My 8-year-old son has a serious tic / 64.5>6

[Medusazul]

Good morning community!

My son has had a pretty disturbing tic (he closes and opens his eyes all the time) for quite some time -it comes and goes.
I'm divorced, his dad has a new partner and they are going to have a son in March. I asked Yi: Why does he have this nervous tic? Answer 64.5>6, and then: What can I do to help him get rid of this syndrome? Answer 24.1.2>7.

As I see it, my interpretation tells me that my son is in between waters, not knowing which side of life of his feelings to stay at (old times with mom and dad, or the new situation). But it looks like is he going to get over it (line 5).

About me helping him, I see 7 (the army), as getting myself together in order to create a new solid home for the both of us, so he can feel both parents, his dad and I, are happy and ok the way we are.

Am I right on this? What do you think?

 

[Trojina]

Shouldn't you get a medical opinion before assuming that his tic has something to do with your family arrangements?

Actually that's what I'd see the 64.5 as saying

'Constancy, good fortune, no regrets.
A noble one's radiance.
With truth and confidence, good fortune.'

I have often found this line indicates seeking expertise. Surely that is what you need to do?

 

[Medusazul]

Shouldn't you get a medical opinion before assuming that his tic has something to do with your family arrangements?

Actually that's what I'd see the 64.5 as saying

'Constancy, good fortune, no regrets.
A noble one's radiance.
With truth and confidence, good fortune.'

I have often found this line indicates seeking expertise. Surely that is what you need to do?

Ugh... I agree on this with you Trojina. I'm Going to follow your advice.
Thanks!

 

[Medusazul]

About the "seeking expertise"... Would you say it's a medical doctor or a psychotherapist?

 

[Trojina]

I think you'd start with a medical Dr and go from there to rule out a neurological issue. It's really not a good idea to start with the assumption it's psychological, there could be any number of physical factors playing a part so it's essential to rule those out before going down the psychological route.

 

[Medusazul]

I think you'd start with a medical Dr and go from there to rule out a neurological issue. It's really not a good idea to start with the assumption it's psychological, there could be any number of physical factors playing a part so it's essential to rule those out before going down the psychological route.

Thanks so much Trojina. I'll do that right away. Have a nice day!

 

[Light cookie]

Good morning community!

My son has had a pretty disturbing tic (he closes and opens his eyes all the time) for quite some time -it comes and goes.
I'm divorced, his dad has a new partner and they are going to have a son in March. I asked Yi: Why does he have this nervous tic? Answer 64.5>6, and then: What can I do to help him get rid of this syndrome? Answer 24.1.2>7.

As I see it, my interpretation tells me that my son is in between waters, not knowing which side of life of his feelings to stay at (old times with mom and dad, or the new situation). But it looks like is he going to get over it (line 5).

About me helping him, I see 7 (the army), as getting myself together in order to create a new solid home for the both of us, so he can feel both parents, his dad and I, are happy and ok the way we are.

Am I right on this? What do you think?

Dear Medusazul,
Maybe he needs medical check as others suggested. And also about possible allergies, and you could also ask him about that, if he feels something bothers his eyes.

Btw, to be honest I had the same experience when I was a kid of that age in a similar situation. I don't know how the tic went away so I can't give you an advice from that but I think that for sure, if you manage to create a new solid environment for him in this moment, this will be of great benefit for everyone and for him in particular.

Line 5 of 64 looks nice to me, 6 in the background suggests there has been conflict that he perceived. Some commentaries about line 5 make me think he is managing well to go through all this and to understand why things have changed and that is ok that now they are different.
24.1.2 to 7 to me looks like yes, you have to be strong and resolute working on yourself, Line 1 staying loyal to your principles, Line 2, I think you have to be loving and compassionate, with your son and I guess also towards your ex, his father:

Legge: Line two is in its proper place and central, but it is magnetic. This is more than compensated for by its adherence to line one -- the fifth line not being a proper correlate. Hence her return is called excellent or admirable. The virtuous subject of the first line is in line two calledzhen, the "benevolent" or "loving." It is the only case in all the symbolism of theI Chingwhere we find that term used as an adjective. It is emphatic here for "Humanity" -- man in his ideal state

 

[Medusazul]

Dear Medusazul,
Maybe he needs medical check as others suggested. And also about possible allergies, and you could also ask him about that, if he feels something bothers his eyes.

Btw, to be honest I had the same experience when I was a kid of that age in a similar situation. I don't know how the tic went away so I can't give you an advice from that but I think that for sure, if you manage to create a new solid environment for him in this moment, this will be of great benefit for everyone and for him in particular.

Line 5 of 64 looks nice to me, 6 in the background suggests there has been conflict that he perceived. Some commentaries about line 5 make me think he is managing well to go through all this and to understand why things have changed and that is ok that now they are different.
24.1.2 to 7 to me looks like yes, you have to be strong and resolute working on yourself, Line 1 staying loyal to your principles, Line 2, I think you have to be loving and compassionate, with your son and I guess also towards your ex, his father:

Legge: Line two is in its proper place and central, but it is magnetic. This is more than compensated for by its adherence to line one -- the fifth line not being a proper correlate. Hence her return is called excellent or admirable. The virtuous subject of the first line is in line two calledzhen, the "benevolent" or "loving." It is the only case in all the symbolism of theI Chingwhere we find that term used as an adjective. It is emphatic here for "Humanity" -- man in his ideal state

Thank you Noukii. In fact, he is a very allergic kid. Knowing that you faced a similar situation, and that you could heal, gives me a lot of hope.
I'll work on my loving presence, and my strength. Two beautiful images.

 

[rosada]

Just a comment about eating the transition -
Photographs are a great help for anchoring the new reality. By that I mean if you take and display a lot of pictures of him in his current surroundings it helps one’s brain recognize this is where we’re at today and minimizes the unconscious searching for the old set up.

 

[Medusazul]

Just a comment about eating the transition -
Photographs are a great help for anchoring the new reality. By that I mean if you take and display a lot of pictures of him in his current surroundings it helps one’s brain recognize this is where we’re at today and minimizes the unconscious searching for the old set up.

I love your advice Rosada! I've just sent to print a dozen of very fun and happy pictures of us both, and him and his friends at our new house. The whole process of choosing the pictures has been quite healing for me. It made me realize all the great moments we have shared here. I'm looking forward to placing them around the house. I'll post a picture when I got it!

 

[Medusazul]

As I promissed, this pic is for Rosada

 

[rosada]

These are wonderful!
You are the angel on his shoulder!!

 

[Medusazul]

Hello!

Following up on a post from 2 years ago, after consulting various specialists, we discovered that my son's eyes were severely dehydrated due to a combination of allergies and issues with short-distance vision. The problems were managed with glasses and a regimen of three different eye drops. His symptoms come and go with the spring, so he is currently quite affected, but we expect improvement by summer. As Trojina advised, consulting a specialist was crucial.

Additionally, having pictures of us and our friends in our new home has been wonderfully delightful.

Thank you!