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Torshavn, I am curious (and please answer only if you want to): you refer to this person as your therapist, and that what you are involved in with him as therapy. I'm not challenging this, but it made wonder: it seems he is an acupuncturist and perhaps a spiritual (daoist?) teacher, but is he also a trained or licensed counselor or therapist? (In US states these people go by different titles - 'marriage and family counselor', psychologist, social worker). Is your therapist trained and/or licensed in this way as well? I ask so I can better understand the nature of your relationship, and to get a better sense of what you (or he) mean by 'therapy'.I know him as a therapist but not so personally
What is the nature of this relationship/bond? 59.3.5.6 >46
59's Upper trigram is Wind, changing to Earth: I see this as representing your acupuncturist, and that your work together has been the catalyst for your changes: for me, Wind represents gently and patiently exploring possibilities, sending out 'feelers' and getting back and responding to this feedback, these 'messages', feelings, etc. The change to Earth (46's upper trigram) brings to mind words from the Dazhuan, the Great Treatise - one of the Ten Wings commentaries which are part of the Yijing. It says that the Yi is ....
" .... shedding light on trouble and its causes,
not as a guide or a teacher,
but like a parent at ones' side .... "
It makes me wonder if your acupuncturist has taken on a kind of parental role for you, even if it's just a projection on your part. I am not insinuating anything incestual nor inappropriate, only that this sort of relationship - perceived or actual - can awaken strong feelings.
This also brings to mind the healthy roles that (healthy) parents have in our lives: they guide us, teach us (and in your case, heal), and then they send us out to make our way in the world.
Richard Rutt called Hex. 59 'Gushing' which for me has both positive and negative associations: the gushing of a geyser or one 'gushing' praise upon another; or ... the gushing of blood from an open wound.
Lines 59.3 and 59.5 talk about 'gushing on the body' and 'gushing, flushing the liver ...." For me, these are about the work you are doing, which is healing / changing / purifying your body (and perhaps also your mind and heart?)
Lines 59.5 and 59.6 talk about 'gushing in the king's dwelling' and the gushing blood of castration: these are more difficult for me to understand - but venturing a guess: perhaps these are about healing a parental / father wound or relationship? Or they are about feeling (or struggling with) both needing to be separate from and at the same time feeling torn away from father (or parents)? Whatever you may think or feel about this, I sense it is part of your healing and will ultimately be positive (the text says 'no misfortune').
As an aside: I'd say if your acupuncturist is not trying to steer your life, thoughts, or feelings in a certain direction, and he is not doing anything which feels inappropriate, than I don't sense that there is harm being done. However, it could be that at some point - even without any negativity - your feel your time together is over, and it's time to move on to other things - like the crane sending her chicks from the nest! Also, I think that sometimes emotional-mental (what I think of as counselling) can be helpful - or even necessary - in our healing (but this is a personal choice, and not a recommendation on my part).
I hope this is useful for you.
Regards, D
I appreciate your response.About if my therapist is having a parent role...In some way, yes and no. I can feel genuine interest in all his patients, and I feel that he also have a genuine interest in me going better or not. He take care in many aspects.
Hello there,
I am new here and I am almost new with I Ching, so it would be wonderful if I could receive a little help. Please also excuse my English if it is not good enough, it is not my native language.
I am having a healing process for a few years with a therapist and in a few words the whole process changed my life. During these numerous sessions, at some point I felt an attraction with my therapist and I assumed that sometimes this can happen but that's all... One year ago I received an acupuncture treatment from him and I had some kind of spiritual awakening. At some point I felt a bond and I am not sure of the nature of this bond. Perhaps it's a spiritual bond, a one side attraction because he helped me so much - but in that case it's not good for me. But I also wonder why this person had taken so much importance in my life and if there is something more, some improper exceeding i should remove? It's also not a friendship. To be sincere I am even confused with my own feelings and seek clarity. Note that I am also in a committed relationship with someone I love for more than a decade.
So here comes my readings and questions:
What is the nature of this relationship/bond? 59.3.5.6 >46
59 > I can read here that's a deep healing relationship. It dissolved many wounds but also give me the feeling to dissolve myself.
Anyway I am not sure to understand " 59.6"
46 >> This relationship helps me to progress and I should continue to go to therapy.
It would be wonderful if I could receive a little help with the interpretation. I would be greateful for it.
Best
. It dissolved many wounds but also give me the feeling to dissolve myself.
And that's the real sustaining relationship - the relationship with the therapist is likely just transference. Towards the end of therapy the therapist should gently somehow wean you off that transference, so you are put back together again to face the world. The danger with this person might be you just remain open, there's no closure even though it's been good and there's been growth. He or she will have sessions with their own supervisor to work through their own feelings in their work and it sounds like possibly the therapist could use a little more 'supervision' a term used by psychotherapists. I mean I don't know of course but it all looks a bit too open to me and in line 6 one is being advised to keep in one piece, to stop bleeding outwards as it were.Note that I am also in a committed relationship with someone I love for more than a decad
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).