Marriage for Material interest?

[Mylife]

Hi all,I recently started to have a doubt about my husband about one important point. When we were dating (3years ago) we moved in together and at some point (2 years together) we remortgage my house together which was completely on my name and then with the remortgage we shared the house with certain shares in my favour 60/40. Few months after we spoke about doing this remortgage together we started the process and during the process of the remortgage he proposed to me. Now I m having a doubt that he married me for material interest and because of my financial stability which he didn’t have before. We are married for less than a year and I would like to clear this point. I asked the oracle 2 times and I obtained the response that gives me some trouble on understanding. 1. First reading come out with 18 - 5th line (6) and it becomes 572. Second line come out with 33 - 2nd line (6), 4th line (9), 5th line (9) and it become 18 Could you help me and give me your interpretation on the oracle response please? Thanks a lot. I appreciate your help.

 

[Mylife]

First - 18.5 to 57Second - 33.2.4.5 to 18

 

[Freedda]

I wonder, what is you asked, and why did you think you had to ask it twice?

 

[Mylife]

The question was “did he proposed and married me for material interest because of the house and the financial security I have?”Inside the first answer in 18 or 57 I read that I can ask again so I did it for the second time.

 

[Freedda]

... Inside the first answer in 18 or 57 I read that I can ask again so I did it for the second time.

Mylife, I read through 18 and 57 and I didn't see anywhere which said to 'ask again'. Would you please point out where it says that?

 

[Mylife]

I think I got confused with another hexagon. I wonder where I read it. I keep looking. But anyway, it doesn’t matter where I read it. The point is that I cannot figure out what the oracle means with the response it gave

 

[diamanda]

did he proposed and married me for material interest because of the house and the financial security I have?
18.5 > 57 and 33.2.4.5 > 18

The first answer shows that the 'father' is poisonous. In order to manage that, the person interacting with the poisonous father uses praise (or honour, or reputation). 57 shows entering a place or situation. This probably means that initially he really enjoyed the way you dealt with his poison (whatever that poison is).

In 33.2 could well show just what you said, tied up with 'gold'. Line 33.4 shows that retreat is lucky for the better person, but it will be negative for the small person. I believe this means that indeed he knew he would lose out if you left him. In 33.5 there's a friendly retreat. All this no-retreat then retreat scenario would lead to 18, poison.

So taking into account both above scenarios, no it's not only for the money that he married you, although money plays a part in it. The deeper reason he married you is that he has some type of poison in his life.

 

[Mylife]

Hi diamanda, by poison it means trouble/ problem?

 

[Mylife]

Does it look like he is using me and he is not with me because he loves me as he says? I don’t know how to look at it.

 

[Freedda]

I don't think it says either that he is poison or that he is using you. It says that you are feeling toxic - maybe because of some other issue - and since the moving line is in the place of the king or ruler, maybe an issue with your own father or someone who represents a father figure for you? It seems you may want to explore the issues of praise and blame here. And you may want to seek assistance or help from a therapist or marriage counselor - sooner than later.

 

[Mylife]

I do have an issue with my father and we are not talking for years. Parents divorced. But what it has to do with the Q I asked about my husband? I do feel toxic also because of his family problems...he has with his brother which creates some problems which affects our life together in terms of peace/harmony and also financially. I was focusing on the point if he married me for material interest. I m super confused and don’t know how to look at it. And I appreciate your help a lot.

 

[Mylife]

I do have a problem with my father. Parents are divorced and we are not talking for years. But what it has to do with the Q I ask about my husband?I do feel toxic in the recent past months because of his brother problems which affects our harmony and financial situation too. I m not sure how to interpret what the oracle wants to tell me. I was focusing on the Q if my husband proposed and decided to marry me for material interest like my house and my financial security. I appreciate your help a lot.

 

[Freedda]

Mylife, I went back and added a bit to what I said. The idea I think is that unresolved stuff from other aspects of our lives can cast a shadow over our current situation. So that father / husband / praise / trust etc. can all get rolled up in one toxic mess that you may want help detoxifying from.

 

[Mylife]

Fredda, your interpretation on the oracle answers what would be then? Did he married me for material interest? Or because of any poison in his life? Or what do you see that the oracle is telling me with those 2 answers? Thank you

 

[diamanda]

Hi diamanda, by poison it means trouble/ problem?

By poison we mean something toxic. I've often seen it refer to rotten characters and insanity. If this was simply about trouble/problems you wouldn't have got 18.

Does it look like he is using me and he is not with me because he loves me as he says? I don't know how to look at it.

The fact alone that you started questioning his love, and resorted to divination, clearly shows that there's a serious issue. He must have given you reason to doubt his love.

I do have a problem with my father. Parents are divorced and we are not talking for years. But what it has to do with the Q I ask about my husband?I do feel toxic in the recent past months because of his brother problems which affects our harmony and financial situation too. I m not sure how to interpret what the oracle wants to tell me. I was focusing on the Q if my husband proposed and decided to marry me for material interest like my house and my financial security. I appreciate your help a lot.

As I wrote before, from the readings I believe his motive was a combination of material interest and toxicity. His brother, for one, sounds toxic, since he is affecting your harmony and finances. Your husband shouldn't be allowing this. Not talking to your parents shows that they are probably also toxic people, so perhaps take a moment to re-think your boundaries. People who are brought up by toxic people are more prone to put up with abusive behaviour by others.

 

[becalm]

That's so true. The things I've tolerated in relationships up until now are certainly signs of toxic parents. I'm still working on it.

 

[Mylife]

Hi diamanda, He is not insane and he doesn’t have a strange character. That’s why I struggle of understanding what poison might mean. The only thing that I know is the fact that before meeting me he was alone for a long time because of his attention was on his brother for long years helping him and he was wishing to find a girl and get married and to have a normal life. He is a decent man, he has a professional job and he is carrying for me. I question this situation since his brother problems started to hit our harmony and finance position. Because he did nothing to push him away from our lives but allowed his problems to become our problems. I had to take action because he was too scared to act. I do not have doubts he loves me. His daily actions shows he does love me and I can feel it. I did question if he married me because of material interest because it’s always been a fear I had even before meeting him. I did not want a man to marry me for my financial position. So I question this him on this just recently. His brother is definitely a toxic person with a toxic situation and unfortunately affected us. Now my husband after I said “that’s it with him” is taking actions to push his negativity away from our lives. I hope this gives you a better image to how things are and perhaps to make a better interpretation. Thank you

 

[Freedda]

Mylife, what I am saying is that there is a a toxic issue here, 1) that may not be really about your husband and 2) that you might want to seek help in dealing with. I only looked at one reading because I think this reading provided you with an answer; I also think that multiple casts done in a row just confuse the response so I avoid them. I did not see in the reading that he married you for your money.

 

[Mylife]

Thank you Freedda