Matrimonial prospects, 54.5.6 > 10

[Juliah]

Having put aside all the current problems relating to my job I decided to ask about matrimonial prospects

Will I get married once again? (It was a purely theoretical question since I am having no relationship.)

54.5.6 > 10 seems discouraging, especially the line 6.

No prospects for today? Or is it just a warning against plunging into an reckless affair (I am not inclined to such behaviour at all)?

I would be very grateful for your thoughts friends.

 

[sooo]

Hi Juliah,

A couple of rhetorical questions: I wonder how many maidens marry by setting out (10) to find a husband? And of those that do and succeed, find happiness, or like line 6, are just married?

 

[Juliah]

Hi Bruce,

Glad to see your post in my thread.

To your questions - I do not know... cannot be predicted. Do I need a matchmaker, you think?

 

[mulberry]

Yi can be so literal sometimes, 54-- you're definitely having a conversation about marriage. But line 6 says, don't marry just to marry. Look for a true relationship/inner connection, and not the outward ceremonial trappings. Line 5 is a reminder that in marrying you give up some freedoms.Combined with 6, I think Yi is saying, make sure it is worth it.

 

[sooo]

Thanks.

I do not know either, but perhaps Yi's answer to your question also answered mine.

Perhaps the symbolic 'Sovereign I' in line 5 is the best match maker. I think the W/B text, complete with commentary, offers the wisest council to you. Perhaps your image of the perfect husband could use a little adjusting. Here, his daughter's modesty and adaptability is the key to happiness in matrimony.

Six in the fifth place means:
The sovereign I gave his daughter in marriage.
The embroidered garments of the princess
Were not as gorgeous
As those of the serving maid.
The moon that is nearly full
Brings good fortune.

The sovereign I is T'ang the Completer. This ruler decreed that the imperial
princesses should be subordinated to their husbands in the same manner as
other women (cf. Hexagram 11, six in the fifth place). The emperor does not
wait for a suitor to woo his daughter but gives her in marriage when he sees
fit. Therefore it is in accord with custom for the girl's family to take the
initiative here.
We see here a girl of aristocratic birth who marries a man of modest
circumstances and understands how to adapt herself with grace to the new
situation. She is free of all vanity of outer adornment, and forgetting her rank
in her marriage, takes a place below that of her husband, just as the moon,
before it is quite full, does not directly face the sun.

 

[Juliah]

Just to clarify: no, my question was not about getting married by all means, it was not a spinster's outcry. Just a small attempt to see if it happens someday.

Mulberry, I completely agree with your vision here since I had had that sorrowful experience described in the line 6.

 

[sooo]

Here I see 'I' as fate, but the word fate can give the impression that those affected by fate play no hand in it. The receptivity toward those who fate brings to you also determines fate. And though the mores have changed in this age from the day of this event, the principles remain forever the same.

 

[sooo]

Just to clarify: no, my question was not about getting married by all means, it was not a spinster's outcry. Just a small attempt to see if it happens someday.

I never implied that it was. Just a small attempt to offer insight. This is an example of what line 5 is not.