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[zeldiac]

Can anyone give me an opinion on my latest readings? I'm a bit confused.

I socially met a guy at three separate unplanned venues. Neither he nor I had known we would meet. I'm very attracted to him and sense he is to me. But I don't know how to find him! Or even if I should try to find him.

I enquired of the oracle whether a romance between us is destined. 19 & 36 came up signifying Approach - joyous lake, supreme success. But the changing line of 3 said 'nothing that would further'. So I asked another question in a similar vein. 7 The Army and 2 The Receptive appeared. But the changing line of 2 says 'king bestows a triple decoration'. Can anyone give me an insight into these changing lines? I'm only a novice and trying to learn.

Thanks in advance.

 

[cguleff]

Zeldiac,

I don't want to disappoint you, but neither of these readings looks like destiny to me. There is nothing you can actively do to get something started -- romance is not likely to develop spontaneously. Emotional setbacks and internal struggles are also in store.

In the first reading (19.2,3 -> 36) 19 (Approach) involves 36 (Darkening of the Light). The approach involves times of discouragement and difficulty. To reach your goal must maintain an optimistic and determined attitude and work on your inner development. The "nothing that would further" phrase indicates that no extra effort or extraordinary actions will help. Just keep the faith, remain available, and wait for an opportunity to come around later.

In the second reading (7.2 -> 2) 7 (Army) implies discipline and cooperation with others to reach your goal. The changing line suggests that there are rewards for being a good team-player. 2 (Receptive) involves waiting for another chance meeting or for the guy to take the initiative first.

When getting acquainted with the I Ching, it's common to do multiple readings on an issue in the hopes of getting a clearer or more encouraging reply. Successive readings usually provide similar answers, just as yours did. Eventually, that won't be necessary.

Good luck to you,
Chris

BTW, Thanx for doing this reading -- it mirrors a situation I am going through -- I believe it applies to me, too.

 

[zeldiac]

Chris

I'm glad of your input. You have helped me to understand a bit better. As I mentioned, I'm quite a novice but am keen to learn.

Glad if my reading mirrored your own situation, and hope you were helped.

The very interesting thing within your response is the statement 'there are rewards for being a good team player', and to wait 'for the guy to take the initiative first'.

You have hit the spot. I was once a keen and rather good dancer. But 2 years ago I was badly injured in a road crash. I look ok but the accident left me with occasional balance problems, which are thankfully recovering. In other words the last thing I could do was to get up and dance. But...

Last April I went to a music gig in the next county, which is where I met the guy. He is some dancer! I was drawn to watch him, and didn't think he would notice me amongst the crowd. Wrong. Although the place was full to capacity, he continually asked me up to dance. He had no idea of my balance problems because I look fine. Once I was up that was it - I danced most of the night and mainly with him. I suffered agony as a consequence for the following 3 days because of the illness. But I'd had such fun I hardly cared. After that, I coincidentally met him at 2 other dances in different counties. Most recently last weekend. He hardly danced with anyone but me, he appears (I hope!) to be single. He told me he likes me, thinks I'm a very good dancer and would like to dance with me more often. But we didn't exchange any contact details. I genuinely think he is slightly shy.

Hope this has not bored you to pieces, but your kind response has fitted in with the situation so far. I hope I get to see this guy again. He is the one who continually seeks me out and takes the initiative - certainly on the dance floor anyway. And as I've had a difficult emotional life over the past several years,it's about time I had some fun!

Best wishes
Zelda

 

[cguleff]

Zelda,

It looks to me like you have a lot of resilience and understanding. That will take you far. You're also in the position to see the guy again because of common interests, social venues and geographical location. It could be worse -- I have a story to tell:

My son was vacationing in Las Vegas from Colorado and met a travel agent from South London UK at a disco. They hit it off beautifully, but when their respective friends came to collect them at closing, they were separated before they could exchange information. My son tried everything he could think of to locate her on the internet, but was unsuccessful -- he even considered bribing a rental car agency in Las Vegas to obtain information concerning her travel agency.

Anyway, wish you all the best in the New Year!

Chris

 

[zeldiac]

Chris

Thanks for your latest comments. It's heart warming for me to be reminded that having common interests etc might be of future value.

Your son must be rather keen on the young lady travel agent. How unfortunate they were separated before exchanging details. I know most of London very well indeed. It is of course full of travel agencies. Does your son have a company name to search by?

Happy New Year!

Zelda