Pretend Buddhist Retreat

[ontheroad]

I'm OVER a lot of things and peoples BS, least of all the blame game from my children. But also just the lack of accountability from many so we can have a harmonious relationship as opposed to dysfunctional ones.
The only way I feel I can get some peace and give myself time for self reflection, without all the chatter, is to Retreat from everybody (except one very good friend). It's got to the point I feel I could potentially say something I might regret so I've said I'm going on a Buddhist Retreat for a few months and the only contact can be in case of emergency.
Is this the right thing to do for the time being?

Hex 6.4>59

I think this says Yes!
Line 4 - Don't engage in the conflict as yes I may say something I'll regret. Better to find somewhere Peaceful to be.

Hex 59 Dispersing myself away from others for a while.

 

[Hans_K]

Hex 6.4>59

I think this says Yes!

The question here is what exactly is the Yi answering, the situation you describe or the question that arises from it, or perhaps both?
H6 is the hexagram of contention and conflict. There is emotion (Water) in the mind (Heaven).
With the moving line at the 4th position, the mind is out of balance here.
From the description of the situation, it appears that you are experiencing a "conflict" with the outside world. The conflict is thus caused by thinking, in the mind.
The Image text of H6 says:

Heaven and water go their opposite ways:
This is the image of Conflict.
Thus in all his affairs the superior person carefully considers how things begin.

So this recommends looking for the cause of the conflict (within yourself?).
Heaven turns into Wind by the 4th moving line. This is about taking the lead when one should be following. There is too much focus on a situation and there is a need to do something about that, to react in some way, but of any action now the consequences are not overseen.
Wind's advice is planning and communication, working for the long term. Wind is also the trigram of self-examination

H59 is the hexagram of dissolving, the question here is what needs to be dissolved?
The conflict of course, but also the cause of the conflict.
The question is whether pretending to do a Buddhist Retreat is going to take care of dissolving the (inner) conflict?
I think the 4th line text has good advice: turn back and surrender to "fate", work on your own attitude and find peace.
If the best way to do the above is to withdraw for a while, then I guess the answer to your question is yes. If it is just a time of no contact with the outside world then it seems to me that the answer advises something else.

This would be my interpretation. As always, take what resonates and leave the rest

 

[ontheroad]

Hans_K thank you.
Yes the conflict is within me and I know what it is but I can't seem to manage to overcome it because the outside World keeps bashing me with it.
I need some time out from those people and situations so I can get a handle on how to Disperse it in myself so I don't feel bashed no matter what happens.

 

[Hans_K]

A possible solution to resolving the (inner)conflict can be found in the nuclear hexagram of H6, see if this resonates.
H37 is the nuclear hexagram. This is about a group of people and how to maintain unity among them. Unity is found through communication on the one hand and value on the other. By the latter I mean that everyone knows what their added value is to the group.
Do you feel seen, valued in a group of people, or by others in general?

The moving line at the 4th position in H6 is echoed in the nuclear hexagram at position 3 in trigram Fire and position 5 in trigram Wind in H37.
This deals with matters of the heart (Fire) that are not (or cannot be) adequately expressed. So others do not see your skills and talents, preventing them from appreciating you for who you aare.
This, in turn, can make you feel not seen or not taken seriously, resulting in (inner) conflict.

I hope this will be of some use to you. As always, take what resonates and leave the rest

 

[ontheroad]

Exactly the issue Hans_K.

 

[my_key]

It's got to the point I feel I could potentially say something I might regret so I've said I'm going on a Buddhist Retreat for a few months and the only contact can be in case of emergency.
Is this the right thing to do for the time being?

Hex 6.4>59

I think this says Yes!
Line 4 - Don't engage in the conflict as yes I may say something I'll regret. Better to find somewhere Peaceful to be.

Hex 59 Dispersing myself away from others for a while.

6 <> 59

'Contention' through 'Dispersing'

The right thing to do at this time is to make sure that you see things for what they are rather than what you imagine them to be. Engage with life in ways conducive to restoring the connections to self that you have lost, Remember, this lack of connection is at the root of all your arguments (6). An approach like this will allow a clearer less murky, less foggy landscape to be seen. You world will look much brighter to you (59).

Huang translates

6.4 - "Unable to contend. Turn back; submit to the truth. Changing one's opinion. Peace, Being steadfast and upright: good fortune,"

The fan yao adds some useful colour and support to the changing line

59.4 - " Dispersing one's group. Supreme good fortune. Dispersing brings a mound*, Beyond common people's imagination"

*for mound I would read fortification or strength.

... or there may be other perspectives that you prefer.

Good Luck

 

[ontheroad]

I was able to Disperse my own BS and move forward.