Possibility of Partnership

[MariaP]

I separated from my husband in January 2016 and then we divorced in 2021.

Since then I have been like a dead woman with no friends or family. Recently, a despicable man entrapped me in a complex situation. I realize he’s obsessed with me and thinks he can get me through manipulation, entrapment and domination. Btw, the Yi constantly gives me lovely readings for this energumene like various permutations of 8, 37, 22 and 58. I have never received any 47, 29 or 39 (etc) concerning this person. However he is an ugly and dangerous, ill-intentioned human being.

This is why I think the I Ching is unable to assess evil and is indifferent to the struggle between light and dark and between good and evil. Just my humble opinion. Meanwhile, the I Ching tells me all the wealthy people I know are superior and all the « poor » people are inferior. It’s built into the teaching. Again, not looking for any polemics on this - it’s just something I have unquestionably observed over the years of using the I Ching.

In the past I have attracted lovely human beings, who I look back fondly on. Handsome, healthy in mind and body, sexy, smart, friendly, chivalrous, family-oriented and hard working. Now I have these predators, psychos, ugly, unhealthy, lowlifes, lazy, moronic, cowardly or whatever other undesirable qualities we don’t want in men. Also youths, like 20-25 year olds. I refuse them! Without exception!

I have been indifferent to this for a long while. But the presence of this disrespectful, persistent creep in my life, his tenacity, his lack of respect for my choices and humanity has started to worry me. Of course I am not asking for advice concerning him explicitly. But I’m extremely worried about this disturbing new trend.

The I Ching has not answered me in a clear way in the past when I ask about why all these undesirable men have entered my life and continue to flood in? BTW, I include my ex-husband in this group, a money and power obsessed person who would sell his soul in exchange for power and social status. Cruel and abusive as well. (During our time together I constantly received 29, 39, 54 concerning him. Sitting there scratching my head…Duh! You’re married to an Apex Predator! Get Out!)

I asked:
There are billions of men on this Earth. Is there any way I can find a suitable life partner?
Hexagram 43 unchanging (Yesterday)

Is there a suitable partner for me on this Earth?Hexagram 2.1.6 ! (Today)

The battling dragons are too evenly matched.
Each spills black and yellow blood to the soil below.

What?

What can I do to find a suitable life partner?
Hexagram 64.1.5.6 to 45 (Today)
Six in the fifth place means:
Perseverance brings good fortune.
No remorse.
The light of the superior man is true.
Good fortune.

Well, that’s reassuring but not exactly a roadmap. What is the advice? To persevere? In doing what? Hmm… Velly confusing..,

Anyone care to share their thoughts?

 

[my_key]

I asked:
There are billions of men on this Earth. Is there any way I can find a suitable life partner?
Hexagram 43 unchanging (Yesterday)

43 Deciding and Parting

The way that you could find a suitable life partner is by breaking through and away from the the way you currently view what is at the root of your difficulties in and with relationships. Not an easy task, however 43 is motivated by nuclear hex 1 'Inspiring Force' so there is deep support for you in this regard, when you choose to tap into this inspirational energy.

Yi advocates in the image of 43 that you find inspiration to start down this path of change in ways that are safe for you. Focus not so much on yourself and spread your love and compassion towards those who you consider reside below you.
Only you can decide how you can embrace this change, When you have decided take consistent steps to part from your characteristics and behaviours that do not support your new direction of movement towards relationship.

Is there a suitable partner for me on this Earth?Hexagram 2.1.6 ! (Today)

The battling dragons are too evenly matched.
Each spills black and yellow blood to the soil below.

What?

2:1.6 <> 27

'Responding' through 'Nourishing'

A suitable partner will become more visible to you when you are better able to see things in the context of correcting what is nourishing you and how you are nourishing of others (27). In this particular light you are being encouraged to find ways of being more receptive of prospective partners and responding to them in ways that are less reactive (2).

In the Image of 2 the advice is to yield to the power of Openness and spread its love and compassion to all around.

2.1 - You are walking on thin ice. Things are on the move for you, however, so consider a turn around to somewhere where the ground is more solid and safe underfoot.
2.6 - The battles you fight and the acts of blood letting have gone far enough. They have reached an impasse and are not helping you with being truly open to finding a suitable partner. If this is the right time for your changing of direction, and it may well not be, then you are best served by allowing them to slowly disintegrate. The choice is yours to make - ref 43.

What can I do to find a suitable life partner?
Hexagram 64.1.5.6 to 45 (Today)
Six in the fifth place means:
Perseverance brings good fortune.
No remorse.
The light of the superior man is true.
Good fortune.

64 <> 45

'Not yet Fulfilled <> 'Bringing Together'

You will, in time, be able to find a suitable life partner, more so as you work on gathering within you the personal qualities and behaviours that become the inspirational backdrop for successful relationship (45).

