Modesty & walking the middle way to find love in midlife? Hexs 15 uc & 42.4

[NightTree]

I'm 45. I've been single and celibate, largely by choice, for the last 3+ years. I would very much like to form a lasting connection with the right person.

What can I do to meet the man I can spend the rest of my life with? Hex 15 unchanging.
My follow-up question:
Can you be more specific and tell me what steps I can take to connect with the man who will be my life partner? Hex 42.4 --> 25

I feel in both of these readings Yi is saying not to try too hard, just be temperate/modest (hex 15) and walk in the middle, be moderate in my conduct (hex 42.4--reading the interpretations on James DeKorne's site). Some of the interpretations of 42.4 make reference to reporting/speaking directly to a prince, mediating between those below me and the prince, and moving to another place. (?)
I'm wondering if this prince is someone I already know and should approach?
Could modesty be about lowering my expectations and keeping them realistic? Perhaps I'm waiting, hoping, and holding out for something or someone that doesn't exist?

I would be so grateful for any insights. Thank you!

 

[my_key]

Hi NightTree
There looks to be a big disconnect in your world right now between how it is and how you would like it to be.

What can I do to meet the man I can spend the rest of my life with? Hex 15 unchanging.

15 Authenticity

Authentic behaviour means that you walk in the world in a real or genuine way. The masks that you have been wearing or hiding behind are slowly lowered. Yi advises that you make an offering, or perhaps a series of offerings, in this situation. How many masks do you feel safe in lowering? Start with one and see how that feels. The more masks you can lower the greater will be your chance of success in finding the right fit of person who will love you for who you truly are, and not distracted by, or fall in love with, your masks. This person would be the someone who you can spend the rest of your life with.

My follow-up question:
Can you be more specific and tell me what steps I can take to connect with the man who will be my life partner? Hex 42.4 --> 25

More specifically, focus on 'Increasing' (42) the real you through consciously living your life 'Without Falsehood' (25) as a backdrop.

25 indicates that your many-masked situation has developed from events that happened around you over the years. However, it is important for you to realise that now is the right time for the tide to turn and to allow truth to hold sway in your life.

42 advocates that it is up to you to decide what truths you now want to display. If there is an excess of a truth you hold that is not serving you then turn down the volume. It may well be a false truth. Alternatively if you would like a part of you to shine brighter then focus on making that shine more. This may be a false lie that you follow. You believe it cannot shine any brighter. Recognise that no part of you is controlled by a life-limiting dimmer switch.

42 is deeply guided by and works in ways that will direct matters, behind the scenes, such that these old masks are very likely to be 'Falling Away' with a gentle nudge rather than having to rip them off with gusto (nuclear-23). Approach the transformation to authentic self with humility.

42.4 -Apply the nudge. Direct the choices and actions that you make in life towards the direction that you want your life to take. Slow steps, that you can accommodate safely will make the fastest progress. Authenticity, like Rome, wasn't built in a day.

Could modesty be about lowering my expectations and keeping them realistic? Perhaps I'm waiting, hoping, and holding out for something or someone that doesn't exist?

Your authentic self must never settle for anything less than it deserves. Remember, you deserve to have someone that you can spend the rest of your life with. That is a realistic expectation that is crying out to show it's face. Let it come out from behind the masks you wear and show itself in all its glory.

...or there may be other interpretations that call to you more loudly.

Good Luck

 

[NightTree]

Hi NightTree
There looks to be a big disconnect in your world right now between how it is and how you would like it to be.

15 Authenticity

Authentic behaviour means that you walk in the world in a real or genuine way. The masks that you have been wearing or hiding behind are slowly lowered. Yi advises that you make an offering, or perhaps a series of offerings, in this situation. How many masks do you feel safe in lowering? Start with one and see how that feels. The more masks you can lower the greater will be your chance of success in finding the right fit of person who will love you for who you truly are, and not distracted by, or fall in love with, your masks. This person would be the someone who you can spend the rest of your life with.

More specifically, focus on 'Increasing' (42) the real you through consciously living your life 'Without Falsehood' (25) as a backdrop.

25 indicates that your many-masked situation has developed from events that happened around you over the years. However, it is important for you to realise that now is the right time for the tide to turn and to allow truth to hold sway in your life.

42 advocates that it is up to you to decide what truths you now want to display. If there is an excess of a truth you hold that is not serving you then turn down the volume. It may well be a false truth. Alternatively if you would like a part of you to shine brighter then focus on making that shine more. This may be a false lie that you follow. You believe it cannot shine any brighter. Recognise that no part of you is controlled by a life-limiting dimmer switch.

42 is deeply guided by and works in ways that will direct matters, behind the scenes, such that these old masks are very likely to be 'Falling Away' with a gentle nudge rather than having to rip them off with gusto (nuclear-23). Approach the transformation to authentic self with humility.

42.4 -Apply the nudge. Direct the choices and actions that you make in life towards the direction that you want your life to take. Slow steps, that you can accommodate safely will make the fastest progress. Authenticity, like Rome, wasn't built in a day.


Your authentic self must never settle for anything less than it deserves. Remember, you deserve to have someone that you can spend the rest of your life with. That is a realistic expectation that is crying out to show it's face. Let it come out from behind the masks you wear and show itself in all its glory.

...or there may be other interpretations that call to you more loudly.

Good Luck

Dear My_Key, Thank you so much for your sensitive and insightful reply. I've been thinking about it a lot, and it does resonate.

Your feedback prompted so much pondering and reflection. Thank you.