Please advise- upset over loss of a relationship

[tabitha]

Thank you for reading-

My boyfriend and I just broke up. We talked last night about how we should always be friends, and this opened up the discussion to seeing others, or just being friends,
He talked about wanting to have a baby and asked me if I was ready to, and I said no,
and he's asked before-- but I'm not-
Okay enough of the background- I asked the i ching -- I'm upset over this loss please advise- Maybe my question is off? I received 20-9 nand I dont understand how this pertains-- Maybe looking at things objectively and then holding back?
I'm not sure. Any clarifcation would be very appreciated- thank you.

 

[mercury]

20>9

Hi Tabitha...sorry about your situation, hope you're feeling alright. My first impression is that you need to take a look at things from as mature a perspective as you can muster, and don't ignore your feelings about what makes sense to you. But be sure that you're being honest with yourself, and be honest about the feelings you're communicating. Are you, or have you been hiding your true feelings about this relationship, either from your boyfriend or from yourself? To me yi, in these changing lines in 20, seem to be suggesting that you need to come to terms with this decision based on an honest look at yourself, what you truly feel and what you truly desire.

It's probably hard to do this due to the blizzard of issues, both practical and emotional, that come with the breakup of a long-term relationship...9 seems to me to be about getting your bearings and finding what's real and essential from among all kinds of seemingly extraneous things in your life. I guess it takes some time but the effort will be worth it as long as you try and keep your eyes on what's truly important and right to you. Hopefully you'll be able to look past the details of this experience and hone in on what it really means to you, and work with that.

I hope that makes some kind of sense. Good luck!

 

[tabitha]

No - that actually makes alot of sense! Thank you

 

[willowfox]

I'm upset over this loss please advise- Maybe my question is off? I received 20-9?

There are 2 lines where a 9 shows up, lines 5 and 6 which one did you get or did you get both?

Line 5 is about thinking carefully about your own life and how your actions and decisions affect him.

Line 6 is about thinking carefully about how your life is and how you can become a better person.

 

[tabitha]

hi-- thanks for checking-

ok I received hexagram 20 changing to hex 9

is that what you meant? Your interpreation so far rings a bell-