question - How to be in this relationship with X? 22.1.6 > 15

[Hawk Song Strong]

Hi there, everyone. I first discovered the I Ching in the past two years and have since experienced many insightful and intriguing readings.

Context - I am in a two year long relationship that has been full of amazingly fufilling experiences, growth, and healing, as well as many sharply contrasting, painful, and troublesome situations which seem to potentially be red flags of a time for seperation needed.
Although I feel confliction within deeply about whether I want to continue this relation, I love this woman (X) very deeply and am not interested in developing a romantic or sexual connection or partnership with anyone else, even if she and I were to seperate for a long time. The majority of my I Ching castings in the past year and a half have been regarding this relationship - way too many to count, as I have learned is a classic beginner trap to fall into - often with me questioning the continuance of and our dedication to working on the relationship, with our many obstacles of varying difficulties.

I recently cast a few weeks ago, two readings with the wordings "should i stay in a patnership with x?", and "should i seperate from my partnership with x?", and got the answers 42uc, and 1.2.3.4 > 42, respectively. The changing lines for the second question reads -

Hilarys -

Line 2​

'See the dragon in the fields.
Fruitful to see great people.'

Line 3​

'Noble one creates and creates to the end of the day,
At nightfall on the alert, as if in danger.
No mistake.'

Line 4​

'Someone dancing in the abyss.
No mistake.'

Following, is Legges-

• In the second line, undivided, we see its subject as the dragon appearing in the field. It will be advantageous to meet with the great man.
• In the third line, undivided, we see its subject as the superior man active and vigilant all the day, and in the evening still careful and apprehensive. This position is dangerous, but there will be no mistake.
• In the fourth line, undivided, we see its subject as the dragon looking as if he were leaping up, but still in the deep. There will be no mistake.

And -
DUKE OF CHOU'S EXPLANATION OF THE LINES

• The dragon appears in the field; the diffusion of virtuous influence has been wide.
• Active and vigilant all the day; this refers to the treading of the proper path over and over again.
• He seems to be leaping up, but is still in the deep; if he advance, there will be no error.

I chose to share this recent reading because it too felt very specifically potent, both containing 42, although i would definitley appreciate any clarity that long time i ching friends could offer.. i have heard that having the Creaton hex, 1, is typically auspicious....

Last night, I asked the I Ching,

"what is the best attitude to take to towards this relationship with x?"​

and recieved 64.2.6 > 16

Changing lines...
Hilarys-

Line 2​

'Your wheels dragged back.
Constancy, good fortune.'

Line 6​

'Being true and confident in drinking wine.
Not a mistake.
Soaking your head,
Being true and confident, losing your grip on that.'

Legges -

• The second line, undivided, shows its subject dragging back his carriage-wheel. With firmness and correctness there will be good fortune.
• The topmost line, undivided, shows its subject full of confidence and therefore feasting quietly. There will be no error. If he cherish this confidence, till he is like the fox who gets his head immersed, it will fail of what is right.

DUKE OF CHOU'S EXPLANATION OF THE LINES

• The second line, undivided, shows good fortune arising from being firm and correct: it is in the central place, and the action of its subject thereby becomes correct.
• He drinks and gets his head immersed: he does not know how to submit to the proper regulations.

This is the second of the 3 readings I am seeking to more clearly innerstand(understand) the truth that is being shared with me.

So anyways.. with all of that recent, deep and multi layered context..

The main and primary reading I would like help interpereting would be the thread title...

"how to be with this relationship with x?"​

Recieving 22.1.6 to 15 and its changing lines immediately felt intense...

Hilarys-​

Line 1​

'Making your feet beautiful.
Putting away the carriage and going on foot.'

Line 6​

'White beauty.
No mistake.'


Legges

• The first line, undivided, shows one adorning the way of his feet. He can discard a carriage and walk on foot.
• The sixth line, undivided, shows one with white as his only ornament. There will be no error.

And finally,
DUKE OF CHOU'S EXPLANATION OF THE LINES

• He can discard a carriage and walk on foot: righteousness requires that he should not ride.
• The freedom from error attached to the subject of the topmost line, with no ornament but the simple white, shows how he has attained his aim.

This last reading felt specifically relevant because, for four years before this relation, I was a nearly full-time traveler, hitchhiking thousands of miles, living on very little money thru volunteer work-exchange on organic farms.. this relation in the past 2 years has been a large shift in my way of life, not traveling on foot anymore, literally... and these final hexagrams changing, in the first line, seems to suggest that I return to my more nomadic lifestyle as a shift into myself and my own path, honoring what i feel inside.. which is hard, because i feel like within this situation, with this particular relationship, within me I am the two sisters living under the same roof, with their minds to different aims.. the water and the fire extinguishing each other.. i am full of contradiction and paradox and simply seeking to follow the most high guidance..

With all of this... please offer any insights or intuitive uploads so that you, as the reader, my friend I have not met yet, may be able to alleviate or lessen the suffering/confusion cycles of me and my partner.. to either fully immerse and continue to commit to this love at this time, or to take my own path up for some time. thank you for your time.

P.s. i spent over an hour writing this all up and at 98% completion it was completley erased... i was dumbfounded and discouraged... then i felt the humor of that it was all for me, therapeutic to type and view it all for me and me alone.. but then it came back a few minutes randomly after my acceptance.. beautiful..

thank you.

 

[rosada]

The best attitude to have towards your relation ship with X is to realize...

