Mom Wanted Grandma Gone: 37.1.2.5 to 18, 5.5 to 11 and 4.2 to 23

[Fanofenka]

This morning before I woke up, my mom had an argument with my dad regarding my grandma moving into senior housing. I have seen my grandma looking for senior housing since I immigrated and avoiding my mom in the morning. When my grandma got senior housing, she moved right away.

Why did my mom want grandma gone? 37.1.2.5 People in the Home to 18 Corruption.
Line 1 says, "With barriers, there is a home. Regrets vanish." Does she want the house herself?
Line 2 says, "No direction to pursue, Stay in the centre and cook. Constancy, good fortune." I know that my mom doesn't like my grandma's food. Is it because she wants to cook her own food?
Line 5 says, "The king enters his own home. Do not worry. Good fortune." Does she want to live off my dad?

Why did my grandma move into the senior home? 5.5 Waiting to 11 Flow.
Line 5 says, "Waiting with food and drink. Constancy, good fortune." Is it because she can cook her food without my mom intervening?

Is my mom a magnificent narcissist? 4.2 Not Knowing to 23 Stripping Away.
Line 2 says, "Embracing the ignoramus, good fortune. Receiving the woman, good fortune. The child governs the home." Is this a yes because she is stupid?

 

[Trojina]

Look you really need to have some conversations with your family about all this especially as you live with them ? I assume you live with them ?

It's not good for you to talk to Yi instead of talking to them. You are asking a bunch of strangers on the internet to guess at why your close family make their decisions so it sounds like you are so far removed from your family you cannot even speak to them ?

You've even asked Yi why your dad watches a certain TV programme.

Perhaps you need to ask questions about talking to your family, a question for you about communicating with your family.

Is my mom a magnificent narcissist? 4.2 Not Knowing to 23 Stripping Away.
Line 2 says, "Embracing the ignoramus, good fortune. Receiving the woman, good fortune. The child governs the home." Is this a yes because she is stupid?

You are just making wild guesses without even thinking about the answer. There seems a fashion in America at the moment to call anyone one doesn't like much a 'narcissist'. It's a totally overused term used by people with no clinical background who don't have the faintest idea about what a narcissistic personality disorder even is.

It's reached ridiculous levels whereby anyone a person doesn't get on with is labelled 'narcissist'.


She is your mother surely some kind of conversation with her is possible ?


Why can't you have some kind of conversation with your family ? You will likely get more clarity that way.

 

[rosada]

Why did your mother want your grandmother to move out? 37.1.2.5 - 18.
I see this as saying there was some sort of difficulty in the home, maybe your mom didn’t feel it was really her home with your dad’s mom living there. Perhaps your Dad treated his mother as if she was the Queen of the house rather than your mom.

Why did grandma move? 5.5 - 11.
This is very encouraging. It reads to me as if to say your grandmother wanted to be around congenial people, so it’s a nice feeling that she moved because she found some place she wanted to go to, rather than saying she moved because she was forced out.

Is my mom a magnificent narcissist?. 4.2 - 23.
.Your Mom is doing the best she can. Perhaps having Grandmother around made her feel she was a “young fool”.

These readings don’t seem to be giving exact details but perhaps you can read them as hints as to how you should view the matter, that it, assume that your Mom wanted Grandma to leave because it was time for Mom to have full authority in her own house and also assume that Grandmother will be much happier where she is now.

 

[Trojina]

all assumptions yes when a conversation would be better

 

[rosada]

Thing is, conversations are based on our assumptions so it can be useful to consult the I Ching as to what ought to be our underlying assumption before starting the conversation.

 

[rosada]

I’m thinking these readings suggest one should start by assuming everyone is innocent.

 

[rosada]

I’m thinking these readings suggest one should start by assuming everyone is innocent.

 

[Trojina]

Thing is, conversations are based on our assumptions so it can be useful to consult the I Ching as to what ought to be our underlying assumption before starting the conversation.

As I have gathered this is a young man living at home with his family. If I'm wrong he can say that.

There's some pretty basic questions he needs to know answers to about his family's intentions.

Given those circumstances I find it irresponsible to attempt to mind read his family for him. Indeed I think that would be doing him and them a disservice . How would you like it if your kids lived with you and instead of tasking you why you did XYZ they came on an internet forum and asked people who have no clue.


Sure you can do the readings all I'm saying is I'm worried there's no communication going on in this family over really important things. That concerns me hence I would not attempt the reading without finding out why he cannot talk to them.

Fanoffenka posts many many threads and does not seem to give any of them much thought nor any feedback to responses. I wanted to first and foremost suggest communication directly with people when you want to know why they do something is always better than asking Yi. You don't want to get into the habit of talking to Yi instead of talking to the people concerned.

 

[Fanofenka]

Rosada, how did you know my grandma is my dad's mom? My dad has been visiting my grandma several times a week.

 

[rosada]

I guess I just assumed (!) she was because you said your mother was arguing with your dad about her and it seemed unlikely your dad would be so foolish as to argue with your mom about her relationship with her own mother! LOL!

 

[Freedda]

This morning before I woke up, my mom had an argument with my dad regarding my grandma moving into senior housing.

and ... Is my mom a magnificent narcissist?

Are you telling us you live at home with your parents?

 

[Fanofenka]

Fredda, I live with my parents. Ever since my grandma moved, the house became more quiet.

 

[Trojina]

So feedback on your responses ?

You can't go on posting new threads without returning to previous ones.

 

[Fanofenka]

Can we move on?

 

[Trojina]

Can we move on?

You seem to be lacking in basic etiquette.

If you get interpretations from people as you did from Rosada you at least say thankyou and give your feedback on what you think about the reading.

That's basic manners, did you never learn any or is there some reason you cannot reply to people ?

You didn't acknowledge my points either which I can understand more but the point is you don't give feedback to anyone you just keep on posting new threads where you barely give any thought to the reading's meaning, where you get replies you ignore.

So you can post threads but you are incapable of replying to people's responses ? Why is that ? Do you have problems replying to people ?

Threads are useless for others with no feedback from the querent and you fill this forum with so many threads you just don't bother to go back to.


So what 'does can we move on' actually mean ? You mean forget replies and just move on to a new thread ? Well that doesn't work actually.

I will link to a sticky that explains how to post readings here.

 

[Fanofenka]

I feel that the readings are accurate. I started to feel fed-up with my grandma's lectures.