Opening my Heart Again 17.1.3>31 and 35.3.6>62

[marybluesky]

I consulted the I Ching about starting to love again, about my place in the world of love...
I have sun in Libra and my 5th place from sun, the house of heart which is in Aquarius, was affected by Saturn transit of 2020- 2023. It is said that the matters of heart may freeze during this transit.

In both questions I had the general situation in mind, with a brief think of someone special in the first one:

(in a negative tone) In this messy world how is it possible for me to find love?? 35.3.6>62
[translation & comment from eclectic energies website. I have the translations of Hilary, Bradford and Lise in the Resonance journal; just wanted to share this one]
35.3: All consent. Aversion goes away. All are in accord now, making the progress possible.
35.6: Progressing with one's horns, used only to reprove the city. Danger. Good fortune, without fault. Persistence is inadequate. Being aggressive to reprove someone. This is dangerous, but things go well. It is not a mistake if done just once. But going on with this is not a good idea.

In brief: good times have arrived, have faith. Avoid being too pushy; a bit is OK though. 62 confirms the latter.

Second consultation:
I've been bitten, I feel inadequate. I'm not optimistic about my love life's future. 17.1.3>31
17.1 indicates change of heart, new vision, new era, going out, mingling with others, good fortune. 17.3 is about bonding with a mature human being or the mature aspect of self, going after what one wants, constancy and getting result.

Both readings seem to encourage me to open my guard and trust in my heart again, little by little. A bit hard to believe.

 

[my_key]

Hi Mary
Regaining trust enough to show your real self in relationship can be a slow and winding path; even comprising two steps forward, one step back. Self doubt and low self esteem are learnt characteristics that need to be unlearnt, and as they drop or fade away it becomes increasingly easier to embrace love.
( Hexagram Names: Karcher)

(in a negative tone) In this messy world how is it possible for me to find love?? 35.3.6>62

In brief: good times have arrived, have faith. Avoid being too pushy; a bit is OK though. 62 confirms the latter.

35 <> 62
'A Rising Sun' through 'Small Traverses'

35 advocates that you trust in yourself to be able to build up your positive qualities and to do so within a protective field based in strong balanced considerations, and with the utmost respect for the fragility of the little bird within you (62).

I've been bitten, I feel inadequate. I'm not optimistic about my love life's future. 17.1.3>31

17 <> 31
'Following' through 'Uniting the Spirit'

In relation to your situation you are being held in the warm embrace of 31 that is urging you on beyond the feelings of being bitten and inadequate. In particular it invites you to allow your heart to drain and be re-filled with compassion.
17 suggests that it is possible to leave these old grounds for dissention behind, and while it will not always be easy for you, there is much for you to harvest during this time. It is not a mistake to think of the positive outcomes that can come. Especially, from you actively withdrawing into your inner world for periods of rest. This practice when fully utilised will allow time for the old to dissolve in order to provide space for the new to grow.

These interpretations do seem to align with the sense of renewal that you had seen in them yourself.

Good Luck

 

[gnichi]

Hi Mary,
Just to say, I often enjoy your interpretations here on the forum. Clear and to the point and with empathy. Thank you for sharing!

 

[marybluesky]

In particular it invites you to allow your heart to drain and be re-filled with compassion.
17 suggests that it is possible to leave these old grounds for dissention behind, and while it will not always be easy for you, there is much for you to harvest during this time. It is not a mistake to think of the positive outcomes that can come. Especially, from you actively withdrawing into your inner world for periods of rest. This practice when fully utilised will allow time for the old to dissolve in order to provide space for the new to grow.

my_key,

while I didn't know what your advice meant practically at the start, I was somehow led to live it:

at times I need to detache myself, even forgetting about it. Other times I am romantic and hopeful. I really need to rest a lot.

Sometimes I feel really overwhelmed. For instance last Monday I was experiencing so many emotions at once that the air seemed heavy. I was in the bus in my way to home, feeling oppressed and misunderstood, looking for a proper piece of music to listen. I found this old Hindi song in my playlist with a verse that says: "it's just an emotion, live it from the depth of your soul ... don't give it a name..." I did as the verse says and it was enough for me to break in tears that covered the length of my face and neck. So was the power of emotions.
After reaching home I smoked two cigarettes beside my sister, we talked a bit and I asked her to send me the link of a vintage song I find youthful and funny. I felt released and happy then, laughing and dancing.

It is a clear picture on how I have managed my emotions during past weeks. Like taking breath and holding it for as long as possible while moving in forward crawl.

 

[my_key]

Hi Mary

All we can do is to make the divination and then allow the wisdom to slowly filter into our world. The wisdom that you need. as you have recounted above, arrives in countless forms and is unique for you.

"I felt released and happy then, laughing and dancing." - Marvellous to hear.

Good Luck

 

[marybluesky]

(in a negative tone) In this messy world how is it possible for me to find love?? 35.3.6>62

Considering that "special" someone now I see 35>> 62 as simply telling that it won't go so far.

 

[my_key]

Hi Mary
62 encourages you to stay in the process and encourages you to feel everything you are feeling to the extreme. The transition may feel like quake and thunder on the outside but its ultimate destination is the stillness of the mountain within. Thereby lies the secret to the 'Flourishing' promised in 35.

Good Luck