64 conveys the idea of the masculine will having to become exhausted in order for the fulfillment of our mission to find a suitable partner. You are on the edge of changing right now and this will be greatly enhanced through you developing carefully to become more discriminating of the nature of things that come into or reside in your world. Finding a proper, safe and clearly marked out place for all that is now running wild will create conditions more suited to you finding a suitable life partner.

Remember that 64 clearly says, in the judgement, that you have to make an offering, take a first step, for this situation to become advantageous.

64.1 - First, realise the complicated limitations that exist in your world around this question. Allow new perspectives to percolate slowly and carefully into your thoughts and feelings. Over stretching yourself or going too quickly will only bog you down. Distress beckons you until you can better grasp the complexity of your situation

64.5 - Discover ways to bring new structure into your world. Remaining steadfast and upright in the face of relationship adversity will be a great asset for you to acquire. Walking forward in the light of this single change will help your sorrows and regrets to recede.

64.6 - Take the wisdom that you already hold, but maybe do not yet fully trust as your roadmap. What you can do is to bathe more in the truths that this reveals. This will greatly assist you in loosening what holds you bound now, The more things become clear the greater will be your ability to control your self in ways that better direct you to finding a partner.

Well, that’s reassuring but not exactly a roadmap. What is the advice? To persevere? In doing what? Hmm… Velly confusing..,

I hope this gives you a clearer picture of one possible roadmap pointing you towards finding a suitable life partner. I'm sure other road maps are available for you to purchase should this one not resonate with you.

Good Luck

 

[MariaP]

I appreciate that you took the time, and expended the energy to reply. However, all due respect, but your interpretation doesn’t resonate with me. You refer a lot to sacrifice and what appears to boil down to masochism. Who am i? Xena - the warrior princess? I am living in a fascist, misogynistic, sexist and evil, predatorial national environment. Figuratively speaking (barely figurative) I have had the **** beaten out of me, lost my health, my wealth and my social bearing as well as been blocked creatively and professionally. But now, I’m supposed to plenteously bless those around me?

This makes absolutely no sense and I am not willing to do all the sacrificial action about which you have spoken. Furthermore, I don’t see anything in these hexagrams that indicate all this.

I am already a highly compassionate loving person surrounded by rapist wolves. I guess you’re a man because no righteous woman would ever advise me to give more while trying to simultaneously heal, recuperate and grow. No righteous woman would ever tell me that its up to me to figure out where I have gone wrong, If the I Ching is advising this I will eat my hat.

…by breaking through and away from the the way you currently view what is at the root of your difficulties in and with relationships.

I see perfectly clearly and accurately what is at the root of my relationships. Subhuman molemen proliferate in my adopted country because vicious, institutionalized sexism has crippled women here, forcing them to accept conditions that no American (or Canadian, Brit, Irish, Aussie or Italian etc.) woman ever would. Predatorial behavior abounds and is rewarded. My eyes see perfectly well.

Did you not read where I wrote that there is a 0.02 chance that any rapist pass before a judge in this country? What am I supposed to do, sacrifice my self to the god of gang-rape that the losers of this country worship?

Sheesh!

I will not say more because when you have nothing positive to say, better to say nothing.

 

[Trojina]

. Who am i? Xena - the warrior princess? I am living in a fascist, misogynistic, sexist and evil, predatorial national environment.

You are an American living in Europe is that right ? Living in Europe in the UK I can't imagine which country you are referring to but can I ask what stops you returning to America ?

 

[Trojina]

I see perfectly clearly and accurately what is at the root of my relationships. Subhuman molemen proliferate in my adopted country because vicious, institutionalized sexism has crippled women here, forcing them to accept conditions that no American (or Canadian, Brit, Irish, Aussie or Italian etc.) woman ever would. Predatorial behavior abounds and is rewarded. My eyes see perfectly well.

I'd really be interested to know what country that is?

 

[hilary]

Hexagram 43 refers to a decisive separation. MyKey suggested that could be a separation from your way of seeing. It could also be separation from your environment - a clean break. So returning to your native country might not be a bad idea.

 

[my_key]

I appreciate that you took the time, and expended the energy to reply. However, all due respect, but your interpretation doesn’t resonate with me.

Hi Maria P
There is always a risk when you ask for someone else's interpretation of a reading meant for you that it will not resonate with you at all. This is obviously one of those times. I always offer interpretations that resonate with me, after all that is what you are asking for when you invite people to share their thoughts. You are under no obligation to trust, agree with or believe anything that I have written - and that is how it should be. If it doesn't resonate, then it doesn't resonate and you have now to find another way of making sense of what Yi is saying to you.

I do hope that you are able to make that connection and that you eventually find that road map that guides you towards finding a life partner.

Good Luck

 

[MariaP]

I'd really be interested to know what country that is?

