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This was my question: My own inner darkness is preventing me from changing, what should I do?
I got hexagram 54 changing to 57 with changing lines at 1,2,3,4 & 6
Richard please tell me when you wrote of 'Harriet' did you in fact mean Hilary Barrett the owner of this site ?
54.6 ? Paying homage to empty forms I think
...and if it's smoking I think the first thing to do is to undermine it's power, pay less homage to it's causes and so on since the hardest part of stopping is the physical addiction.
Stopping can be a lot more simple than people might think because one has been enslaved to these things for so long...but actually it does all boil down to 'stop putting them in your mouth and lighting them'.. That simple sentence helped me and I quit I ditched all the complicated 'methods' of stopping and just stopped gradually which worked for me...from 20 to 10 to 5 to 2 to none...but no method would have worked if I hadn't fully realised to continue was self harm. Although I knew it was intellectually I hadn't fully absorbed the idea. Anyway everyone is different and there certainly is a psychological component to refusing to self harm of course...but my impression from the reading is perhaps you don't need to pay quite so much homage to the psychological aspects ?
Just a thought ...there's lots more to see in the answer I'm sure so perhaps others will chime in
Here's a thought. Think of any people in the course of your life who may have tried to hurt you. Well if you hurt yourself you've played into their hands.
Not happening anymore.
From now on you are going to be on your own side, rooting for you, just as you would for someone you loved. If you are on your own side, rooting for you, wounding yourself will begin to look less and less a viable action.
It can start simply by looking in the mirror each morning and saying "I'm on your side mate, I'm looking out for you, I want what's best for you".
I expect there are more sophisticated psychological ruses...but I think this one is pretty powerful.
Wow, Trogina, really powerful. It seemed you were channeling the first hexagam of the I Ching. Interesting Richard wrote the word Create several times (3?) in his original posting. As if summoning up the image of The Creative and you were The Receptive responder:
[I'm taking quotes from what you said and framing them as hexagram 1. The Creative]
Judgement:
"Here's a thought."
Image:
"If you've hurt yourself it's you've played into their hands."
1.1 "Many people in the course of your life may have tried to hurt you.
"Not happening anymore."
1.2 "Look in the mirror each day and say 'I'm looking out for you' "
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