64. You are in a time of transition. There's a feeling that your original purpose in being together has completed but you don't yet know where you would like to go from here.
64.2 You have a sense that it's time to renegotiate what your intentions are for the future but you don't want to rush it.
64.6 A caution not to go overboard either in renewing your commitment or in finalizing an ending.
16. Either way life goes on.

How to be in the relationship with X?
22.1.6 - 15.
You want to be yourself without having to fulfill someone else's projections of who you ought to be.

Together these hexagrams suggest to me that you don't know where you're headed in your life right now so you feel uneasy encouraging your friend to assume a continuing partnership.

 

[Trojina]

The main and primary reading I would like help interpereting would be the thread title...

"how to be with this relationship with x?"​

Recieving 22.1.6 to 15 and its changing lines immediately felt intense...

Re this last one, the one in the title immediately made feel it just needs simplifying. I say that because of the 15 which asks you to handle what there is to handle just as it is, 15 asks you to deal with what is there which of course involves properly seeing what is there.

I heard someone on tiktok (yes I'm very highbrow) her name was Teal Swan and she may be just another new age prophet, I don't really know, but she said something I found interesting. She said stop trying to love people and instead try to understand them. Because she said love, well a child might love a starfish in the fish tank and to show that love the child might take it out of the tank and cuddle it and give it a blanket - which would kill it. And that's what we can do to other people with 'love'. It's common for people to say they love us when they have never actually seen us as we are. Being known, truly known, is love really. Do you, or anyone, want someone to show sweet feelings about who they think you are and call it 'love' or do you want someone who 'gets' you.

And 15 calls you to see things as they are and take action according to that. I see 15 as the main point here. With lines 1 and 6 changing the whole hexagram has been 'gone through' so to speak and the relating hexagram comes to the fore. So you've been through everything this relationship looks like(22), you know how it represents, what it represents, maybe there's been issues about what you call it between yourselves, what title it has, what it's 'reputation' is between you(22) All that is necessary in an important relationship, maybe any relationship, the relationship has to have a face (22).....It could be you have both done all that and you are now faced with what is there beyond the names for it.

It's almost like people marrying and as newly weds focusing on the representation of marriage, telling others they are married, thinking about their new status as married and then there's the reality of daily life together (15) and what that daily life needs from both of them. Also in 15 there's a reminder that we ourselves are not creating all this by ourselves, we are required to respond realistically to what is already there in our environment.


I just feel this answer may be staying it is now time to step away from the emphasis on the seen status of the relationship you represent to yourself and to her, all that naming stuff has been done. Now make it simpler, just see what's there and respond to it within that picture of it you both made. The complications surely will be tiring, constantly reassessing 'what is this?' whereas 'how are we going to actually live together today?' is more the way through now.


Your own interpretations are important also as you have pointed out there can be specific literal references to your situation only you know about.

 

[Hawk Song Strong]

The best attitude to have towards your relation ship with X is to realize...

64. You are in a time of transition. There's a feeling that your original purpose in being together has completed but you don't yet know where you would like to go from here.
64.2 You have a sense that it's time to renegotiate what your intentions are for the future but you don't want to rush it.
64.6 A caution not to go overboard either in renewing your commitment or in finalizing an ending.
16. Either way life goes on.

How to be in the relationship with X?
22.1.6 - 15.
You want to be yourself without having to fulfill someone else's projections of who you ought to be.

Together these hexagrams suggest to me that you don't know where you're headed in your life right now so you feel uneasy encouraging your friend to assume a continuing partnership.

thank you for your insight and feedback.

 

[Hawk Song Strong]

thank

Re this last one, the one in the title immediately made feel it just needs simplifying. I say that because of the 15 which asks you to handle what there is to handle just as it is, 15 asks you to deal with what is there which of course involves properly seeing what is there.

I heard someone on tiktok (yes I'm very highbrow) her name was Teal Swan and she may be just another new age prophet, I don't really know, but she said something I found interesting. She said stop trying to love people and instead try to understand them. Because she said love, well a child might love a starfish in the fish tank and to show that love the child might take it out of the tank and cuddle it and give it a blanket - which would kill it. And that's what we can do to other people with 'love'. It's common for people to say they love us when they have never actually seen us as we are. Being known, truly known, is love really. Do you, or anyone, want someone to show sweet feelings about who they think you are and call it 'love' or do you want someone who 'gets' you.

And 15 calls you to see things as they are and take action according to that. I see 15 as the main point here. With lines 1 and 6 changing the whole hexagram has been 'gone through' so to speak and the relating hexagram comes to the fore. So you've been through everything this relationship looks like(22), you know how it represents, what it represents, maybe there's been issues about what you call it between yourselves, what title it has, what it's 'reputation' is between you(22) All that is necessary in an important relationship, maybe any relationship, the relationship has to have a face (22).....It could be you have both done all that and you are now faced with what is there beyond the names for it.

It's almost like people marrying and as newly weds focusing on the representation of marriage, telling others they are married, thinking about their new status as married and then there's the reality of daily life together (15) and what that daily life needs from both of them. Also in 15 there's a reminder that we ourselves are not creating all this by ourselves, we are required to respond realistically to what is already there in our environment.


I just feel this answer may be staying it is now time to step away from the emphasis on the seen status of the relationship you represent to yourself and to her, all that naming stuff has been done. Now make it simpler, just see what's there and respond to it within that picture of it you both made. The complications surely will be tiring, constantly reassessing 'what is this?' whereas 'how are we going to actually live together today?' is more the way through now.


Your own interpretations are important also as you have pointed out there can be specific literal references to your situation only you know about.

Thank you for your insight and feedback.