Relationship Clarity

[tabitha]

Here's another relationship post - maybe someone has some input?

I got in touch with someone recently - I left a message, and let them know I'd be back in touch, but haven't. I thought - if he's interested, he'll be in touch. If it was me, I would. He hasn't. So, I asked: He hasn't been in touch - can you help me understand his perspective.

I got this - 51 changing to 24. I don't really understand this. Especially, since I asked a follow up question: Can I, should I do anything to strenghten this relationship? And received: 28 - 44.

There were some negative things in the past, some attraction, and I've initiated a more positive relationship (prior to this call).

I feel: wrong about asking his perspective. Not so great about being in touch again, and just wanted to be grounded.

Thanks for any advice.

 

[neegula]

Here's another relationship post - maybe someone has some input?

I got in touch with someone recently - I left a message, and let them know I'd be back in touch, but haven't. I thought - if he's interested, he'll be in touch. If it was me, I would. He hasn't. .

tabitha, there are some gentlemen who do not call if the woman tells them: i will call.
i, as a woman, i wuold "call" if i'm interested, but certain men do not want to appear intrusive. so that's probably why he did not call you.
i just felt in writing to you this.

i have some problems with english language in understanding what you wrote after, sorry, i can't help so much. (my mother tongue is italian).

changing lines in 51 didn't help?

 

[tabitha]

Thanks - and 51 follow up -

Hi -

Thanks so much for your perspective -

I guess ,first - 44 always seems negative. Then, I wasn't really sure how to interpret the changing lines of 51 - In my book (kwan yin) its Great Shock - and changing to 24 which is return.

I don't like giving myself false hope - so, seeking clarity.

 

[jesed]

Just in case the comment could be useful

1.- No... not always bad the 44. In fact, the less you think in terms of bad hexagram or good hexagram, the best will be your path with the Yi.

2.- Line 5.. he is under shock and hesitation. Can you blame him? She said she will be in touch; i've waited and nothing!

Best wishes

 

[tabitha]

relationship clarity follow up -

Hi -

I didn't think of that - no. (Sometimes I think I need a new i ching book too.)

Anyways, thanks.

 

[jesed]

Hi Tabitha

I dare to suggest you to try this dialogue with the Yi. 4 questions, in this order (the order has its reason)

1.- General diagnosis of the relation between X and I
2.- How is my position to the relation with X?
3.- How is X's position to the relation with me?
4.- Best thing for me to do

NOTE: so many people tends to skip questions 1 and 2, and go directly to 3 or 4. It's ok, of course..you can ask whatever you want. But I've find that following this order, one achieve greater clarity than asking only questions 3 or/and 4.

Best wishes

 

[tabitha]

O.K taken the dare -

Thanks - I've followed up, and here's what I got - Can you let me know if I've understood correctly ?

Its a bit different (not much) -

I asked: what is the general diagonsis between myself and him: 45.1 , and .6 t0 25
(wait - it's changing - to -- don't act impulsively)

How is my position with relationship to him: 5.2, 4 to 49
(some disharmony - to- don't expect anything now )

what is his position in relation to me?: 5.2, 5 to 36
(A sense of disharmony, positivity-to- holding firm to correctness and things working out).

What should i do? 44.2 - 10
(reserve, proceeding correctly in her attraction to - seeking consideration free of obligation)

Sigh - this is alot of work - I'd feel better just being and touch and meeting - should i just go for it ( or even just throw and ask if that's a good idea...)

Anyways, I'd appreciate input.

 

[jesed]

Just in case the comment could be of any use

I asked: what is the general diagonsis between myself and him: 45.1 , and .6 t0 25

45 is in the past, 25 is in the present.
Whatever happened between feb - april 2009 in the relation has great effects now.
Line 1 points to the first half of February, 2009 There was a huge desire to union, but also a lot of confusion, hesitation, doubts and even deshonesty.
Line 6 points to the second half of April 2009. Floods of tears. People got hurt, badly.

The present situation has its roots in that past. Now, something has happen without intenton; it just happen; but you need to remain free of intention.

How is my position with relationship to him: 5.2, 4 to 49

You are waiting, but without calm and rest. You want to change the actual status of the relation, but you are afraid to make it worse if you move. You can't decide to move forward or run away.

what is his position in relation to me?: 5.2, 5 to 36

He is also waiting, without calm. He wants to protect himself from being hurt again.

Please note that both of you has line 5.2: the gossip; still blaming one to each other?

Best wishes

 

[tabitha]

Wow -

Thank you - thank you so much for that outrageously accurate reading.