Nasty 35.1>21

[oceangirl]

I stayed at an airbnb recently and I made a small complaint about the cleanliness but extolled it's virtues to the host nonetheless and we actually had what I thought was a great repoire and I helped them out with something which they couldn't do themselves... however she sent me a nasty msge after I left saying I broke something which I never touched.

Why is she being nasty

35.1>21

These are people that like to see themselves as 'saviours' of others and obviously get a kick out of others being weaker than they are. I'm guessing here that the cleanliness comment inadvertently pointed out a flaw to their hero status....
Oh dear that's just silly and wasn't my intention at all....they said they pay a cleaner good money so I thought I just mention it so they could perhaps check the cleaner was doing what she's paid for.

The reading says to me Line 1 they're trying to 'bring me down' stop me advancing.....but biting through?

 

[Freedda]

Hi Ocean Girl.

I am in no place to offer sage advice, but whenever I do a reading for myself and others, I often ponder if the underlying question really is "how can I learn from this?" or "how can I best get right with the world?" So, by way of suggestion: perhaps you might try making this a more inward-directed inquiry, like: how can I best address my own feelings about this? Or what might be the best action (inner or outer) in response to what happened? Or, what am I supposed to learn here?

If I direct my question at others' actions, I feel I always take the risk of wanting to use the I Ching to simply justify my own pissed-off-ness, which runs the further risk of becoming a self-fulfilling answer, e.g. "Why did that awful person say such awful, unjust things to me?" Answer: because they are an a--hole!

Just a suggestion. Regards. David.

 

[oceangirl]

Thanks David - I'm not looking for justification I am really quite flumoxed at what happened here to be honest....so I guess I could've asked what happened here to turn the whole thing on it's head.

 

[Freedda]

Hey Ocean Girl. Just to let you know, I didn't mean to imply that you were looking for justification, only that it is a trap I could see myself or others falling into. Best of wishes with your inquiry. David

 

[Freedda]

Hi again. I was just reading a bit more and read in line 1 of 35 ' ... if instead you engage with the obstacle with steady determination, you can get past it.' ... coupled with the questions posed in 21: What must you do to get to the truth? And, how can you become more effective?

With that in mind it seems that one way forward could be to ask the AirBnB hosts about what happened -- for example, to tell them that you felt you had had good interactions with them, and that you are sure you didn't break anything of theirs, that you are confused/hurt by their response, and you want to know why?

That seems to me to fit the category of 'biting through,' and if you got a negative response or no response at all, that in itself would be providing you with important information.

Just a suggestion and take on your reading. Best, David.

 

[Sixth Relative]

Why is she being nasty
35.1>21

The reading says to me Line 1 they're trying to 'bring me down' stop me advancing.....but biting through?

I think is just the other way around. Why she is being nasty? Because they think YOU wanted to bring them down (35.1) and you were unfair to them (21). So, by sending you that message, she doesn't see herself as being nasty but doing justice.

My 2 cents

 

[oceangirl]

Thanks sixth relative I think you're right....that's a shame.

 

[rosada]

I hope you will 21. Bite Through this unwarranted accusation if only so you will not have it swirling around in your mind. Send the airBandB proprietors a brief note, something very polite without referring to their unpleasant attitude such as, "Dear---, We never touched your _______ but I am so sorry to hear it got broken. I hope my comment about the cleaning did not offend you. As I said in my earlier email we very much enjoyed our stay in your home. "

 

[Freedda]

Thanks rosada. That is much more succinct and clear than what I suggested. A good lesson for me. Best, David.

 

[oceangirl]

Thanks very much rosada I did as you suggested and whilst they didn't actually apologise they've retracted the accusation. I guess that's the progress of Hex 35.

 

[Trojina]

Liss read what it says from Hilary's translation in Wiki


'Now flourishing, now stopped.
Constancy, good fortune.
Empty of truth and confidence.
Enriched, no mistake.'

Okay so you have hexagram 35 here which shows overall you are in a time of increased opportunity and favour. But in line 1, just as you advance you find someone who doesn't quite trust you and it doesn't feel good. I had this line when I made friendly overtures to someone estranged for a while and my friendliness was not returned. But the line is a fortunate line...it's no disaster and it says 'no mistake' and it says 'enriched'. This means that despite meeting someone or something who isn't with you, doesn't much believe in you in your time of advancement....nonetheless you are are on an upward trend...so it says 'now flourishing now stopped'. I think you must just forget this becasue the I Ching is offering you comfort here, it's telling you not to mind. Yes it is hurtful but in the long run it might, for some reason, even be for the best. For example in the long run i was glad I hadn't gotten too close to that person again. I don't know what the positive might be for you here but please don't take this answer as anything but comfort.

 

[Trojina]

So for whatever reason this person did this you must bear in mind you are making progress this is just a hiccup and she doesn't matter very much....and the I Ching is offering you solace IMO....it's okay, it's saying don't worry that you met someone who didn't trust you. That can just happen and it isn't your fault.

 

[Trojina]

Ooops just saw your last post, I'm glad they retracted their accusation. Still I think you should take this answer as a Yi hug.

 

[oceangirl]

Thankyou Trojina it was quite hurtful as I'd actually done them a Huge favour whilst I was there and never got anything real thanks for it and then to be accused of something wasn't nice at all. I was hoping to remain on friendly terms with them as they could help me out with something I need in the coming months but clearly that won't happen. I now see it as a good thing as they've shown their true colours as you did with your position of not getting too close to that person. I'm still quite lost as to what's going on for me at this time and still have nowhere to live but as sugessted by you and Yi I will take comfort that I am advancing nonetheless.

 

[rosada]

If nothing else you can at least now check 35.1 off your bucket list! That's progress!