on loneliness and growth: hexagram 51 and 31.2,6 to 44

[folledeschiele]

I feel very lonely these days, even though I have good friends who have been helping me through what has been one of the most difficult times I've ever faced. Reflecting on this feeling of loneliness and being left to to myself, I first drew 51, shock. I then asked the YI what this shock of being single and on my own, needing to find my own way should teach me: in other words, how to put my life in order as the hexagram suggests?

I really don't understand the response. I got 31.2,6 changing to 44. Is it telling me I shouldn't let myself be so swayed by those I love or am drawn to, and work on talking less? Or can it be taken less literally? I also don't see how 44 addresses my question of how to grow and develop as a person. Can anyone help me with this?

just an update to those who were following the story: my partner never returned. We're now on good but distant terms, and living apart. I've decided it's the best thing for both of us, as I think we want very different things and she doesn't love me anymore, but it doesn't keep me from continuing to feel sharp grief about it.

Thanks for listening.

 

[einhorn]

I also don't see how 44 addresses my question of how to grow and develop as a person. Can anyone help me with this?

The Judgement

Coming to Meet. The maiden is powerful.
One should not marry such a maiden.

Maybe it's telling you to clearly establish a criteria of exactly what you want in a partner. Realizing what you want (as opposed to what you think you want) is a huge part of personal growth and development.

Sit down and make a list. In the context of a relationship, what do you bring to the table? What do you want out of a significant other? Why? Are these desires hypocritical or unrealistic?

Perhaps as part of this growth you will realize that this "maiden" (your partner) was not one that you should marry.

Make sense?

(just a guess. I'm really new to all of this)

just an update to those who were following the story: my partner never returned.

Is this what the I Ching said would happen? j/w.

 

[folledeschiele]

as nick drake so earnestly sang once, "this is the time of no reply."