My friend

[moonrise]

Okay, guys, don't laugh, please.

It is about my friend again (I've posted several posts regarding this relationship).
I told him how I feel and of course he ignored it. But I felt bad because I was a little harsh in that mail, so I wrote him again. I needed to say goodbye in a friendly and loving way.
For my sake, so I can have a loving closure.

of couse he ignores it

So, my desperate broken heart goes to Yi Jing and ask: give me an inisght into this situation with this friend
I get 7.3 ->46
So, my efforts are in vain, he resists to communicate - obviously.
It might also be about my inner state - I was angry, I admit and hurt and humiliated that he doens't find it worthy to reply and say goodbye as a friend.
I think this line was saying that I should accept that it is over and just let go.

Of course I asked also, how this situation will evolve?

I got 56.1 ->30
I think I should stop waisting my time on this, I just get humiliated and hurt.

I aksed if he will answer to the last email and i got 7.6->4
I don't know how to read this. I feel that he feels superior and he finds me foolish.

I asked what to do in this situation and I gor
7.1.2.4 ->51

This is don't get; of course I should retreat, but maybe later things can get better?

Since all those 7 hexagrams appeared it is obvious that I have difficulites in letting this go and the overall message was to drop it. Of course.

Ialso think that 7.6->4 was referring to me, not to him, that I am being foolish and I should see the situation from higher perspective.

The main thing that I am concerned is: did I do the right thing or am I trully just a stupid fool and I deserve to be hurt like this?

I actually threw the coins for this last question, because I feel so terribly stupid and foolish...and this is the reason I need this guy's reply and confirmation that what I feel is not total bullshit.I am afraid that I am just a fool.

And I got: 14.1.2.4.->52

Maybe I do have something...

I just don't know how to use it.
In any case i should shut up and keep still.

I would apprciate any comment, please. It is so difficult for me to let go and I feel I did so many mistakes with my friend...

Thank you

 

[frank]

Hi Moonrise,

Let me say, completly away from any I Ching respons, that it is perfectly alright to feel the way you feel... The doubts, the hurts, the anger, the anxiety, the what ever there is... It?s OK! Do not forget that you are a human beighn. The 7-answers to me only tells me that there is some sort of lack of ?discipline?, and getting 4 is just saying: ?Ok Lady, I told you things a couple of times already, as long as you do not listen, I will not respond?... And that could be the signal the Yi is giving you, but even maybe a signal FROM HIM... The 14 > 52 answer is about feeling OK for yourself and share what you have as a person, and shut up insite with all those asumptions that you are foolish and stupid etc... The ONLY one who is keep on saying this to you IS YOU :-D... I will not say it, no one else would either, just as we all recognise this situation you are in, at least I do... I feel stupid from time to time too... not because I?m, but because of the feeling... and feelings are tricky... so do feel fine about yourself and start to love what you did, no mather what the other part think of it... And I do know that could be something you do not want to hear, as I do not either, from time to time... I do recognise this... And still:

Hang in there!

Hug,
Frank

 

[moonrise]

Hi Frank,

thank you for your words, they helped me. You are right.

I feel better now, I calmed down...this relation to my friend is so tricky, because I see him as authority figure and I judge myself through his eyes. If he sees me as stupid and unworthy, then I feel so.

"start to love what you did, no mather what the other part think of it"

->that is a very good advice

Thank you.

 

[jte]

"The main thing that I am concerned is: did I do the right thing or am I trully just a stupid fool and I deserve to be hurt like this?

And I got: 14.1.2.4.-> 52 "

Hmmm. Tough reading in a way, so you have my 2 cents for what they're worth... perhaps something like the following:

14 - you're good, don't worry
Line 1 - No you don't deserve to be hurt
Line 2 - No, you're not just a fool, advance, do good, don't worry
Line 4 - (Heh, not sure, but perhaps just showing you that you're a unique individual with your own sincere feelings, issues, etc.)

Also, 14 -> 52, the good thing (such as it was) ends. This is feels like a bad thing, perhaps, but it also needed to happen, perhaps. Your feelings of sadness aren't enough (or enough of a reason) to prevent it if it needs to happen.

- Jeff

 

[moonrise]

Hi, Jte,

I just noticed that you replied here!
Thanks, this was great

 

[jte]

You're welcome. Best of luck to you...

- Jeff

 

[jte]

By the way, I reflected a bit more about this - you might also think about 14 -> 52 from an internal emotional/spiritual perspective - something like having enough strength/greatness of spirit to stay calm in emotionally difficult times. Just thinking that that aspect is also probably important.

Again, best to you...

- Jeff