Relationship question 32 unchanging 9.3.4.5.6 to 54

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I have the feeling that my partner has someone else in mind, so I asked Iching: what does he feel for her? I got 32 unchanging. Can I interpret this as "commitment"?

Then I asked: What does he really feel for me? 9.3.4.5.6 to 54.
Line 4 speaks about sincerity. Line 5 is the only one that sounds really encouraging: "You are rich in your neighbour".
Line 3 pictures husband and wife rolling their eyes, line 6: "“If the superior man persists, misfortune comes,”. Editor comment from Dekorne also says : "The image of the wife in peril during a waxing moon suggests that continuing to push forward could result in an uncontrollable emotional release."
And 54 as a result makes me think I'm in a weak position.
I'd like to be wrong but I think I'm right. He still thinks about that girl and I'm just left there, like the marrying maiden facing the end of a cycle?... What do you think?

I asked "How will our relationship evolve?" and got again 54.1 changing to 40, Liberation. Weak position. But being humble, in the end all goes well?
Then "what's the best thing to do with him (in order to be happy)": 25 unchanging, simplicity, innocence. Just going with the flow?

Thanks a lot to anyone who'd like to give their take on this.

 

[Trojina]

You have a few choices in how to read this. As totally direct mind reading answers of his mind or as advice to you. I'm going to go with the 2nd option, as advice to you since 32uc really wouldn't seem to make sense with regard to the first option. Also it is always a preference IMO that Yi will answer you first.

I have the feeling that my partner has someone else in mind, so I asked Iching: what does he feel for her? I got 32 unchanging. Can I interpret this as "commitment"?

He is with you and is staying with you. That's your answer. More questions aren't really needed.

Then I asked: What does he really feel for me? 9.3.4.5.6 to 54. Line 5 is the only one that sounds encouraging. The other lines picture husband and wife quarreling, and a precarious balance. 54 as a result makes me want to cry.

To start with the relating hexagram is not 'the result', it is far more the surround of the question, your position in regard to it. So if we took this as a direct answer about what he feels it looks like he feels second place (54), is that possible? Remember the second place one is in in 54 need not be to another person, it could be to anything else in their lives that takes attention away from the partner. Do you have a demanding job or family for example? The reading as a whole really does look like being in 2nd place, being dependent upon something happening one cannot control very well.

Again it looks to me like this is answering more from your perspective though it might be his. It's the kind of situation where you're reliant on someone else's decision or waiting to see how things will turn out. All you can do in 9 is cultivate things in small ways, the rain hasn't come yet and until it does one is in a 54 place of not being in control. Line 6 shows there's really nothing more to do but rest and wait. Is he awaiting news about something, might that be it? Or is this answer just reflecting your position of being somewhat helpless here until things begin to resolve, the clouds come, it rains....but you can't make it rain.

I asked "How will our relationship evolve?" and got again 54.1 changing to 40, Liberation. Sad result or does it speaks about acceptance and to be humble, and in the end all goes well?

Doesn't look great but maybe you can make it through especially if you can accept being secondary to other interests/preoccupations or indeed people.


I don't think, especially given the 9 answer, you can draw any firm conclusions about whether he is wishing to be with someone else. The 32uc makes me think he's not going anywhere, things will remain as they are. However maybe the relationship is threatened somewhat by other factors taking first place and as I said this could be work/social life/family/health. It's worth looking at all the other things, apart from another woman, that mean you aren't putting each other first?

 

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You have a few choices in how to read this. As totally direct mind reading answers of his mind or as advice to you. I'm going to go with the 2nd option, as advice to you since 32uc really wouldn't seem to make sense with regard to the first option. Also it is always a preference IMO that Yi will answer you first.


He is with you and is staying with you. That's your answer. More questions aren't really needed.


To start with the relating hexagram is not 'the result', it is far more the surround of the question, your position in regard to it. So if we took this as a direct answer about what he feels it looks like he feels second place (54), is that possible? Remember the second place one is in in 54 need not be to another person, it could be to anything else in their lives that takes attention away from the partner. Do you have a demanding job or family for example? The reading as a whole really does look like being in 2nd place, being dependent upon something happening one cannot control very well.

