Relationship advice live together 61> 2.6. >3

[IrSoria]

Hello
Can you help me in the interpretation of the hexagram 61 2.6. mutating to 3
A bit of context for my question a month ago I got into a relationship with a man 8 years older than me who is single and without commitment, apparently focused on his work.
Since we met, he was direct and proposed to live with him.
I asked iching, what advice can you give me about going to live with X.
Inside of me, I feel that it is too soon, but I also question other situations and find myself in the dilemma of whether to leave or not.
All this derived from the short time that we have been in a relationship.
He is 42 years old and I am 34, I don't know if that helps.
Hexagram 61 according to my interpretation speaks of being sincere and frank in the interaction either with myself or with others.
Hexagram 3 is germination something that sprouts.
I could interpret it as something that begins to be born between the two of them.
Lines 2 and 6 are difficult for me to interpret. Line 6 gives me a bit of a bad omen because I don't want to make a mistake by making a hasty decision.
I hope you can support me
Thank you.

 

[rosada]

I think 61.2 speaks to the sincerity of his feeling. Like you I think 61.6 warns against hasty decisions. I also wonder if it is a comment that he may be naive. Just because he is sincere good feelings alone aren’t enough to manifest a successful relationship.

A good partnership involves being able to negotiate. He is eight years older than you so you may feel a bit intimidated when trying to express your needs. You will feel even more powerless if you give up your home base to move in to his if you have not first established your equal authority. Note the resulting hexagram 3 Difficulty at The Beginning is a major red flag against trying to fast forward past this learning to negotiate stage. Read the individual lines of hexagram 3. They describe the back and forth negotiations that connect the two people and even then, when two are in agreement, it points out that life brings up challenges neither party will have had experiences in handling so all the more reason they have first at least gotten to know and trust each other as equals. That age difference makes it awfully easy for you to fall under his thumb just because you don’t know exactly how to speak up.

Pay attention to how small decisions are made now. Decisions like when to meet, what to have for dinner etc. Notice what happens when you are together. Do the lights turn green or is the restaurant closed? How do the two of you handle making small plans and dealing with mini setbacks? It’s easier to make adjustments when you know you can go back to your own house!

Feeling hesitant is a very reasonable response to his proposal and if he has any respect for you he will not be put off by your simply saying “I’m still in the Getting To Know You phase of this but I’m certainly glad we’re heading in the right direction.”

 

[IrSoria]

I think 61.2 speaks to the sincerity of his feeling. Like you I think 61.6 warns against hasty decisions. I also wonder if it is a comment that he may be naive. Just because he is sincere good feelings alone aren’t enough to manifest a successful relationship.

A good partnership involves being able to negotiate. He is eight years older than you so you may feel a bit intimidated when trying to express your needs. You will feel even more powerless if you give up your home base to move in to his if you have not first established your equal authority. Note the resulting hexagram 3 Difficulty at The Beginning is a major red flag against trying to fast forward past this learning to negotiate stage. Read the individual lines of hexagram 3. They describe the back and forth negotiations that connect the two people and even then, when two are in agreement, it points out that life brings up challenges neither party will have had experiences in handling so all the more reason they have first at least gotten to know and trust each other as equals. That age difference makes it awfully easy for you to fall under his thumb just because you don’t know exactly how to speak up.

Pay attention to how small decisions are made now. Decisions like when to meet, what to have for dinner etc. Notice what happens when you are together. Do the lights turn green or is the restaurant closed? How do the two of you handle making small plans and dealing with mini setbacks? It’s easier to make adjustments when you know you can go back to your own house!

Feeling hesitant is a very reasonable response to his proposal and if he has any respect for you he will not be put off by your simply saying “I’m still in the Getting To Know You phase of this but I’m certainly glad we’re heading in the right direction.”

Thank you very much for taking the time and answering me.
I really appreciate you.
Being honest is the only means by which I can ask for help.
Since no one can advise me from my close circle (family), since I think they do not take importance to my guide request.
I have been aware of attitudes when we are together, he has been blunt and has told me that he wants to live with me, he wants me to cook, to take care of the house, a full-fledged housewife.
I like that idea, because I did not grow up in a place like this and it is something that has powerfully called me to do so.
I am the daughter of a single mother, so I have always been with working women and absent men.
He has told me that he will dedicate himself to continue working and would like to have a family and that scares me, because I do not want to curtail my freedom to give my opinion or express myself or the simple fact of earning my own money and promises sometimes become illusory.

 

[rosada]

And don’t forget you can agree to move in with him without giving up your apartment!