Al due respect, these sound like personal comments and questions, which I don’t find relevant. This is just about exploring divinatory messages from the I Ching. Nevertheless, may I say that don’t have to leave anywhere as a result of fear, injustice and/or criminal activity especially a place I have a legal right to permanent residency. I will not give in to this type of evil.

 

[MariaP]

It could also be separation from your environment - a clean break. So returning to your native country might not be a bad idea.

I’d be very disappointed in the I Ching if it’s telling me that I can only find a partner in the US, and that I’d have to make a massive, dangerous, onerous transition in order to find companionship. Thankfully, I believe in God, and i know He would never subject me to such an ordeal at this stage in my life.

What a sad indictment of Europe! No sympathy - just Go Home! Well get in line! At least 150 people have already given me this advice over my time in Europe. Let it be known that not one person of color is in this group! Never! I’m sure things would be different if I wasn’t facing such ruthless anti-Americanism, sexism, racism and xenophobia. Americans are the only human beings on Earth who have to endure this massive, near planetary rejection while simultaneously being constrained to good-naturedly welcome people from every corner of the Earth within our borders.

Do I have to go home to the US in order to find a life partner?
Hexagram 62.3.6
Top 6: Not meeting him/it. Passing him/it. The flying bird is caught in a net. Pitfall. This is rightly called a calamity and a disaster.

Outcome I return to the US in search of a life partner?
Hexagram 52 UC

Gua Poem:
To stabilize one's back, not holding on to one's body. To move in one's court, not seeing one's people. Without fault.

The great image says: Joined mountains: stability. The noble one does not permit his thoughts to go beyond his situation.​

Doesn’t sound like love.

 

[Liselle]

I wrote the bottom part of this before you posted, Maria. But after seeing your 62.3.6 I still agree with myself.

62.3:
'Not crossing over, he defends himself.
Someone is following behind and may kill him.
Pitfall.'

62's about crossing over a line, making a transition. Instead of doing that, you're defending your right to stay where you are. This does not end well, say the omens. Okay, you have a right to stay there (and be miserable)... does that sound like what you want?

62.6:
'Not meeting at all, passing it by.
Flying bird leaves.
Pitfall,
Known as calamity and blunder.'

Birds in the I Ching carry messages. I suspect those are your readings, like the 8uc one. You have to meet with them, take them in. If you don't, there are more awful omens.

I can imagine that ttransatlantic moving would be an ordeal. But so is staying an ordeal. And the readings at least seem to say that the moving-ordeal ends better.

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This part's from before your last post:


What if you'd be better off or happier somewhere else, though? Seriously - what if you would?

I wonder if some of your readings mean that. Your 8uc, for instance, is about belonging - where do you belong? Seek that out and find it.

8 is also about delight, not grief. That's from the Zagua, the Wing of the I Ching that draws distinctions between a hexagram and its inverted pair, in this case 7 and 8:


7.....8

Here's the Zagua:

'Seeking union means delight, the armies mean grief.'

To me 7, the Army, seems like how you describe your current situation - constant battles and grief. But Yi told you 8 - there's a place without all of that. Doesn't that sound (er) delightful?

But you have to be willing to join in to find it. You have to seek it out.

 

[MariaP]

Thank you Liselle. You seem like a lovely, wise person. However.
However.
However.

Why all this fear and apprehension? Is this site atheistic? Doesn’t anyone here believe in and call on God? You know, the Master of the Universe? Supreme Being? Infinite Intelligence?

23 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.

2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I WILL FEAR NO EVIL: for Thou art with me; Thy rod and Thy staff they comfort me.

5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.

Yes, I feel the hot breath of Earth-bound spirits on my neck, trying to get tough. But they are no match for me and my God.

Luke 10:19​

19 Behold, I hereby give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and NOTHING shall by any means hurt you.​

My God is an infinite cosmic being. Nothing can contend against him. Nothing. And he loves me, so I will fear nothing.​

This is why I believe.​

 

[MariaP]

Hi Maria P
There is always a risk when you ask for someone else's interpretation of a reading meant for you that it will not resonate with you at all. This is obviously one of those times. I always offer interpretations that resonate with me, after all that is what you are asking for when you invite people to share their thoughts. You are under no obligation to trust, agree with or believe anything that I have written - and that is how it should be. If it doesn't resonate, then it doesn't resonate and you have now to find another way of making sense of what Yi is saying to you.

I do hope that you are able to make that connection and that you eventually find that road map that guides you towards finding a life partner.

Good Luck

It’s impossible to deny that your reading was fueled by kindness and compassion. Lovely to encounter and so thank you sincerely. We all walk the same Earth but within such different realities, that it’s truly difficult to understand what others have to go through in this life. Tonight some are starving, dying, facing assault or hatred while others bask in assured equanimity and peace. Such is life. So many good-hearted and kindly men have advised me over the years to be kinder, sweeter, more gentle, more receptive, more obedient…it no longer matters. Best wishes to you and also: Good Luck