fresh start?
Hex 31.5 changing to 62

Hi dancingfox
There is always a twist in any situation and things have to be carefully balanced to be able to see what are the pros and cons in any activity that can lead to a fresh start.

31 has an energy that encourages bringing together what belongs together and here this is being displayed in a context adapting to things in a way that will allow you to stay in your process. There will be many small steps and twists that you need to navigate and you will have to remain at the top of your game to negotiate your way forward in positive and successful ways (62).

Line 5 aligns it's activity to regrouping within your inner world so that your real purpose begins to shine through. So you need to know that what is happening now is running along the spine of your situation and that there will be little that you will regret from moving back in with your dad to manifest the fresh start (31.5).

Your main challenge will continue to be seeing deeply enough into obstacles that cross your path in such a way that will allow you to take the most appropriate actions to make your dreams come to fruition. However, you need to remember that it is the journey and not the destination that is of most importance.

... or it may mean nothing at all like this to you.

Good Luck

 

[dancingfox]

Hi My_Key

Your main challenge will continue to be seeing deeply enough into obstacles that cross your path in such a way that will allow you to take the most appropriate actions to make your dreams come to fruition. However, you need to remember that it is the journey and not the destination that is of most importance.

Yes for the moment I have difficulty enjoying the journey. Lately I have been overloaded and overthinking