Please give me some insight into my friendship with X.

[hasu_z]

I recently had some issues with my friend x. Even though it didn't seem like our friendship ended, I'm still very worried and wanted some insight into what could happen and how I could change my circumstances.

This was my reading: 35.1-21

This is how I interpret it, though I don't have much knowledge of the I Ching. I was wondering if I should confront my friend soon to hopefully mend what happened and move on, but the fact that I'm consulting the I Ching kinda tells you I'm afraid of the outcome of taking that action, and hexagram 35 itself means progress made through decisive actions and confidence.. especially with a change in line 1. With that, hexagram 21 indicates the future. Because of that, I feel as though this reading tells me it's a "win-it-all" or "lose-it-all" and that it is best to wait until I am confident enough to approach this person?

I would love to hear y'all's interpretation of my reading, I'm open to hearing what you guys think.

 

[Freedda]

Hmm, perhaps to be a bit more expansive in your thinking, which might be - for example - to be more thoughtful (maybe less reactive) and more compassionate and tolerant in your dealings with this person? Or, to expand your thinking beyond an us-versus-them, winner-loser approach/outcome?

The related hexagram 21, is about taking decisive but appropriate action. For me, that doesn't imply a win-all, lose-all situation, but only that you try to be clear and direct where you need to. Maybe it means having a heart-to-heart talk - instead of a confrontation? Remember, the advice of 21 is not that you always need to bit down hard in every situation; sometimes to 'bite (or act or speak more) gently' is more appropriate.

Best, D

 

[hasu_z]

Hmm, perhaps to be a bit more expansive in your thinking, which might be - for example - to be more thoughtful (maybe less reactive) and more compassionate and tolerant in your dealings with this person? Or, to expand your thinking beyond an us-versus-them, winner-loser approach/outcome?

The related hexagram 21, is about taking decisive but appropriate action. For me, that doesn't imply a win-all, lose-all situation, but only that you try to be clear and direct where you need to. Maybe it means having a heart-to-heart talk - instead of a confrontation? Remember, the advice of 21 is not that you always need to bit down hard in every situation; sometimes to 'bite (or act or speak more) gently' is more appropriate.

Best, D

I really liked your interpretation. And with the compassionate comment, I was told that I was the one being inconsiderate in this situation. However, does this tell me whether or not if I should approach this person right now and have a heart-to-heart conversation with them?

 

[Freedda]

Hmm, I dont know if the answer addresses the timing of your response. But perhaps reading too much into it: it talks about doing this during the light of day, and also about how much time has already passed, and also the moving line is the first line - which some people think is about the very start - even the precursor - for a situation. So putting that altogeter, my advice would be to act soon - but not to act reactively, if that makes sense.

Best, D.

 

[hasu_z]

Hmm, I dont know if the answer addresses the timing of your response. But perhaps reading too much into it: it talks about doing this during the light of day, and also about how much time has already passed, and also the moving line is the first line - which some people think is about the very start - even the precursor - for a situation. So putting that altogeter, my advice would be to act soon - but not to act reactively, if that makes sense.

Best, D.

Yes it does. Thank you for the in-depth interpretation of my reading, it gives me a lot more insight into my current situation. Blessings to you!~