Again it looks to me like this is answering more from your perspective though it might be his. It's the kind of situation where you're reliant on someone else's decision or waiting to see how things will turn out. All you can do in 9 is cultivate things in small ways, the rain hasn't come yet and until it does one is in a 54 place of not being in control. Line 6 shows there's really nothing more to do but rest and wait. Is he awaiting news about something, might that be it? Or is this answer just reflecting your position of being somewhat helpless here until things begin to resolve, the clouds come, it rains....but you can't make it rain.


Doesn't look great but maybe you can make it through especially if you can accept being secondary to other interests/preoccupations or indeed people.


I don't think, especially given the 9 answer, you can draw any firm conclusions about whether he is wishing to be with someone else. The 32uc makes me think he's not going anywhere, things will remain as they are. However maybe the relationship is threatened somewhat by other factors taking first place and as I said this could be work/social life/family/health. It's worth looking at all the other things, apart from another woman, that mean you aren't putting each other first?

Trojina, thank you SO much for your reply. You gave me a lot to think. Studying the answers I received, before you replied, I had edited a little bit my post (I didn't expect such a quick answer ) adding some interpretations. But the substance does not change a lot.
Yes, lately I've had some issues to deal with, things I can fix just day by day. Maybe I'm the first one who's not putting our relationship in the first place. If I look at him, I don't see any particular news awaiting.
About being dependent on others' decisions, I have this feeling near to him, as in a moment he could change his mind. But this could also be just a fear I have inside.
Thank you again

 

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You have a few choices in how to read this. As totally direct mind reading answers of his mind or as advice to you. I'm going to go with the 2nd option, as advice to you since 32uc really wouldn't seem to make sense with regard to the first option. Also it is always a preference IMO that Yi will answer you first.


He is with you and is staying with you. That's your answer. More questions aren't really needed.


To start with the relating hexagram is not 'the result', it is far more the surround of the question, your position in regard to it. So if we took this as a direct answer about what he feels it looks like he feels second place (54), is that possible? Remember the second place one is in in 54 need not be to another person, it could be to anything else in their lives that takes attention away from the partner. Do you have a demanding job or family for example? The reading as a whole really does look like being in 2nd place, being dependent upon something happening one cannot control very well.

Again it looks to me like this is answering more from your perspective though it might be his. It's the kind of situation where you're reliant on someone else's decision or waiting to see how things will turn out. All you can do in 9 is cultivate things in small ways, the rain hasn't come yet and until it does one is in a 54 place of not being in control. Line 6 shows there's really nothing more to do but rest and wait. Is he awaiting news about something, might that be it? Or is this answer just reflecting your position of being somewhat helpless here until things begin to resolve, the clouds come, it rains....but you can't make it rain.


Doesn't look great but maybe you can make it through especially if you can accept being secondary to other interests/preoccupations or indeed people.


I don't think, especially given the 9 answer, you can draw any firm conclusions about whether he is wishing to be with someone else. The 32uc makes me think he's not going anywhere, things will remain as they are. However maybe the relationship is threatened somewhat by other factors taking first place and as I said this could be work/social life/family/health. It's worth looking at all the other things, apart from another woman, that mean you aren't putting each other first?

I have to add a detail, about this particular girl I was thinking to: we met her once and it's quite possible we will meet her again, I just don't know when. Both me and my boyfriend already spoke about that.
This also looks like something he's waiting for... sadly!

Edit: and this is the reason why at first I thought about 32 being his commitment to her.

 

[Trojina]

If he is with you now in a long term relationship that is the 32, things continue as usual.

Re certainty and jealousy, I think from what you say that the 9.3.4.5.6>54 is that feeling you have of hanging on, wanting to be more certain. Line 6 gives very specific advice


'Already rained, already come to rest.
Honour the de contained.
Constancy of the wife, danger.
The moon almost full.
Noble one sets out to bring order: misfortune.'

That's saying at this point faith is needed as no more certainty is available, you have to see it that you have done as much as you can. You've questioned him and presumably he has reassured you? If he hasn't reassured you then that's another matter. I mean it's not good that you feel so insecure.